Can this baby be mine? Dates dont add up????? add on!!?

Question

Just a couple more facts maybe could help me more?? She has given me a due date of the 20th of june 07.
Has had a scan already so couldnt go to that, she wont let me see any doctors notes ect..........
Yes i didnt use a condom, regrettably but wont shun my responsibilitys as a dad if it is mine.
Is there a way of legally making her do a dna test????? as she is saying she doesnt have to prove anything to me as she knows it is mine, she is adament herself but wont let me into any facts ect......... and says a dna test does not have to be done as SHE KNOWS IT MINE!!!
Surely i have some rights to see doctors notes ect... and dna testing?????????????

Answer 1

Best thing you can do is go and get legal advise. You can't get DNA done obviously until after the baby's born, but at least with legal advice you'll know what to do when the time comes. Glad to hear you will take your responsibility serious if it turns out it is yours. A lesson learnt in future use a condom, then you won't have to go through this again.

Answer 2

I answered your last question, this is such a difficult one cos ive worked it out every way and her dates do match. Im pleased to hear that you just want to know if the baby is yours then will stand by your responsabilities.
Is there no way you can talk to her and tell her this. I think if you leave all the questions reguarding if its yours or not to one side for a few weeks and just talk to her about how shes doing etc then she will calm down and you may be able to go to appointments with her then.
If you look at things from this point of view, at some point she will have a baby then you can determine if its yours or not. Dont make this into a battle befroe you need to as if the baby is proven to be yours at the end of it all then she may hold all this against you and make it difficult to see baby.
For now just try and work out some way of resolving the anger on both sides so you can support one and other through what Im sure is difficult for you both. Dna test wont be done for at least another 7ish months so try and get on with her as best you can till then. Im sure she wont agree to the test whilst pregnant as there is a risk of miscarriage. Good luck.

Answer 3

Maybe she is adament in the fact she Knows it Is Yours as she has been with no other !!Maybe she feels on defense when you ask her for notes from her doctor I know with my pregnancys I Was given NO NOTES < so I don,t understand this..And by law >once the baby is Born you will have the right to a DNA test

Answer 4

Don't worry, right now. After the baby is born, if she asks you to sign the birth certificate. Request a DNA test at the hospital.
If she plans to apply for welfare or get child support from you,
a DNA test has to be done, by law, or she can't get welfare or
child support.
If you want to, and have some extra money, call an attorney
that specializes in family law. They can go to court, right now,
and get a court order for a DNA test to be done on the child, after
it is born. But, that's expensive.
I'd just wait and do i the other way.
BTW, if she is refusing a dna test and won't let you see anything,,,
I bet she's not pregnant. I bet she's just trying to trap you into marriage. I did that with on boyfriend when I was a teenager.
It didn't work. He found out I was lying.
Tell her you are going to go see an attorney about getting a court order for a dna test and see what happens....

Answer 5

If this is your child u have the same rights she does. And it IS possible to do a DNA test BEFORE the baby is born through amneocentisis, but that procedure isn't recommended unless neccissary. U can def get a DNA test after the baby is born, and u can do this even if she don't want to. Just petition the courts! Are u sure she's even pregnant? She could be trying to pull the whole I'm pregnant but then a month later I miscarried thing to try to hurt u. Good luck to u. It's nice to see a guy out there making an effort and willing to take care of his responsibilities!

Answer 6

Yes you absolutely have a right for a paternity test, especially if she is expecting emotional and financial committments from you. See a lawyer and get one set up. If the due date is June 20 07 then conception was around Sept. 13, 06, if this helps. But, she doesn't have to show you any ot her doctor's notes - patient/doctor confidentiality. And don't let her sign the birth certificate naming you as the father, or you'll be legally responsible without the paternity test.

Answer 7

If she is trying to get support from you she will have to let you do a DNA test to prove that the child is yours. If she wants you to be a part of the pregnancy and is wanting emotional support from you then I suggest counceling for the two of you....I'm not sure if they can do the DNA testing while the baby is in the womb. You could call any OB/GYN office and ask that general question, I would think.

Answer 8

Hi! Yes, I would REALLY suggest that you get a DNA test done once the baby comes. You may not be able to get one done right away, you may have to wait several months, but it wouldn't be difficult. All you need is a little bit of DNA, there are some tests now that will allow you to use saliva. Good luck!

Answer 9

ok first of all ur a good man if u wanna do right by ur child second u need to find out what law exist in ur area about how to go about this but u have a right to have a DNA test done but u have to go through the courts usually n if u are u will get visitation ect ... i'd contact a family law lawyer n see what they tell ya... you have no right to the doctors file though that protected

Answer 10

Yes you do have a right to a DNA test. After the child is born paternity will have to be established in the courts. Should you have any doubts as to whether or not you are the father of this child you should demand a paternity test. She will then be court ordered to do so.
As far as doctor's notes are concerned she is the patient and would have to sign forms giving you permission to discuss her records with her doctor.