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Question

Any advice on my best friend?
I have known my best friend (girl) for 2 years now. I am a guy. We used to be so close, and did absolutely everything together. Now she has a new boyfriend, who she told me about even before they got together. She does everything with him now. When he is not free she decides to text, phone or meet me just to staisfy me, not meaning it . Basically only when convienent for her.
I have told her many times how I feel, and she does not listen and always has an answer. I have texted her recently again, saying I miss the old days, the fun, and said also that I am not trying to be awkward but only telling the truth. She hardly ever replies to my texts now, and we never meet up alone now. I hate her boyfriend for taking all my time, and am just fed up with how I have been treated. She may be nice to me, but I have just lost interest really... and not sure if we should be friends anymore...

Answer 1

I am glad to know you have realized she is playing you and you have lost interest. Good thinking because you are right.
she will never be the true love for you.

Answer 2

A friend is a friend, no matter what comes between you. But some people are not willing to 'share' their friend with others. When that happens, sooner or later, the one who won't share their friend with other people will be left by the wayside. Nor do I think gender has much to do with the problem. I think the one who cannot, or will not share their friend, is the one who has a developmental hurdle to climb. All relationships require trust, in one form or another, and if you cannot trust your friend to be with others, seemingly abandoning you, then you are the one who has to learn to trust, that you will not be abandoned, even if it appears that you are. I usually see this problem in the young teen years, but some people get stalled in their development, and trust is something you must have to be a balanced personality and form any relationship with others. I don't know how you learn it, except to keep trying 'to let go' until you get better at it. Some times you lose, but when you win. it's a 'hum dinger"!

Answer 3

you should remain friends because you still have history with this girl but you also have to understand that she has a new and different type of relationship now you cant expect her to not have a boyfriend being that you two werent together that way you just need to find a girlfriend or hang out with some other friends that you have...she'll be back when if her relationship fails because she will need your support and i hope you can give it to her...in life things change especially while growing up

Answer 4

Maybe you need to move on. It is normal for someone to sort of put their friends on hold a bit when they have a love interest....
Try not to take it too personally. You just need to decide if you want to be there for her when her boyfriend is no longer around.
maybe it is time to make some new friends.
Are you sure you only like her as a friend?....good luck....it'll ger easier.

Answer 5

sounds like you like her more than a friend. when i start dating a new guy i usually see him more than my girlfriends for a little bit but it always calms down and things go back to normal. if you were that great of friends she will remember soon enough and will want things back to normal. you shouldnt give her a hard time or bug her about it though or it will just push her further away

Answer 6

i think you like her more than just a friend that is how it sounds and maybe if you like her you should let her know how you feel and see what happens maybe she is with him b/c she doesnt think she will get anybody else

Answer 7

think it is time you move on and found your own best friend