it all started when my husband met this girl in a chat room.they had constant talks everyday thru phones and chat.my husband changed a lot towards me ..his personality change from good to bad..to the point he told me he doesnt like me anymore..weve been together for ten years and our relationship was really good and were so much in love with each other not until he got hooked with chatting and then met this girl.
they havent seen each other yet..because the girl lives in our home country.and we are here abroad working.but im sure when my husband goes home..hell find a way to meet this girl personally.
we were married for 6 years but started together when i was still 19 and hes 17.
im really having a hard time right now.and it reallly hurts a lot being rejected and soon to be abandoned.although sometimes he keeps on telling me that he loves me and want our marriage to be intact.
but he cant end his communication with the girl.the girl doesnt mind if hes married.
2006-11-30 05:12:33 · 17 answers · asked by bianca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You deserve much better than that, honey. I know after 10 years it would be hard to leave, but that might be what you need to do. One of two things could happen...you could possibly move on and find a much better life, or you husband would realize just how much he's lost after you are gone and come running back. Either way, you should do something. You can't just sit around and let your husband think that his actions aren't affecting you.
Good luck with whatever you decide and stay strong!
2006-11-30 05:17:41 · answer #1 · answered by hot mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I can see where u would be very hurt! You know when they meet in person Im sure it will not wrk out its just infacuation online.Its way diff face to face.But that would be good to plan this out! Ok first you need to leave him before he meets her! This way its going to really get em when u leave and then he meets this chic and gets burned! You will have left him with no marriage ,no chic and all that to carry around how stupid he is! Dont stay he is no good! He made his bed make em lie in it!remember dont say anything just leave on the condition he loves her .Ride that point all the way out the door!no other words to be spoken ! this will hurt him more than u in the end!
2006-11-30 13:39:50 · answer #2 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, communicating with him constantly, trying to re-ignite what brought you together in the first place, and finding ways to keep him attracted to you are a few things you can always keep pursuing.
Having said that, such "crushes" tend to be very strong. As you rightly said, he most likely will eventually meet her when he returns to your country. If she isn't as interesting as he thinks she is, he'll probably lose interest in her.
Meanwhile, you have a hard decision to make. If you strong and independent, you may actually tell him clearly "it cannot work this way" and move on with your life. Else, I guess you'll have to try the slow, harder way of winning him back in your life.
Either way, good luck.
2006-11-30 13:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is ouch.. I dont know what to say. What I dont understand though, is how he can say he doesnt like you, but he wants to keep your marriage intact. That doesnt make any sense at all. If he really loves you and wants to be with you, he should care about how you feel on the situation. I understand if he just wants to be friends with this girl but if he wants more than that he needs to end it with you. This is not fair to you at all and I am sorry you have to go through this. Goodluck with everything.
2006-11-30 13:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by cutelil_bubble21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to issue your husband an ultimatum and tell him either he forgets this girl and his addiction to chatting or he can go and be with her ...you do NOT need a man who is stupid enough to risk what he has in real life for some online fantasy ...for all he knows he may be chatting with a man or a child or even a murderer...the bottom line here is you need to put your foot down and tell him to shape up or ship out...i know you love him..but do you love him more than yourself?...think about this...if he meets her and she is already loose enough to mess around with a married man then God only knows how many other men she has been with...dont risk your life and end up with STD....put your foot down and MEAN it...good luck
2006-11-30 13:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a bastard, how can he be telling you he loves you when he's chatting with that *****, how can you leave 6 years behind for a girl you even didn't meet personally! Does he understand what he's doing? You shouldn't stand for that. I think you shouldn't even got married to him!
2006-11-30 13:29:49 · answer #6 · answered by milena_cub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. He married you, not her. By doing that he did not have respect for you. Wants the marriage intact? So will he sleep at her place your yours?
Other option, wait and see what happens when you get back to native country.
2006-11-30 13:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave him. if he really cared about you he would not countinue this relationship. he says he loves you but it's all a cover up. i was in a relationship where i was cheated on and i'm still not over it 2 yrs later. get out before you get hurt more. i wish i would have.
2006-11-30 13:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by elizabeth v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is why was he looking in the first place? Is he a bad person, or is something missing in the relationship?
If he has not hooked up yet, there still may be a chance to fix it. If he hooks up, Then it's over (IMHO)
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2006-11-30 13:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by John L 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your husband needs to spend the effort and time that he is using on the computer on you and your marriage will grow stronger.
2006-11-30 13:16:24 · answer #10 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋