I have been talking to my bf for 9 months almost 10. Before we started talking he was talking to this pregnant white girl ( the baby is not his) but he told me that she was just someone he had sex with no feelings involved. She bought him everything he wanted and she had a car so she would take him anywhere he wanted to go at the drop of a hat. After we started talking he said that they were only friends but he would use her to get whatever he wanted. Over the summer she started living with him (he stays at home with his mom) because his mom wanted to help her cause her baby was takin away by her family until she got on her feet. I got pregnant by him in july and she has been jealous of me because I have him now and was pregnant with his child (she's in love with him). While me and my bf was at the mall she saw us and tried to get loud with us even said she was gonna kill me and my baby. He said she was crazy and was gonna stop bein her friend but when i had a miscarraige the same
2006-11-30 07:15:18 · 17 answers · asked by Ilovehim 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
night I heard him tell her he loved her!!!! He said he just said it to keep her around and buy him things but that really hurt me. Now im pregnant again with his child, and they are still friends even though she is the reason him and two of his friends arent friends anymore because ****** them but claims she loves my boyfriend. Am i over reacting because they are still friends even though he tells me that she aint **** and never will be ****?
2006-11-30 07:15:36 · update #1
no i would think that you would have taken the hint and knocked the girl out by now. good luck and get a better boyfriend.
2006-11-30 07:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are too smart for him. You do not have to take his sloppy seconds. Try to stop getting pregnant (there is such a thing as free birth control) and try to get on with your life. There will be some man who values you more than some b that has the bucks. You seem to have what it takes to be on your own, even if you are raising a child. I've been there, it's hard, but it's still better than being with some loser that doesn't even have enough ambition to support himself. Obviously he will never support you or any child you create together.
2006-11-30 07:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by ladylj5748 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-08 00:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by hemmingway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everyone else says, your best bet is to dump him.
But the fact that you are pregnant again does change things. Have him get rid of the other girl, explaining to him that you don't feel safe with her around. Remember, he is supposed to put you first and the baby, not her. If he can't do that, and keeps making up excuses, think of what kind of person he really is. Do you really want someone lying his whole life, making up excuses later in life, when it comes time to pay bills, to watch the kids? Do you really want someone like him to set an example for your child?
You need to talk to him, and explain the things you don't like, or dump him. He is obviously putting this other girl before you, and you shouldn't have to put up with that.
2006-11-30 07:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by only_one_vince 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you choose to be intimately involved with someone who treats people the way this man does, you get what you deserve.
He tells you "he has sex with no feelings involved" with this woman, he told you that he used her to get what he wanted from her, such as gifts and free car rides.
He has told you so much about who he is, that he uses people and lies to them, and even tells them he loves them when he doesn't!
Why on earth would you think he would treat you any better?
He won't. You can do much better. Find someone who treats other people in his life the way you would like to be treated. Find someone who doesn't lie and tell people he loves them just to get free stuff.
2006-11-30 07:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by EmLa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a user and stringing you both along. You are settling for second best and need to ask yourself why you believe his obvious lies.
I cannot for the life of me figure out why you would have a child with a child. What a tough life in store for you & your baby, with a non-committed, loser daddy.
Kick his butt to the curb and sue for child support after the baby comes.
2006-11-30 07:20:52 · answer #6 · answered by Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a real loser and a leech. You need to get rid of him before he starts teaching your child his values. Give your unborn child a chance at a normal life without the Jerry Springer-like antics.
2006-11-30 07:22:41 · answer #7 · answered by Cara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your overreacting at all, matter of fact I would be like its either me or her, her threating to kill you and your baby was awful, not the kind of situation I would want to bring a child into. That is a very sad friendship, friends don't use friends.
2006-11-30 07:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by oooooh!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart leave his a$$ right now!
Do you really want to be with a man that says I love you to anyone??? Do you really want to be with a man that admits to using someone?
Your BF is a loser for taking advantage of this girl and her love for him. To be honest, he probably does love her, why else would she continue to be in his life.
You should really re-evaluate your feelings for him because from what I read, he's already proven that he doesn't deserve or love you enough to leave this girl alone.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 07:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by s_sill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uhh.. yeah I would dump his *** in a second. All that drama is not worth it especially if you are pregnant. Besides it sounds like he can't even make it on his own, how do you expect him to raise a child?? Good Luck hun. Just my opinion.
2006-11-30 07:20:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
seems to me he is playing both of ya'll. He needs to grow up and you need to move on...even if you do have his baby. He's a loser. He is making up stupid excuses for his actions and you are being just as stupid for either believing them or staying with him. Get away from him. Have some respect for yourself.
2006-11-30 07:33:51 · answer #11 · answered by volcomgrly23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋