I love my son so much and Im worried, latley he has been lying to me about anything and everything, he is also acting very absent minded like if you ask him a question hell answer it with something that has nothing to do with what you have asked. He acts like he doesnt know how to do anything I ask him and his hygene is bad and Ive taught him better. What is going on with him and what can I do? I swear sometimes my 6 year old son acts older then he does. Im very concerned any suggestions?
2006-11-30 05:53:59 · 9 answers · asked by onehotmama 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Welcome to early puberty.It will get worse...and THEN better!Good luck.
2006-11-30 05:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to panic you, just to prepare you, I'd also suggest that you read up on the latest re: drugs, etc. "Huffing" and "the choking game" etc. Again, not to panic you, but you should know other signs to look for just in case.
Is he being bullied?
Is he still friendly with the same, "good" kids? Is he keeping up with his schoolwork? Sleeping and eating well? No huge changes in activities/interests? Has something changed on the home front which might be effecting his disposition?
If so, perhaps what you're going through is just a phase/transition. Let him know how much you love and support him. Tell him you're worried. Ask if he needs help or is having some problem that he would like to discuss with you. Encourage him to reach out to someone (father, counselor, minister, etc.) if he feels he's unable to talk to you.
Don't let him get away with lying, though. Set firm boundaries and follow up on punishments. Let him know that for actions there are consequences. As kids push the limits they're really counting on us to hold those limits to what's safe. Offer to be his "excuse" if he ever needs to get away from a situation. Come up with a code word he can use on the phone which means "come pick me up right away" that won't let his friends catch on.
Best of luck to you. Sons are great!!!!
2006-11-30 14:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Shars 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mom of an 11 yr girl and she is going thru similar things that
you have described. However my daughter is a horrible liar and gave that up. Yes it is a phase that they are going thru however they still need to be disicplined for their actions. Good Luck
Morgaine
2006-11-30 18:14:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a guy who's had all kinds of problems with 11 year old boys.
2006-11-30 15:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he had a childhood come back or something like that but other than that i dont. He is going through puberty and his mind is changing but I really dont even know.
2006-11-30 13:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by dira 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say but it's going to get worse before it gets better. It's called puberty.
2006-11-30 14:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I have problems with my kids like you wouldn't believe.
2006-11-30 15:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by Dialup, Avatar, Jones!? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check for substance abuse/ psychiatric illness.
These may present thus.
MD
2006-11-30 15:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by neuveun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just acting out for attention explain to him he cannot ot lie and that if he countinues ground him and all
2006-11-30 13:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by crystal b 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋