Mother-in-law problems really need help???????

Question

Here we go tell me what yall think PLEASE....
My husband is overseas right now bc he is in the navy and his mom called him and asked to borrow 200 dollars and him and I are lookin for a house when he comes back. This women has no job, one kid at home, and is divorce. there is nothing wrong with her besides she dont want to work. Well me and one of my friends are going xmas shoppin she called me and told me before i go shopping i better bring her the money. To add to all this i had 600 in my purse the other day when i went over there and when i left to go home 300 of it was missing and she goes shoppin everyday. well i am mad because i dont want to give her the money my husband and i just got married like 3 months ago and we are trying to save. Is it wrong that i dont want to give her the money???????

she also bought her daughter a necklas for 150 dollars and she is blowing her money or **** that she dont need......

she is acting like we owe her the money and we dont owe her anything i have never borrowed money from her and my hubby didnt either

yall please tell me what i should do? HELP!!!

Answer 1

Talk to your husband, sincerly, not finger pointing, the you "Your Mom always..." converstaion is a difficult one. Tell your husband that you understand that he wants to help her out, after all she raised him, you just worried that if she keeps borowing $$ from you that she will never feel the need to get a job, tell him since he's already told her you can give him the 200 bucks, that you have no problem(even tho you do) with giving it to her THIS time, but you want him to talk to her so she understands this cant happen all the time, if you talk to her she will degrade you and your authority over your own finaces because thats her son, then youll tell hubby, and he will think your exagerating, so dont go there, have him say something to her like"Hey mom, I ma glad we were able to come through for you this month, things are a little tight at home, so I am not sure if we can always help out like this, we are trying to save for a house, so when I get home, we can strat things off to a good start. I am trying to be a good provider, its hard when I am over seas, I 'de like to give my wife the secutity of knowing we have a savings, in case anything happens" Any way he puts it,as long as he doesnt blame it on you, shell take it better. Try to be compassionate and remember youll be blessed for giving. Hopefully Hubby goes for it, if you break it down wile still maintaing respect for his Mom he should see your point, also remember A man should leave his parents and Cleave to his wife (BIBLE) You are first prioity in his life, you need to be, or its not going to work, be sure to to put him first too, when it comes to your family and him.

Oh and about the missing money, be careful, if you accuse his Mom of stealing your money, chances are he wont believ you, and when he tells her what you said, she will go on and on about how you are wrong...and wrong for him...about how she didnt like you from the beging.... Justtell your husband you lost 300 bucks and you dont know how, the last place you had your purse was at his moms and maybe it fell out but you have no idea... better yet, dont bring antthing of value in her home, and skip telling your husband all together, because you may get a comment like, "You losse 300 bucks cause your not careful and your telling me not to help my own mother out" Trick sitaution, Pray about it.

Answer 2

Your mother-in-law reminds me of my sister. No, I don't think it's wrong that you don't want to give her the money. As a matter of fact, I'm the same way with my sister (she's 20, married, and has 3 kids). Generally, when I go around her, I hide anything of value or else just leave it at home. As far as the mother-in-law situation, I would suggest just talking to her and your husband about it (and tell your husband about the missing money). Basically, I would just tell your mother-in-law that you all can't afford to loan her money right now for whatever reason you want to tell her. Also, if your husband is anything like mine, just write out all of your bills (including the expense for a new house) and then write out how much money you all actually have. If you make her mad, then you just make her mad; she'll get over it or die with it. You're just starting out right now, you need the money worse than her!

Answer 3

sounds to me that your mother-in law may have a shopping problem. I would confront her on the missing money and tell her you are hurt she would betray you.I know she will probably deny she took it but tell her you were going to buy a care package for her son with that money after you left her house and knew how much was in your purse. I would express to her that taking that money has put you in a situation that you are behind on bills and her actions has cost you any extra you would of had to give her.I would also explain to her that if you give her money it is only because you want too and not because you have too.

Answer 4

Get in her face and tell her if she ever steals money from you again, you'll call the cops and charge her. Tell your husband he needs to have a serious talk with his mother and lay down some strict rules. This has got to happen or you're going to be supporting her and the child for the rest of your lives.

Answer 5

learn and interest the two mutually sturdy would desire to be very tiring after which looking after the homestead. Following advice would help. one million. it rather is greater desirable you employ somebody to safeguard your mom in regulation. 2. You cant exchange your mom in regulation so comply with the area. flow out commonly for dates with your hubby and luxuriate in life. Watch action picture do issues that make you happy. 3 save your self busy at homestead, basically forget approximately bitter words and flow on, all of us has actual to speech. mom in regulations are specific provide her some care, purchase her some dresses, take her out too and spot the version. maximum suitable of superb fortune

Answer 6

Be careful with ur money around her.

Answer 7

no thats not wrong.
tell her to shove it and get her lazy butt a job!
gees.

Answer 8

hell no, she already stole 300 from you if i were you i wouldn't give it to her.