I am almost 14, and.. My mom enjoys playing God with my life. She complains about everything, yells at me, and acts like a frikkin' 2 year old. She thinks she's NEVER wrong. If I speak my mind on anything, and I mean ANYTHING, she threatens to take me out of public school and homeschool me so that I'll have no friends or socialization. She thinks it's fun to play with me like this, and she thinks it's just amazing to be in complete control of someone, but she's wrong. She complains about EVERYTHING I do. My hair, clothes, music, drawings, the way I do things, I mean it ALL. I try to not be a brat and just act civilized, but she just goes nuts with the idea of control. She wants to keep me right under her thumb, and it's really starting to bug me. What do I do?
2006-11-30 08:01:02 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I have told my dad, but she even gives him the "NEVER wrong" attitude. He's even admitted to me that she treats me way differently than she should.
2006-11-30 08:08:49 · update #1
At first I was thinking that you might have been suffering from the normal teen vs. parent scenario, until I read that you mom threatened to take you out of school and home school you as punishment. That is brutal. That does show a control freak. One thing I can say to do now is start working on your scholarship chances. Talk to a school counsellor and see what steps you can start to take to qualify for loans or grants when you get out of high school. If you start now, you will be miles ahead of everyone else when graduation comes. The goal here: You do not want to depend on your mother for money for college! She will still have a hold on you because she will threaten to not pay for college if you do not fly right. So, get your financing taken care of so that you do not have to depend on her. Heck, in a couple of years get a job flipping burgers and save every penny.
That is my advice for the future. For the present, I have no advice for you. You are sort of in a hard place now. Yet, time is on your side. Hold out and get to college on your own.
2006-11-30 08:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can guarantee you that your mom was probably rebellious when she was 14, and is soooooo afraid that you might do the same thing, but get hurt.
You probably don't see it, but things your mom did a couple years ago when you were young now seem like "CONTROL".
Try really hard to see that what she tries to control in you, is truly coming from her heart. She just covers it up with some strange monster-mom antics.
It is so hard to explain...you will understand when you have a daughter. And you will absolutely LOVE your mom for what she is doing right now, once you are older.
Try to surprise your mom. One day, when she is screaming....just hug her and tell her you love her, and you don't want to worry her. Just to see what she does. She probably won't know what to say!
2006-11-30 08:13:19 · answer #2 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 13 and it is your mom's job to set limits for you. It's hard to say from what you wrote if she is really mean, or if it is just your perception of the situation. Try to look at it from her point of view....she is trying to raise you to be responsible adult who can be independent and take care of herself. She also wants to keep you safe from the bad influences that are out there. True, you are your own person with your own thoughts and feelings, but you are a minor and it is her job to "control" you. Hang in there and remember she only wants the best for you.
P.S. Is your yahoo id based on AFI?? Is so, good song!!!
2006-11-30 08:05:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, you can't do anything! It's your mom. If you are really pissed ask Child Services and they will straighten the situation. Also think about what you do, maybe you are somehow wrong, maybe not. Anyway what I can tell you, it's impossible to make her stop, so be boss for yourself. If she asks you something gladly help, but if she gets in your life where she shouldnt ignore her or tell her.
2006-11-30 08:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by skullmaniac16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could tell her everything you just typed. Or you could give her a note if that's easier. Just tell her how you feel. You also always need to keep in mind that she is just looking out for you.
2006-11-30 08:05:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ændru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I buried mine but it took 78 years
Seriously, however when I needed help it wasn't available speak with a teacher at school they will try to get someone to help you
I know your pain xxxooo And to all the people who had a good
mother....you have NO idea..what physical and emotional abuse does to a human being for life.....NO IDEA
Also...just to let you know...I have to take medication for life
thanks to my control freak abusive mother.. =(
2006-11-30 08:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're only 14...it's normal but if she continues till your 18,you'll need some help!
my mom is quite abusive,i've been thru a few breakdowns because of her...you have to protect yourself...
i'm 22now and she still wants to be in control...i don't even care anymore...i just pretend i'm ok with it and everytime i can do something for me i do it...
i'm just waiting to finish college and leave home...
don't let her ruin your life but don't fight too much,it would please her!!!
2006-11-30 08:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by Billie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to respect and obey her. She just loves you so much and doesnt want anything in the world to hurt you. If anything ever did hurt you she feels the pain X10
2006-11-30 08:06:06 · answer #8 · answered by susanne l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They die early from high blood pressure. These are things you will laugh at when you get older. Study in school and move out when you can, lol
2006-11-30 08:05:58 · answer #9 · answered by Rockford 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to your Dad about it. its a start.
your MOM SOUNDS FAMILIAR
2006-11-30 08:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋