Is there anything wrong if I am jealous? yes.. I am hurt :(?

Question

We have been married for the past two year and have a seven months old baby. My husband loves his little girl but when I see he loves his 13 year old brother( from his aunt but he calls him brother) more than our little baby girl. He is just crazy for him ( I would say he is obsessed) and he buys him anything ( doesn't matter to him how expensive that thing is) whatever he asks for. when I was pregnant he used to go tosee him 3-4 times a week ( he has his pictures every where in a room but I told him that when we have our own baby he has to spend time with our baby now since we have a baby he doesn't get to see him as often as he used to do so he is paying him of for that buying expensive things now (eventhough he buys things for his own baby too) I didn't say anything but I asked him why he seems so crazy for him he said that he consider him as his first kid that means our baby is the second one for him ( this is very hurting to me) how can I make him understand that this is not righ

Answer 1

i think that brotheris his child

Answer 2

Yes you are jealous over someone who has been in your husbands life longer than you, as for your baby, men look at babys and think what am I suppose to do with that, they cry , sleep, eat, and fill their diapers, while all this is true and you can see her sparkling Little personality he has not, so you are going to have to give him time to be come attached to her, as for the brother, you can request that he cut back on the expensive gifts, and explain that he is setting this young man up for a life of expectations that his older brother will always buy him anything he wants, the brother needs the companionship, far more than he needs the gifts, so why do you not let him spend a bit more time with the brother, and a lot less money,

Answer 3

It's not a bad thing that you're jealous... but I also don't think it's a bad thing that he has a strong relationship with his "brother". You should sit down with him and tell him how you feel, and give him a chance to tell you where he's coming from. He definitely needs to spend time with his own baby, but if you talk to him maybe you can figure something out.

Answer 4

I am sure that he loves his daughter. There must be a reason, why he loves his brother, so much, he has had him 13 years.
Try to relax and know that your daughter is loved and it won't be long before she has her Daddy wrapped around her little finger.
Your jealousy is making you miserable as well as your husband. You never want to make your daughter feel left out. Give it Time!!

Answer 5

Sorry to say this but I think that little boy is his he probably didn't know how to tell you this and the fact he's taking care of him he probably had him at a young age so the little baby the both of you have is not his first

Answer 6

Wow that is def really tough. you need to talk to him def.
you need to comunicate. comunication is a big part of keeping the relationship.
and maybe he really wants to have had a boy thats why hes soo close to his cousin? or "brother" but the whole money issue, you have a child, i took a child development class and i know how exspensive children are.. he needs to pay for his kid before he looks to pay for other outside of the family people,

idk just talk to him see what he says. it really depends what your actions should be untill we know what he says.

Answer 7

There's nothing wrong with your jealousy, that's really weird. Try explaining to him who the real baby is and he has to change

Answer 8

You cant make him understand, because its not wrong, the only the wrong is not spending time with his own kid.()

Answer 9

maybe he always wanyed a son. or maybe there might be something more going on then you know of. just think about it. hope everything works out.

Answer 10

i think he needs a baby boy or a son.