im really fed up with my life?

Question

I just feel so low i dont know what to be doing ive ran around after people for years and i just dont want to do it anymore Im bored frustrated sad the lot !!Family members are ill and I cant stand to watch them deteriorate any more! I get totally washed over by my emotions I have 2 gorgeous sons at school and I need to go back to work but cant find a job to fit in with the hours I have to change my very dowdy rut !!!!! Help me Im having this moan even if you all tell me to shut up no one else here to liten but the kids and i wouldnt dare xxx

wow people are so lovely what a quick response i dont feel so alone now thank yu allxxx

Answer 1

First, there could be a chemical reason for this feeling of helplessness. Do you think it could be hormones? Take that into consideration.

Second, try not to look at everything in one big lump. Choose just ONE thing, and address it. Is it worth getting super upset about? YES? Okay, then think about what could make it better.

If you are up to it, go on to the next thing that is upsetting you. If you can't do anything about it, you have to let it go for now.

Do you know the Serenity prayer?
God grant me the power to change the things I can, to accept the things I can't change, and the wisdom to know the difference. Put priorities on your troubles and sort them in your mind, according to what you can realistically do with them.

There are many things that we cannot change. Ill, deteriorating family members are one of those things. I don't know what is wrong with that person (drugs, alcohol, cancer), but I can tell you that I have had experience in terminal illness and debilitating addiction in family.

Are you upset about this person being uncomfortable? How you will cope after their death? Or about this person drinking to their death? Without knowing details, it is hard to help you in a specific way.

You have done the right thing in reaching out for help AND by counting your blessings (sons).

As for the job thing: What do you LOVE to do? Find a way to make money doing it (as long as it's legal). You will be happy, I promise.

Answer 2

It's tough to go through a transitional period. Give yourself a break first. Take a vacation - even if it's just for a weekend. Go alone - by yourself somewhere you can reconnect with your own spirit and heart. You need to listen to what YOU need and want from deep inside yourself. You have given yourself away to your sons, your family, the world around you.... now it's time to focus back on yourself. If you respond well to self-help books, try reading some books by Jack Canfield or others like him. You sound frazzled and frustrated. Perhaps meditation or yoga would be good to slow down the rythym of your life so that you can focus on what is present and what is important. It is amazing - if you just change one thing, it will start the snowball effect and before you know it, you will be happier, calmer, more fulfilled and energized.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Go volunteer at a homeless shelter or a soup kitchen or something. Maybe go help some kids with disabilities. I did those things when I went through a rough time and all of a sudden the world just looked like a totally different place. I started noticing things like how pretty the clouds really were and how great it was to hear my kids laughing. Once you realize life could be worse you will realize yours isn't so bad.

Just remember it takes more muscles to frown then it does to just turn around and b*tch slap someone! Don't let others bring you down girl....When you can't enjoy life enjoy your kids!!!

Answer 4

Is this a fairly new feeling? If so, do you have an idea of what happened to cause it to start? There could be a medical reason to explain how you are feeling, perhaps it may be a good idea to make an appointment with a doctor--not sure where you are located, but many towns have mental health clinics, and if affording one is a problem most of them accept insurance and many have a sliding scale payment system. If that is not something you are able, or willing to do, there are many members of the clergy who you could speak with, some even if you are not a member of their church. I certainly hope this helps you, if you would like you can message me if you want to talk--I usually keep my messenger on-line all the time. (same name as this)

Answer 5

Me too. Only difference is my sons have aspergers (although they are still gorgeous!) and need a lot of extra support as they find it hard to make friends and need more help at school. My husband doesn't live at home any more - it's really hard to keep smiling sometimes....so I don't. I learned how to play bridge a few years ago and going out to play a few times a week keeps me relatively sane. Finding a chum to have a cuddle with or a drink with is worth it's weight in gold. In the meantime remember: THIS TOO SHALL PASS. and BELIEVE that one day you'll feel free again.....

Answer 6

just put one foot in front of the other....make a change in your life....getting a job is the right first step because it will give you something to focus on, a sense of accomplisment each day and another source of income...it will allow you to do simple things like go out an buy a new outfit or two.....dye your hair, wear a toe ring...have your nails done...get a facial...go to lunch with a girlfriend (so you can "cry" on her shoulder or have her over for dinner, dvds, girl talk and a half gallon of ice cream with two spoons...anything that makes you smile whenever you think about it....you need smiles right now

Answer 7

i've got confidence precisely comparable to you hun, i don't have many acquaintances and that i've got not any social existence and that i don't get to fulfill men. i certainly like this guy too, yet i do no longer think of something would come of it. I have not any motivation to do something with my existence the two. consistent with hazard come across a job that way you are able to save busy and meet new human beings or connect some golf equipment or communities that pastime you including theatre or activities. consistent with hazard connect a wellbeing club, that way you are able to fulfill individuals of the needed intercourse (i don't understand once you're male or lady). thinking certainly continuously facilitates and it facilitates to be surrounded by advantageous human beings. Alos human beings choose to be around people who're advantageous, smile and be advantageous and human beings will choose to be around you. I even have confidence in waiting for the splendid guy, yet you are able to no longer sit down around waiting for them to come again, you have have been given to bypass obtainable and positioned your self obtainable. additionally going to espresso shops is a large concept and in case you notice somebody you like you may get conversing to them. as an occasion in case you notice a warm guy reading a e book, ask him what he's reading. i'm sorry i don't have plenty different solid suggestion, yet issues would be ok have confidence me. i've got confidence which you're able to journey the lows until eventually now your journey the ups. desire I helped :) x

Answer 8

Thank you some times i feel like im the only one feeling that way and all i can say is spend time on your boys, And never forget to take care of your self do something for your self that makes you feel good

Answer 9

Hi country girl hope you are feeling better now you have to stay positive don't let that negativity get the better of you,
I am fighting my own battles with my illness and find it so hard on my own it seems at times that no one understands or seems to care which saddens me but i try to stay positive which helps me get through Another day. love and best wishes to you hippie.

Answer 10

sounds like you need a break!!...take a vacation!!....if you can't afford it right now, maybe just have a relaxing day for yourself...take a break from your life for a few hours....do something you would normally never do, break up your routine....go shopping in a store you've never been in....wear an outfit you wouldn't normally wear, wear your hair up if you normally wear it down....make a ficticious name for yourself and pretend you're some-one else (some-one with no problems!!) for an hour or two........have a spa day...(make your bathroom the spa if you can't afford going to one)....do your fingers and toes, nice bubble bath (with candles of course)....even if you go to your favorite bath and body store and spend $50 on lotions and sprays and nail enamel it's till a couple hundred bucks cheaper than a spa trip.....take a break and take care of yourself...have fun!!