what are the main ways in which communication can help & hinder the development of good relationships?

Answer 1

Having good communication is essential in having a good relationship. By communicating you can resolve issues and get back onto the right path. Communication helps you to see that if you are on the same page. Being able to talk to each other about what is going on through your mind, hopes, dreams. etc helps make a deeper relationship.

Communication can also hinder. For example if there is no communication than you can't resolve issues that pop up nor do you really have that deeper connection because you are unable to talk to each other and communicate your needs. Also how you communicate can hinder. If all you do is fight and nothing gets resolved than you failed to communicate and the issues will keep popping up.

Answer 2

If both parties are open minded and have strong self-esteem communication is almost never harmfull. When either one of the people is more reserved and lacks self confidence anything the other party says can be taken as an attack or be seen as a problem.
If you are ready to listen to others and accept that you can be wrong, there shouldn't be much problems. Not communicating could hurt someone who thought they were in an open relationship much more than hiding painful information.

Answer 3

I don't like your question.

Take the 2nd part first. -

'In which way can communication hinder....

the development of a good relationship.'

'Communication' is not just the transmission of information (etc). It is also the receiving of feedback of a number of sorts (facial and body language as well as vocal + tonal signals). We can call it a 2 way street, but in fact it can often be more of a 4 way street.

In each direction there is information flowing outward and inward, AND as there are two people here who are not necessarily always connection with the other. So we can call it 4 lanes of traffic.

Two people can talk about the same thing, but not hear each other nor be receptive to each others moods, emotions or directions of emotional travel.

We take the opposite of ‘up’ to be ‘down,’ of ‘in’ to be ‘out’ and of ‘left’ to be ‘right’ - although there is another opposite, to ‘remove,’ as opposed to have ‘left in place.’
And sometimes when misunderstandings occur, ‘I thought you meant….!’ The energy or willingness to step back and see and to actually understand, can be too far up the scale for mistakes to be rectified and damage can be done which cannot be undone.

I should qualify me ‘I don’t like your question’ by saying that examples are difficult to come by in order to really explain the answer. However, the best one I can think of is of a married couple who’d been together for a few years and were experiencing problems and seeing a counsellor.

The couple had a session together with the counsellor and then had a session each. In her session the wife complained to the counsellor that her husband lacked any demonstrativeness, he never kissed her neck nor nibbled and licked her ears, and became distant when there was an intimacy.

The husband complained that his wife ways always kissing his neck, licking and nibbling his ears.

In their next session the counsellor brought these differences up, asking the wife first why she kissed the neck, ears and so on?

The wife explained that she liked having these things done to her, but he’d never do it. So she decided to show him how nice it was.

The husband explained that he HATED having his ears licked, neck kissed and so on.

The wife said, “But you never said so!”

He replied, “Because I didn’t want to spoil what you obviously enjoyed doing.”

The wife went on to say, “But I showed you how nice it was, so that you’d do it to me.”

The husband complained, “But you never told me that you enjoyed and wanted it!”

“Because I didn’t think I NEEDED to!”

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Each situation, I’ve been in to some degree. On the other hand, I’ve been in a couple of relationships where the communication has either been so ‘tight’ with each other, or to the point of being able to ‘finish each others sentences,’ that I’ve felt like the richest and luckiest and the biggest human being on the planet.

The world ‘Fulfilled’ fits in there somewhere too.

As for the 1st part of your question, er ...I'd have thought that the answer would be self evident....!

I've known couples where the word 'marriage' fits them and their relationship 'exactly.'
They are 'married,' wed, bonded to each other like two pieces of the same jigsaw ~ they fit together, and they each only half functions properly when the other is not around.

One the one hand, that is quite spellbinding, and on the other, there is a childlike tragedy in there ~ waiting to happen - - as they grow older.

In some relationships, what happens external to their home life, what each experiences out there, can be bought home with them each and talked through. And through these experiences and their emotional responses to them, people can and do become closer with their Other.

I hope this helps you.
Sash.

Answer 4

I think it is possible to over-communicate. You have to leave a little mystery in a relationship, if you tell each other too much then it can kill the whole thing dead. For example, there was this guy I was seeing and he told me about the women at work who he liked - I asked him what am I? His friend? His mother? His lover? When you overcommunicate roles can get confused - thats why it's important to have friends you tell some things to, you know, the secrets you should never tell your parner........

Answer 5

communication can only ever be good n the long run i dont ever see it hindering sweetie x its good to talk!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Stop and think before you say anything. Dont use words like WHY? How come? they trigger Defensive Behavior's