Women as well as men obviously mature and look for different things in a relationship, what are some things you have noticed, that have changed as you've matured?
2006-11-30 05:46:03 · 7 answers · asked by me 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I married my first husband because I loved him and because I thought that he would be a good provider as a professional man, but he turned out to be the worst kind of husband and father. I finally got out after 18 years.
My new man has my most cherished characteristic - INTEGRITY! He means what he says and says what he means. He is as honest as anyone could possibly be. He's generous, intelligent, well-spoken, well-read, sincere, loving and trustworthy. He's one in millions. He's also lovely to look at and to hold!
2006-11-30 09:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I've matured I have looked for a family of my own and have pursued goals more seriously. Spiritual peace has become more important as well. I no longer live for the next party or shopping spree. With maturity comes appreciation and respect for others.
My wants are goal oriented - wanting to become the best in what I do. No longer do I lose sleep over the latest trend or fashion.
My needs are more based on giving and receiving love, in addition to the other basic needs of food, shelter and clothing of course.
2006-11-30 06:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by Dream Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as i mature, the distinction between my wants and needs become more clear. and funny enough i now realise many of the needs i had for my partner to provide the various securities for me (i.e. house, money, prestige, etc.) have now changed to me now needing a partner that can simply be a good male company( i.e. attention, encouragement, love,etc.). since i am now better able to provide all material and intellectual need and want for myself. but despite it all there certain emotional needs that i am simple incapable of providing myself. Inasmuch though, its only through my growth did i discover that its not really a change, just realizing the difference of what i can do for myself, and what i actually need a man to do for me.
2006-11-30 05:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to relationship dynamics studies in psychology, the needs of men and women have been presented through "His needs, her needs". You can find lots of information on the intetrnet and throughout popular psychological literature.
The big differentiation is that:
1. Women want to be recognized and acknowledged for "who they are"
2. Men want to be recognized and acknowledged for "what they do"
Its interesting to note that most men will try to recognize and acknowledge what women do, and women will recognize and acknowledge who men are.
Both men and women are trying to promote what they want for themselves, by providing it to their partener/spouse/etc...
The "His needs, her needs" includes 5 specific areas for men and for women. They begin with the above and work down from these. If the above is not met, the 2-5 needs will rarely be met, causing arguments, fights, and even separation and divorce.
Hope this helps...
2006-11-30 05:55:37 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I find that I need more one on one time with my husband. Not necessarily for sex, but just time to spend together. I enjoy hand-holding and cuddling up with him in front of the TV. We raised three children who are all out of the house now and it is really nice to have just the two of us around. We are talking about our dreams and goals again.
2006-11-30 05:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point in my life, I'd say my need for stability in all aspects of my life, and loving conpanionship is it. My only want, is for my son to call home more.
2006-11-30 08:29:23 · answer #6 · answered by Battlerattle06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks are not as important when you age you start to look for stability and comfort.also i have found that i am more proud of keeping my home and my son than material things like clothes and make-up
2006-11-30 05:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by mothertiggy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋