2006-11-30 04:40:15 · 26 answers · asked by lutungudahpakesarung 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is a better than 80% chance that she will eventually find out, aside from the moral implications. Right or wrong is up to you to determine.
2006-11-30 04:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by Samuel Crow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. I can tell that your heart is torn between both of these people that you obviously have strong feelings for. I have tried to be in a relationship with two people at once in the past (I had a fiance living up north and had a relationship with someone else in the south where i went to college). I found, however, that after a while (after the initial infatuation phase) with the new individual it will become clear which person you desire the most. Whoever starts giving you the "tummy tickles" (be it the ex or the new person) is the one you need to go after. In my opinion it is perfectly cool to love both of them at the same time (believe me there are FAR worse crimes than tossing out a little extra love) until it becomes apparent which one captures your heart. If you play the "game" the way society (and your current love) expects you to by breaking up with one person before going after another you very well might find yourself a lonely and unhappy old man. I've become emotionally callous to so called "cheating" a long time ago and have a clear understanding now that you need to basically go by the rule that "everything is fair in love and war" and find your true love. If I had not acted as stated above, I would not be happily married with a new baby (a miracle in my eyes) now. I hope you trust I am a good person because I speak from my heart. It is time for you my friend to listen to your heart right now. Do whatever you need to do to give both people a chance at capturing your heart. It is a noble cause and worth any guilt you may encounter during the process. Your heart and your soul will thank you for the sacrifice. True happiness awaits, but like all good things it comes with a price. Pay it in full and the guiding light of love will lead your heart to it's rightful owner.
2006-12-03 01:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Bumbo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!!! If you need to cheat, then you should not be together. It would be better to just divorce her now, because that's whats going to happen if she finds out anyways. Save her SOME pain and break it off.... However, if you really think that you can work it out then go to a marriage counselor and talk about what you are feeling.
Oh, by the way... I don't know what state you are in but I do know that In some states if a spouse catches another cheating and has proof... they get more than 1/2 of everything. And some judges see the cheating as abuse and could give her custody of the kids...
2006-11-30 04:49:07 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! My former husband fooled around on me a few times and I accepted his excuses because he made me feel that it was my fault 99% of the time. But what I finally came to realize is why is he staying with me if I make him do something so unforgivable. So I gave him his freedom. It hurt me more to have him lay next to me knowing he was just with someone else then it was to watch him walk out of my life. My point is if he needs to cheat then he really needs to let go of the relationship that is not allowing him to freely date.
Or fix what needs to be fixed in his marriage so he won't have a reason to cheat.
2006-11-30 04:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by Terry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don't want to be married why not get a divorce before u decide to cheat so no one will be hurt, or left abandoned. yes cheating reveals your character, this is who u are, and this is the way you believe. yes it is wrong to cheat, and deceive someone, maybe oneday u will be cheated on and than u will see how wrong it is. it is wrong because it hurts people, wrecks their lives, and destroys their trust.plus it is a reflection of who u are if u cheat.
2006-11-30 11:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you think it's wrong if your wife is cheating on you for any reason?
2006-11-30 04:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at the definition of "Cheat", put yourself in your wife's shoes and answer your own question.
cheat (cht)
v. cheat·ed, cheat·ing, cheats
v.tr.
1. To deceive by trickery; swindle
2. To deprive by trickery; defraud
3. To mislead; fool
v.intr.
1. To act dishonestly; practice fraud.
2. To violate rules deliberately
1. An act of cheating; a fraud or swindle.
2. One who cheats; a swindler.
2006-11-30 04:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Jim S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no good reason to cheat on your spouse. reasons only either make you look stupid or sometimes can make you look not quite so bad. it depends on whether you truely have a valid reason or if your just grabbing at straws for one to save your ***. ultimately there is no reason good enough to justify the act of cheating. there is always a better way to solve your marriage problems. if you arent interested in solving them then leave.
2006-11-30 08:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if the husband would like it if his wife was cheating on him for any reason and you'll have your answer.
2006-11-30 04:44:38 · answer #9 · answered by Violet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong. If you're having problems in your relationship, you need to work on them with your spouse. If you can't, then you should get divorced before moving on to someone else.
Cheating only hurts everyone that's involved. Be a man. Get counselling if you can't talk things out on your own.
2006-11-30 04:43:19 · answer #10 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋