it all started when my husband met this girl in a chat room.they had constant talks everyday thru phones and chat.my husband changed a lot towards me ..his personality change from good to bad..to the point he told me he doesnt like me anymore..weve been together for ten years and our relationship was really good and were so much in love with each other not until he got hooked with chatting and then met this girl.
they havent seen each other yet..because the girl lives in our home country.and we are here abroad working.but im sure when my husband goes home..hell find a way to meet this girl personally.
we were married for 6 years but start together when im still 19 and hes 17.
im really having a hard time right now.and it reallly hurts a lot being rejected and soon to be abandoned.although sometimes he keeps on telling me that he loves me and want our marriage to be intact.
but he cant end his communication with the girl.the girl doesnt mind if hes married.
2006-11-30 05:05:08 · 18 answers · asked by bianca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would dump him first, he shouldn't be able to have his cake and eat it too.
2006-11-30 05:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so very sorry that you are going through this right now. I am going through something very similar. I got with my now ex when I was 17. We spent 12 years together. The last year he did exactly what you described your husband as doing. Looking back I think in my situation it was because we got together so young that we grew apart.. . .and instead of him being a man and simply saying he wanted out, he played the coward and did internet flirting/chatting and eventually meeting. It hurts sooo bad and the betrayal is gut wrenching, but there is no way that he respects you if he is doing this to you. You are worth more than this and you will find someone who wouldn't dream of hurting you like this. My heart goes out to you and I wish you the best.
2006-11-30 13:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate to this. My ex husband met his new woman in a chat room. His one co worker used to send him jokes and when he would go to work I would go in and read his email from his friend. The one day I was so shocked to find new emails from a woman on how they could meet. I printed this out and presented it to him so he couldn't delete it. I had noticed his personality had changed, but I didn't think much of it. I made up my mind that he was gone. I ended it. As I was moving out his new woman was moving in. Now there is a new woman moving in. So I guess he cheated on her. I say once a cheater...always a cheater. Some people too are in love with chat rooms. They give the chat room more attention than they give their mate. Dig down in your heart honey and think about it? Are YOU happy? I wish you all the best.......good luck!
2006-11-30 13:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an asshole. He should end it with you before beginning it with someone else. And if he doesn't want to end it with you, he should cut if off with her.
I know how hard this is for you. I've been cheated on in a marriage of 6 years. It takes a while to feel good again. You need to be honest with him about how you feel and hold your ground. Don't let him keep you on the side if he's not prepared to be committed to and loyal to you. You deserve better and don't settle. If he is willing to end it, and it's sincere, then I would suggest going to marriage counselling so it doesn't happen again.
2006-11-30 13:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by sickblade 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that your hurt at this time and even though he hasn't met her yet. why do you think his talking to her so much? anyway you really need to have self respect and tell him to make up his mind yes you might love him but you shouldn't stay in a relationship were the other doesn't want. and if you think there is till hope seek professional help maybe both of you could go and if he doesn't want to then you go on your own it's going to help you see things more clear. you need some one who's going to love you not reject you. I wish you the best of luck. you could email me if you need someone to talk...
2006-11-30 13:18:03 · answer #5 · answered by Itza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he won't end the relationship with her, knowing how much it hurts u, and is planning on meeting her, than he really doesn't value his marriage, and your not really seeing the truth here. he is telling u he loves u just incase it doesn't work out with her. what man would put his marriage on the line, for a girl he hasn't even met? he is immature, and has poor impulse control. he is showing u his true character.
2006-11-30 18:59:27 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down with him and ask him if your relationship still means anything you him. If not, what's the point of staying? If he's willing to change and stop whatever he's doing then definitely work it out. being married is a sacred vow and if he can't be happy just with you then the vow is already broken. good luck!
2006-11-30 13:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by pangfvlx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being willing to forgive him is your choice. However, if he wants to stay in the marriage you must make some conditions and one of them is that he ceases all contact with that girl. WHO CARES if she doesn't mind. HER opinion doesn't count. She doesn't get a vote in your marriage. Disconnect the internet asap. If he is still unwilling to give this up then you must let him suffer the consequences of his actions and you have to leave him. You deserve alot more.
2006-11-30 13:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and ask her if she is willing to break up a marriage to get herself a man, maybe she is not good enough to get a single one, LOL, and if she is willing to ruin your relationship, just tell her how much you are suffering and that if he does it once he'll do it again and to her and she will feel like you do now.
if she sill messing around call her and tell her you have aids so your husband does too. just to get back at her.
good luck but fight for your marriage if you live him, don't let anyone just waste 6 yrs of your life.
Pray for your relationship and that your husband comes to his senses.
if you are so stressed and need to get stuff off your shoulders you are welcome to e-mail me at Hazydolly@hotmail.com
I know how stressing it can be, I went through this 2 yrs ago. but its all over.
hope to hear from you.
2006-11-30 13:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by Maria Felix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt really know or seen her. He's living with an illusion. He cant really love her. Dont accept it. Try to work thru it. Have you yourself ever spoke with the girl? She could simply be playing games with him. He could be hurt badly by her. Let him know that you will not stand by to pick up his pieces. Please try to be strong, and dont worry yet about something that has not yet actually happen.
2006-11-30 13:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no reason in the world to be with this man. He betrayed you and even if he does not end up with her he will do it again. Go find yourself some great guy! You are still soooo young!
2006-11-30 13:09:57 · answer #11 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋