Why is she being like this?Serious answers only pls....What should I do???Read all....Advice?

Question

We’ve not spoken for 5 days now-what should I do??The last thing she said to me was:

She said friends don’t take time apart from each other,that I should get a 1)“grip”, for me to 2)“sort my head out” and to stop causing this 3)“conflict”---MEANING?

Will she get in touch?What she thinking/feeling?What should I do???

PREVIOUS INFO:
I got too close to my female friend and I told her I had feelings for her. She decided it wud be best to remain friends.Also said:

1) "I can't imagine you not being in\a part of my life" MEANING???
2)"I don't deserve your feelings"? MEANING???

Positive or negative comments? Significant?

I then told her a few weeks later that I needed some time away from her and she DISAGREED\WAS RUDE TOWARDS ME as a result---does it mean anything???Why?

My reason was that she was behaving odd towards me and I thought it best we have some time apart.Especially for me to get over my feelings.

Have said I value our friendship and I mean that.

If don't want to answer-DON'T!!!

Answer 1

It means I like you very much but I'm confused.Give her time to sort herself out while you try to spend time with other people or do other things to occupy your time. Within this period if both of you really want to take your relationship further I'm sure your feelings will tell and both of you would be happy. Best of luck.

Answer 2

For all womankind I AM SO SORRY.... This lady isn't interested in a romantic relationship with you, she might want to be your friend but she isn't being very upfront with you. Basically she wasn't expecting to hear what you told her and isn't the type of person who can just say no, it's not for us, and leave. She obviously felt guilt at turning you down and felt she had to reassure you in some way but that only results in confusion.

Women think too much that's what's wrong with us. If you try to start figuring us out now you'll have a very unsafisfactory life, I don't even understand most women and I am one!!!

Answer 3

It sounds like she might be a bit confused about how she feels about the new development. Try to do things with other people for now, and focus on something you enjoy doing. If you don't hear from her in about a week, give her a call and tell her you miss her. Give her some time to sort out how she feels.

Answer 4

well, when you told her you had feelings for her, and then like 2 weeks later told her that you needed time apart, this says that you're really sending her mixed signals about what you really want from her. You need to make yourself completely clear on what you want, especially if it's a relationship, and then she needs to sort out that in her life, too. She could just like the idea that you like her, but when you say that you need time away it might be making her scared that she's gonna lose you.

Answer 5

tell her its not fair that she expects you to get over your feelings for her immediatly just because SHE doesnt want a relationship with you thats more than just friends. if she was your friend, she would understand how confused you are and how you need to not see her for a while to get your head straightened out. in all honesty, she sounds like a b*tch. she wants things HER way. but you arent going to get over your feelings. you can not act on them, but they will always be there if you truely feel that way, you cant just make them stop. i would just give her a call and see if you guys can hang out or do what you normally did together and just see what happens. maybe she secretly has feelings for you too, but doesnt want to ruin a friendship. that happened with me and a friend. he told me over and over and over and over how much he liked me, but i just saw him as a friend at first. after a while, i reliezed i really did like him, but i didnt want to risk the friendship if the relationship didnt work out, so i never really acted on it (we kissed once, but that was that, and nothing more every came from it)

but i would let her know that you found it rude how she treated your honesty, and if she was your friend she would be understanding and you can move past it and still have a good friendship. my best friend and i have had some nasty fights (not the same friend but still) where we have said some REALLY bad stuff, but we just let each other know what we were feeling and we've remained best friends for over 20 years

Answer 6

You are getting mixed signals from this girl because she has conflicting feelings about you. She doesn't want you too close, but she doesn't want you to disappear, either. Personally, I think that she is stringing you along while waiting for something better to come along. If you want a serious relationship, you would be better off finding another girl who would not want to be only friends. With this girl, I would wait until she contacted me, and then I would tell her that you don't enjoy being a yo-yo.

Answer 7

sounds to me like youve done the most risky thing of all and pushed a friendship too far.

Friendships don't usualy recover longterm from this even if it is ok at the begining.

The options are either sort it out and get with her (the feelings mutual cos she is gettin arsey about it) or get down the pub and get some new birds.

Sorry but the harsh truth

Good luck

Answer 8

You're in a pickle and no mistake. The same thing happened to me.

Basically shes taking the fact that you have feelings for her on board and is trying to get out of the "just friends zone" into the "mmmm hmmmmmmmmm zone".You're screwed really - if you tell her that you want to go back to being friends she'll freak out and probably never forgive you on one level and if you persist you'll both end up getting weirded out forever. So i'd probably just come clean and say sorry i have feelings for you but it would just ruin what we had and i really really really want that back because i'd hate myself forever if we lost touch. Please.


Something like that i reckon. But hey its up to you. Good luck anyway.

Answer 9

My advice is to:
1) Get a grip
2) Sort your head out and stop causing conflict - meaning trouble!
3) Leave these poor women alone!
4) Get some therapy
5) Grow up
6) Be more respectful of women next time!

Answer 10

You sent her some mixed signals. She must value your friendship and in telling her that you want some time without her, she might feel as though you might not want to be her friend since she didn't have you same feeling. Its not all you, she sent some mixed signals as well. You two need to sit and chat about your friendship. I think that it will do you both good.