OK. this is going to sound really small and petty but its really bothering me. I have a facebook profile (its just another myspace site) and I think I want to shut it down. I was sort of pressured to go on it and also I wanted to but the whole thing is driving me insane and making me depressed. I'm the kind of person, who I like everybody and everybody has to like me. So if I have a friend on there I feel like I have to be friends with their friends, and their boyfriends and girlfriends or they'll think I'm a ahole, but then again I don't always know these friends of friends and I worry that I'll get rejected, and I fear that so much. It always bothers me and makes me depressed. Especially sicne one person accepted my friend request one night and then removed me a few hours later and that really bothered me. I've been depressed ever since, paranoid that everybody just hates me. I also worry that people think I'm arrogant because I added so many people in so little time, people i don't think they knew that I knew that well. And I added all of them. I don't want them to think I'm arrogant. especially since I'm not really popular, sort of liked I'd say, but not really popular, and I'm friends with some of the people the more popular kids are friends with, like seniors that graduated last year. I've just been paranoid about that, and I'm depressed, and I don't really think taking it down would make me feel any better but I just think then I'd be out of this whole thing. I also don't know if there is any "social" damage that getting rid of it would reverse it, not change it, or even make it worse. But I mean everybody has one now, and people added me as a friend just yesterday and invited me to be in an internet group and I don't want to be rude and take it down the day after. And a few people seemed happy that i got it just a few days ago. And I also don't want to lose touch with the people that graduated last year and want them to know that I like them. Sometimes I think people don't realize I like them because I just don't talk much but i like everybody. SO what do you think I should do? The main question is should I get rid of it.?
2006-11-30 06:52:59 · 12 answers · asked by leena 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I got rid of it.
2006-11-30 07:00:42 · update #1
You made the right choice.
Coach
2006-11-30 06:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Thanks for the Yahoo Jacket 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly how you feel. I have the same sorts of fears, although it's generally related to real-life people and not myspace/livejournal. Unfortunately, this also means I don't know what to tell you! I'm going to read your answers and hope someone else gives some advice that helps us both!
However, I have a little advice for MySpace. What I would do is accept any invitations, but not invite other people- if they're like "Why haven't you added me??" you can play stupid and say, "Oh, you have an account? What is it?" and then add them. Then, don't talk to anyone until they talk to you FIRST. For example, say you have HappyGirl17, Jess_Flowers_2005, angstygirl, beameryo11, and i_love_cheese on your friends list. HappyGirl17 and beameryo11 have visited your myspace and left a couple messages, or commented on your post. So, now you have full right to go and comment in their journals. But, wait to start answering the others untilthey answer something in your account.
You can always say, "I don't have much time to do myspace" so you don't look like a heel for not paying attention to everyone's journals. You can just go on once a week, answer everything you can in an hour. Nobody expects all their friends to keep constant track of them on myspace.
Don't feel bad because that one person "rejected" you. I know how it feels, but you have to remember that 1. this only means that ONE person hates you, since nobody else rejected you and therefore everyone but that one person wants you, and 2. That person probably doesn't hate you, they probably either only keep users that they're really close friends with (and they just don't know you well) or they don't recognize your user name and think you're a stranger. I know it's really hard to beleive, becuase one rejection really does make you feel like everyone hates you, but you really really have to realize that it is only ONE rejection out of a hundred non-rejections. Really, you should be saying 'everyone likes me!' and not counting that one black sheep.
A lot of drama happens on MySpace. It's generally considered bad etiquitte to air your dirty laundry/publicize arguments/breakup over MySpace, but you'll see it happening. Just keep cool and if you can't say something without potentially hurting someone's feelings, don't say anything at all.
2006-11-30 07:07:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to suffer from dilusions. You feel that people all have to get along and be the best of friends. They don't know you, obviously, they don't see the need to be friends with you. Facebook IS NOT myspace. Myspace is for attention whores, FaceBook is more reserved for academic reasons (In theory). If you want to be friends with everyone, stick to MySpace. FaceBook is not souly about friends, it's more about networking for jobs and groups, which MySpace isn't and never will be about.
MySpace = Emo infested, attention whore gathering place. They all migrated from LiveJournal.
FaceBook = More refined, more mature area for people to network that have legitimate reasons to network.
You don't have to be friends with their friends, because in all honesty, have you met them? Will you ever? FaceBook has to have it's standards held up but with people that attempt to just spam friend requests and group requests, it will only turn into MySpace. Learn to handle rejection because you're not always going to be accepted, expecially if you expect everything to work perfectly every time.
2006-11-30 07:07:52 · answer #3 · answered by Link_ S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief! Why would you ever stay with something that was causing you so much distress! That's like wearing shoes that are two sizes to small. They look great, but they're too painful to walk in. Get rid of it. Go back to being comfortable. And don't worry so much about what people think of you. Just be yourself. They'll either like you or they won't, but it shouldn't change who you are.
2006-11-30 07:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie if your this confused you did the right thing. In the future you might want to keep in mind that you can't please everybody and not everyone will like you and you should learn to just say no sometimes instead of letting people talk you into things. As my mom use to say "if everyone jumped off a bridge would you?"
2006-11-30 07:05:27 · answer #5 · answered by thegoodwitchmm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna go with yes, get rid of it.
First of all, do you know any of these people in real life?
If not, then just blow them off...it's not like any of them will have any real impact on your life.
If you do, then just explain to them that you'd rather be friends with them face to face, instead of online...Tell them you've decided to get a life that's not computer based, and invite them to go see a movie with you.
Yay, good for you, Curve!!!
2006-11-30 07:02:32 · answer #6 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I'm going to get rid of mine now. You just made me paranoid about how I look to my friends.
2006-11-30 07:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by IElop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh the drama, the drama. Find out who you are. These "friends" could really care less whether you live or die and will never be there when you need them.
2006-11-30 07:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're reading waaaaay too much into this online chat thing. Just enjoy yourself. If you get bad input, just let it roll off your back. Afterall, you are doing this because YOU enjoy it.....right?
2006-11-30 06:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by Michael N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you totally made the right choice in deleting it. all those sites cause problems and unnecessary drama. good for you!
2006-11-30 07:46:19 · answer #10 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋