Why do men cheat?

Question

Okay it was once, well over a year ago and things were rough between us. Things are great now, trust issues have basically all been resolved.
What would compell him to cheat, just to hurt me and make himself feel better?
Please dont be to cruel or slam me for staying and trying to be adult and work through issues.

I realize that women do to, I personally dont and couldnt regardless of the circumstance

Answer 1

Nobody here is going to have the answer for you. The reason being that none of us know you, or your boyfriend, or the situation. The only person who is going to be able to answer that question for you is ... your boyfriend.

(Bacon.)

Answer 2

Because they can. Men do not require the same level of emotional attachment as women do for sex. They are naturally oriented to impregnate as many women as possible. It's the same with the males in most primate species.

Man has unnaturally tried to restrict men to a single woman. In a UK survey, a staggering 78% of married men said they had cheated 'at least once' during their marriage. Your man is just normal; and most likely, he'll do it again. You should discuss not banning cheating completely, but how you want to handle it as adults. Is it OK if it's just once with the person? Is it OK if he only does it once a month? How about is it OK on family holidays (a prime time for men to be exposed to other women)? Many couples work out a complex set of rules that allow some exploration outside the relationship, while still maintaining the bond between them.

Answer 3

Okay, men cheat. Women do too. After a year of being the victim, I realized it isn't going to change. Now I'm doing it, too. That's the only way to make it right, and enjoy some of the pleasure, too. Take matters into your own hands. If you're not happy with your situation, change it. That's what might be called an "open marriage."

Answer 4

The bottom line is people make what they do "OK", so the question becomes, "How did your partner make it OK to cheat on you?"

People (men and women) will usually cheat for various reasons. The two most common are for physical sexual needs and emotional needs. Typically the men will cheat for physical needs whereas the women will cheat for emotional needs. This is not always the case and the inverse may occur.

The bottom line again is how do people make what they do OK. How have/do you make it OK to stay with your partner after they cheated, and how did your partner make it OK to cheat on you?

Once you better explore these areas, it may become easier to understand the "why" aspect of your situation. Each situation is case specific to the individual aspects of that relationship, so the general idea of "why" usually does not apply to any one couple of individual.

Trust presents as the biggest issue, prior to/post any cheating or unfaithful behaviors. Is sounds like you have successfully worked through the trust issues, which I believe are the most difficult.

I encourage you to continue to work through your issues, assessing and reassessing your needs, both internally and verbally externally with yourself and your partner.

Remember, you are worth the sole devotion of your partner, and only you can set and maintain the boundaries to provide yourself with the quality of life you deserve. Remember, you are worth it !

Answer 5

not all men cheat, only the ones with the brains in their penis instead of their head seem to cheat! I also believe that poeple can change! It's not okay to cheat, whatever reasons there are, but some people do cheat. Thing is, that you never realise what you have until you risk losing it. Only unless you are a real b*****d would you be so selfish and cocky as to do it again. I do believe some people deserve a 2nd chance, as the 1st time round they probably didn't fully understand the extent of what they were doing. If they then do it again though, it would definately be time to kick them in the balls!!!
I've never cheated, or been cheated on, so i'm not talkng from experience. The best person you can listen to is yourself and your intuition. All the best.

Answer 6

Well, not all people cheat, men or women. The question you would be better to ask yourself is why are you with a man who cheats.
We all have the ability to say enough is enough and set boundries that we expect others to respect. I believe that you will not be able to regain trust in your man and that you will go through a lot of heartache.
Dump the guy and find someone who loves and respects you.
Good luck....from a guy who was once in your shoes.

Answer 7

I was in the same situation and I'm still in my relationship to. first of all it has nothing to do with you. We as women always thinks it us . when it happen to me we where in a rough state of our relationship to and i thought it was because of that and blamed myself until i realized it doesn't matter if your in a god or bad relationship if your pretty or not . i think they do it because they feel like the can and it's the thrill of doing it like being with two or more different women at once . they don't think about nobody Else's feelings but their own . the advice i will give to you is keep strong and don't do it to him because it will never hurt him like it hurt you the only person that it really hurts is you because your only doing it out of spite never blame your self or feel down about yourself because i did and don't ever change who you are just put your trust in god and he will make everything better

Answer 8

For the same reasons most all women cheat and lie - it's their doggy nature. women are no better and even lower than men. Women are always looking for more guys to go with and flirt. Both sexes are greedy and never content. it's GREED!!!!

Neither men nor women can be trusted. Noway, nohow.

Answer 9

Because women allow it. Honour is no more! There are too many dishonourable people out there who love to use anothers man or woman. They may be old fashioned values but when someone makes a committment, they should honour it!

Answer 10

the thrill, the need for something new, not being satesfied, or just because he can.

either way you gotta buck up and get over it cause if he cheated he didnt care anyway