Or is this just proper grown up life?
I've lost my drive and I'm blaming it on the fact I'm a SAHM and spend a lot of my time washing his pants, cleaning the loo when he misses, rinsing the bath after him and yadda yadda...
2006-11-30 07:51:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stop cleaning up after him.
Wash his clothes, but stop cleaning after him for everything else.
I did that with my hubby before we were married. He started cleaning up after himself.
We have been married eleven years and he still cleans up after himself.
2006-11-30 07:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by Nancy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's one of the lazy ones. this is was always nature's reason for evolving jealousy. once most men realise that 'she's here to stay' then this somehow equates with 'i can relax now'
there's no retention strategy, no sense of positive jealousy to help him renovate his feelings and his attitudes towards you. so they fall into disrepair and this leads to mistreatment. it's a form of abuse to leave you to do that sort of thing.
if i were you after spending so long trying to get him to behave, i would go on holiday and leave him a note with your grievances telling him that you're "going off to live a life where i don't have to do any of that for a little while just to see what it feels like again and how much i would enjoy it." no more no less. so he can't talk fairly talk about your desire to leave him and so he becomes aware again of the possibility.
it's not an unreasonable thing to expect. you married a husband that was meant to support you, you didn't marry a family pet.
it's not acceptable for you to live in a house where such things are not done, so someone has to do them, and you're forced to if he doesn't. how would he enjoy having to do that for you every day?
i could go on. many of us would love to have a partner of your calibre on this issue, but we don't, we have to wait. he's assured of one and he's abusing the situation. it really gets my goat.
2006-11-30 20:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it does tend to wear a woman out. Not to mention feel like a maid. Tell him, sit him down, you need help around the house, you feel undesirable, like a maid, etc. Don't let it go. It happened with me and my husband and I told him I would leave if he didn't start paying attention to my needs too.
2006-11-30 15:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's really enough to piss you off isn't it. Dirtbags. Yes, having to wipe his piss up off the floor definetly turns me off. Laundry I don't mind doing, I have to wash my own anyways. I definetly wouldn't hurt for them to clean up after themselves, even if just a little bit. I'm your gf, fiance, wife, whatever it may be, not your mother. God, they are so gross sometimes.
2006-11-30 15:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i dont clean up after my man, we have switched roles he is a stay at home dad doing dishes and cleaning and even cooking the dinner
2006-11-30 19:06:23 · answer #5 · answered by tjtwix1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the love is lost
2006-11-30 15:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does. You should vote me best answer and I'll come round and either a)do all your chores for you or b) give you back your sex drive.
2006-11-30 15:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by inquisitivemindquestioner 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah for sure it does. have a nice relaxed chat and ask him to tidy up after himself a bit more. that's what i did and my chap is reformed. loving it!
2006-11-30 16:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by Lily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your looking after an invilid. tell him to clean up after himself the lazy sh1t!
2006-11-30 15:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ha Haaaa Ha Ha!........Your only spot on luv! x
2006-11-30 15:59:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋