I found out this morning that my husband has been checking the Yahoo personals every day as well as visiting teen hardcore porn sites. I don't think he is replying to anything and we have had a difficult first couple of years of marriage involving another man who used to be my best friend who aked me to marry him just after I got married to my husband. I though we were doing really well now, however and that was all over. I'm all over him every day and I'm usually lucky if I can even get him to make out with.me. I'm tall, thin and attractive. Why isn't he interested in making love to me? I've caught him checking the personals before and he said he felt bad and he thought I was going to leave him, since I'm so unhappy in this new town. I shrugged it off because it made sense in a weird way, but he is still checking them! EVERY DAY! Like I said, I don't think he is replying, but how should I feel about him checking them, even if he doesn't reply? Please, helpful answers only.
2006-11-30 04:48:47 · 10 answers · asked by Ophelia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He always scoffed at porn and all that...I've known him since I was 18. I'm worried I don't really know him anymore.
2006-11-30 04:50:40 · update #1
Um...I tried to look up the porn site to see if the girls were illegal, but all history of that and the yahoo personal pages are now gone. Is it possible he deleted everything over lunch? He couldn't have known I found them. It was an hour ago. What happened? Did I pull up an old history or something? Confused, to say the least.
2006-11-30 05:50:20 · update #2
Pack your bags. He is laying the groundwork to cheat and porn is not good in a marriage. Kick his MF *** on the way out.
2006-11-30 04:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by Local Celebrity 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he obviously thinks you are still planning on leaving.
what REALLY needs to happen here is that you both need to get into conceling. You need to work this out now or call it quits now. But why go on wondering why and all the heart and head aches that go with it? get some help. if he won't (or you don't want to) then just sit down and tell him its over and split up.
sorry.. there really isn't any magic button to press on this one. If you want to keep what you have then you need to put some work into it.
For those of you who think that the porn is the problem. its not.. not really. its just a symptom of whats going on. now.. if he is looking at stuff that is underage.... then he seriously needs help and the importance of counceling skyrockets!!!! but guys are guys.. and while you may not have known about his porn likes before.. chances are he has always had them... (psst.... he's male... he's gonna look at porn!!!)
2006-11-30 04:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned about him visiting the teen hardcore porn than about the status of your marraige right now. He obviously has a problem. Maybe some therapy would help on both accounts and if he wont go consider going alone and getting some professional advice. I hope things work out for you.
2006-11-30 04:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Honey...please don't believe him! You have the proof of what he is into. Especially teen porno. That would really concern me. You deserve better. He would never admit to the stuff that you caught him at. He is probably ashamed of what he is doing, and it feels better to him to deny to you what he is doing. And don't be 'all over him' if he is not responding to you. YOU DESERVE BETTER! Maybe you might want to inquire into marriage counseling if you would like to try to work it out with him. If he refuses to go to counseling; then go by yourself so that you can get help to be strong and regain your confidence. Good luck and try to stay strong. I know it is easier said than done.
2006-11-30 04:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by noway 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Teen hardcore porn? If it's underage you need to turn the site and him in.
2006-11-30 04:57:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mom 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He probably feels insecure but in the mean time, you could set him up and make a profile on the site and see if he'll meet with you.
2006-11-30 04:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ipsa sola 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He may have developed an addiction to sex on the internet. Talk with him about your concerns and, if he will agree, go with him to counseling.
2006-11-30 04:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think anyone checks the personals for no reason i would be pissed he is obviously looking for greener grass on the other side you know what i mean
2006-11-30 04:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Like a ***** in sweat pants --he's out!!!!
2006-11-30 05:17:32 · answer #9 · answered by I'm laughing WITH you 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not commited to you.
2006-11-30 04:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋