why is gf mad at me....?

Question

my gf's mad at me because on the way to her nephew's birthdya (he's turning 7) she told me to stop off and get a card and a small gift. and i int have much time so i just grabbed the first things i saw.. i got him a small switch blade. i figure he could ddefend himself. nobody lied that though, now my gf is mad at me.....

what do ido????

Answer 1

That was a thoughtful gift. I have no idea why she would be mad. You are totally right on this one.

Coach

Answer 2

I'd tell her two things:

1- People get presents for kids that they think they would've thought was really cool at that age, so Im geussing you would've loved that kind of present as a little kid and honestly thought you were doing a cool thing for him.
2- Everyone makes mistakes, you obviously didnt think about all the problems that could come from giving a kid a dangerous weapon, you sound like a nice person, I don't think you mean any harm. Unfortunately, its not as simple as handing a boy something fun to carve with or just something to show off to his friends- we live in a pretty scary world and some little 7 yr olds out there can do pretty terrifying things with a switchblade. If he shows his friends tho, the moms will think there is something wrong with him and maybe even not let their kids play with him. The school could get involved..etc... People are just so scared anymore, you just can't do something as simple as giving a kid a boyish gift like that. I know you meant well or you wouldn't have done it. Anyway, I'd just tell the gf that you will definitely take the time the next time to just do what she asked you to do so that everyone can be happy! Poor guys out there just can't win can ya??

Answer 3

I am sorry dude, but the boy is only seven. That is not a gift you would give for a young child. First of all if I were your Gf, (I wouldn't get mad) but I would think it was a weird gift for a young boy. Something like a video game, or a small toy would be much more acceptable. Also It could just be that she wasn't expecting that kind of gift because it wasn't what she asked you to do. I wouldn't be mad. But If i were a boy, that would be a pretty cool gift. Heck when i was that age I looked for them.. But ne way,
What were your intentions. Hopefully you didn't just grab it because it was cheap. If you put thought into that is what counts. But you also have to be open minded about the type of presents accepted.
~its not that big of a deal. she probably just thinks that was a little inconosiderate. She will get ove it. (hey does the kid like it?)
Good luck

Answer 4

Well it's pretty obvious why she's mad a you. a switchblade is not the greatest gift for a 7 year old. Tell her your sorry, you were rushing trying to find a good gift and at the time it never crossed you mind how dangerous a switchblade for a 7 year old was, but now you realize your mistake, and say you're really really sorry. Hope it helps. But next time just stick to some boardgames or toy cars!!

Answer 5

:) just fess up that under the circumstances, u made a bad choice. that's all u have to do, seriously.

under all that denial, under all that protest, u know that getting a switchblade is Probably not the BEST gift u could've gotten. therefore, just take responsiblity for ur actions. that is how u will SHOW and PROVE to ur girlfriend that u are someone who can be Trusted to do the right thing, as well as learn from his mistakes.

btw....remember, a woman needs to know that she can DEPEND on her man to make Good Decisions. esp ones that affect the family, etc. the more bonehead things u do w/o thinking, the less she will be Able to respect you. =T. but at least if u take responsiblity for the bonehead things and *try* to learn from it, at least she can respect that about you.

and think of it this way.... if she doesn't like ur "quick thinking" ideas, the less she will even ask you to be there for those kinds of things. u have to learn how to think in a way that is productive and healthy and conducive to her, and her family. good luck

Answer 6

Unless you are trained in knife-fighting you are usually just as likely to be stabbed as the other individual. From losing the switchblade and having it used on yourself.

She will get over it in time. You just need to go through the standard guy drill: talk it out with her, try not to piss her off too much more on the subject because she will probably be stubborn in her views, and hope it blows over quickly.

Plus she could have given you suggestions! Good luck

Answer 7

You got him a switchblade? Are you an idiot? Did you tell her that you grabbed the first hing you saw? If so, WRONG ANSWER! She probably thinks that you didn't even care for her family. That's not good. Try to make it up to her by sending him something more practical and apologizing to the kid and the family. Better luck next time screw up.

Answer 8

Well first off, you have no common sense. A 7 year old with a switch blade!!! Is he supposed to become a gangster also. Why not an AK47 he could defend himself better. Think CHILD not master criminal!!!!!!!! Your g/f is right to be upset and you should apologize to her and the child and his family.

Answer 9

okay...its really REALLY important to girls that their BF LOVE kids, and im not saying u dont, but they also want their family to notice that you love kids and are a nice person...presenting her nephew with this gift did not help...this is too dangerous for a 7 year old and you don't know if their parents allow him to see or use violent things like this...YES they are very usefull...and his parents may have ACTED like they were OKAY with it, when really they gosipped about it later...its not a bad thing but your gf was probably embarassed and held a grudge against you for it...good luck though.

Answer 10

Hello! a switchblade for a 7 year old! C'mon dangerous.....