2006-11-30 05:26:47 · 17 answers · asked by Ella M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Interesting, both sides of the same coin. I think any child, given a particular set of circumstances, could play either role.
2006-11-30 07:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they are both bad. I would feel empathetic for my child if she were being bullied and I would also feel frustrated and mad. Having a child bullied means that there are things that need to be handled and discussed. Trips to school and talks with parents (which don't always go so well because the parent turns out to have bullying ways, too). If my child were being the bully, I would be furious at my child and make them do things that might give them some sense of compassion (volunteering at a children's hospital, cleaning the park, volunteering at a food or homeless shelter). Both are bad, but both can be dealt with in a productive and effective way.
2006-11-30 13:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by tool84u_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question, do you want a child with psychological problems ie the bully, or a child that may develop psychological problems due to being bullied. Either would be devastating for a parent to deal with. Don't want to generalise here but bullies are usually the result of abusive treatment ,via parents siblings, or peers. I think i would feel more able to change the situation if i were a parent of the bullied! I know this may sound strange but hopefully i would have brought my child up to believe in HIM/herself, and therefore would be able to deflect the psychological effects of bullying. The bullies are already damaged.
2006-11-30 14:28:03 · answer #3 · answered by margaret 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's worse to find out your child is the bully because that means that something really bad could be going on with him/her. Or it could be a case of the bully has been bullied by a family member and is just treating others as he/she has been treated.
2006-11-30 13:33:06 · answer #4 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think being bullied as my boy has always been bullied and it has a huge psychological impact he has a low opion,no confidence and is scared .. i would rather my boy be a bully as i wouldnt have the issues i have with him now .Bullied kids become so trapped in the vicious circle they become sucidal and feel they can never escape it and the zero tolerance uk schools have is crap as they can never stop it i live in hope my sons bullies will find someone else sad eh?
2006-11-30 13:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by sammie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both would be pretty bad because being a bully shows he has social problems and being bullied can case it.
2006-11-30 13:29:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sean 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That he is being bullied. If he were the bully, I would personally be able to do something about it.
2006-11-30 13:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by Social Science Lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your child is being bully, it hurts more because you cannot protect them while they are being bullied
2006-11-30 13:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by danicolegirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is worse to find out that he is being bullied I guess and worse if he IS the bully. I won't tolerate if he is being the bully one because that's why I talk to him about that kind of situation...One thing is truth he have to go to tell teacher call me and tell me and then meet with the mother of the kid that is bother in my son...And say it out loud and clear that I won't tolerate that kind of behavior around my kid...If that doesn't work. Take the bully one mother to court...And make sure that she make sure her kid won't be a bully anymore...One thing is Truth that I love my kids but I won't tolerate such bad behavior...If my kids is one of those bully kids I won't be happy abou it We us a parents are the only ones that are fault in our kids bad behavior
2006-11-30 13:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that your child is being bullied by far.
blame the parents i say.
2006-11-30 13:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by geminially 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋