Last weekend I went to a bachlorette party with a couple of girls. We were having a blast until I looked up and saw him. Its been 12 years since we broke up, but I got those damn feelings of butterflies in my stomach etc. I got the courage to talk to him outside (the bar music was way to loud). We talked about old times for about an hour and got a lot of things off our chest. Yes we are both happily married. We even talked about our sex history and how great and creative we were. Now thats all I can think about. I don't mind keeping some of the memories but this is driving me crazy. I'm even having dreams about him.
I can't help but think about what it would be like if I had one hot experience now that we are older and wiser. BUT I WONT since Im married.
Part of me will always love him for he was my first and I was well over him until now.
If I see any of my other ex's I dont feel this way, am I losing it?
Please give me serious answers, and yes I'm faithful too.
2006-11-30 07:23:13 · 16 answers · asked by countrygalsline 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that no matter what you are always going to have feelings for that one special person..No i dont think that your crazy, I just think you that you are remembering the times you shared together which made you feel nice.It is perfectly normal in my opinion to still have feeelings or memories of your ex that is just human nature especially if you have been intimate with them..The best advice I can give you is just to leave things how they are you admire from a distance..There was a reason you guys broke up and there is also a reason that you guys are meeting when you are fully commiting relationship.Just please dont think that it is fate or something because if you take a chance on fate you might just lose everything.I hope i helped
2006-11-30 07:36:09 · answer #1 · answered by baby_gurl20076 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well yeah i had the same problem and right now i'm stuck 2 I think that if you stil fell feelings 4 him talk 2 him and try to take something out of him then if u don't LYK the person u r married w/ get a diverse!! That's the best I have hope it helps!!
2006-11-30 07:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by Miley C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First boyfriends are rough. He was probably your first true love. But that was in the past and you both are married now. You should try to think about your husband instead of your ex. Thank about the good times you have with him. You married him for a reason. maybe it's a good time to rekindle the flames with your husband.
2006-11-30 07:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Almost everyone of us here experienced that kind of feeling. As the saying goes " first impression is lasting". Heehaw...he was your first in everything...the first guy that made your heart beat faster, the first to give you the first kiss...the first partner that brought you to "cloud 9" ( you know what I mean)...the first one to give you your heartache. So , it's just but natural to have his impression imprinted deep within your subconsciousness...implanted into the depths of your heart and mind because he was your "FIRST". It's from him that you learned how sweet it was to feel the searing pain of womanhood and everything that makes you what you are now. So , relax...and accept the fact...that no matter what...you will never ever forget him because...he was your first...but never be your last. Smile and be happy!
2006-11-30 07:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by dimma59 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of all the bad things he has evere done. All the annoying quirks. How selfish he was. How lucky you are that you don't have to be with someone like him anymore. Start being more romantic with your husband. Knock the ex off the pedestal and put your husband on it.
2006-11-30 07:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by QueenofLeon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. STAY FAITHFUL... That is VERY wise of you! Noone gets over their first love, especially if it was intense. I know mine was. Even when I see him, my heart jumps... but I know in my heart that he is NOT the same boy I once loved. He is an entirely different person that has almost nothing in common with that boy I knew. We are good friends and stay in touch, In fact, Im friends with his girlfriend now. I just keep myself aware that people change, Noone is the same person they were 10-20 yrs ago. Its just not possible. Good luck. STAY WISE!
2006-11-30 07:26:46 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was your first love. He will always be a part of your life. you are dreaming about him etc because you are trying so hard to suppress him. you are feeling guilty for going over old times with him. this is normal and you are ok. no one ever forgets their first love.
2006-11-30 07:28:15 · answer #7 · answered by pirategirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, well i dont know why he's your ex but I feel as if he is the one for you. Usually over time people get over things but if you still feel love towards him then maybe he was the one for you. MAYBE. However to be fair to the one you are with....i suggest you stay far away from your ex as possible. unless you know in your heart that you want this guy back.
2006-11-30 07:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
JUST DON'T GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO BE WITH HIM. LIKE YOU SAID YOUR BOTH MARRIED. HE WILL ALWAYS BE SPECIAL TO YOU, BUT YOU'LL JUST SMILE AND REMEMBER AND LET IT GO AND TELL YOUR HUSBAND HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HIM AND HE'S THE BEST THING TO EVER HAPPEN TO YOU.
2006-11-30 07:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
here is my opinion. make a break-up box. burn all of the stuff you have left of him and put the ashes into the box. then bury the box in the backyard.
2006-11-30 07:27:55 · answer #10 · answered by maggie s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋