My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 and half months. I am in college and I am fixin to move to a different college and we are thinking about moving in together. We love each other and one day we hope to get married but Im not sure if us moving in with each other is a good thing. I dont want to move back home.Im 18 and hes 21. We get along great. We argue, but everyone does. IM babbling. lol! Thank you all.
2006-11-30 06:20:29 · 14 answers · asked by lilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Me and my wife moved in together after 4 months. That was 10 years ago. We also worked together for the same company the first 2 years. Everything worked out perfect for us
2006-11-30 06:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Tony G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its too early. I've been with a girl for 3 and 1/2 years and we moved in after 8 months and she had to move back out because everything changes when you move in together. I would hold off. Im 21 she's 18 so its a very similar situation. Try spending like a whole week with each other first at eachothers houses and if that works then you might be able to, but try that out first.
2006-11-30 14:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Bman 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
please take your time...it's way too soon. you're both very young and i know you're in love and everything is so intense, i've been there at the same age and i know what it's like, but you still have to get to know each other. why don't you let him get the apartment, he can give you a set of keys, and you do the dorm thing, or you can be roommates with someone. that way you can see him as much as you want , whenever you want and when you need to get away, trust me you will want time or yourself, then you'll have a place to go to. you said yourself that you're not sure, saying that means you're not ready. it's a huge step and when you move too fast it can ruin what you have. sit down and have a talk. let im know that you're not ready and make sure you make it clear that it's not him but you need to go at your own pace. if the love that you have for each other is real, then you'll work it out. remember, communication is key.
2006-11-30 14:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're moving in together to save money or split the rent, I think it's a bad idea. There are lots of women your age around your college campus to share an apartment with. If you're moving in because one day you might get married, I think you should wait until you get married before living together. If you're arguing now, what will it be like when you add rent, bills, shopping for food, housecleaning, laundry, school, money, family, friends, cooking, etc. etc.
2006-11-30 14:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for giving it this much thought before you dive into it.
Remember, only you can decide if it's a good idea or not. Everyone elses' opinion is only that, their opinion. In my opinion, it could be the most fun thing you ever did. But trust me, every little tiny thing you don't like about him, the way he chews, the way he farts, its all there with you every day because you LIVE there. It's not all fun as I'm learning now. But if you love him, and are going to school anyway, go for it.
My strongest piece of advice though - always, always have "jam" money. If you have to run for any reason, any reason at all, have your ducks in order so you can do so. Always have at least $1000 at your disposal.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 14:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is a bit early. If you want to get married, don't move in together! Statistics show that couples that cohabitate are less likely to get married! (And I know of many people to support this) So yeah visiting and some sleepovers are fine, but don't live together! Especially not so soon.
I will never live with my bf until I have a ring on my finger!
2006-11-30 14:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by feffercorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my personal opinon is don't. what if it doesn't work it is a good thing that you love each other but think that 7 and 1/2 months is to soon but you are never to old to mve in with your parents.think of it this way if you live with ur BF then you take care of each other. it will show u responsibility. but if you move back in wiht your parents then you will someone to pick up after you, but you know do what you want to do just keep in mind that you parents will always love love you!
2006-11-30 14:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever lived by yourself first? It's difficult living together and it puts a lot of stress on the relationship. You need to be able to deal with the stress of paying bills, as well as the stress of compromising on things with someone else.
I'd say if you're going to do it, do lots and lots of planning first. Figure out who will be responsible for what, who will pay for what, and how much, figure out what you'll do if you have a fight and you stop talking to each other. Figure out what would happen if one of you got sick or couldn't pay rent, or whatever. Do you have money to fall back on?
It's a HUGE step to integrate two households, and you both need to be flexible and accommodating.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 14:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you 2 have been together for awhile and you should move in together, as living together will be the real test if you 2 are meant to be together or not.. good luck
2006-11-30 14:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by goodlookin.mama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do that girl, once you do that he will never married you and ( why but the cow if you can get the milk for free.) If you're no ready to get married don't move in.
2006-11-30 14:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by DOLLY 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋