Why do women always feel the need to compete with their mans mother?

Question

I mean how come women have so much trouble accepting the "other" woman in her husbands life? Why so much jealousy and competition?

Answer 1

If you love your mother more than your wife, then you're not a very good husband. End of discussion.

Answer 2

Because a man is supposed to "leave his mother and cling to his wife". Meaning the WIFE becomes the priority. Not all women are jealous of the mom. The problem arises when the mother tries to parent the marriage and interferes and the HUSBAND allows it completely disregarding the feelings of the wife which undermines her respect for both him and the mothernlaw. It is easy to accept that the mother will always be loved by her son ; what is unacceptable is the son not sticking up for his wife to his mom out of fear of displeasing MOM. When a man stands up to his mother and puts her into her proper place with regard to her treatment of the daughternlaw then she will usually back off. So, when you start getting from your mom what you get from your wife then you can call it a competition. Otherwise the WIFE comes first in all things. If you don't learn that you will soon find yourself without a wife. The fact that you asked "How com women have trouble accepting..." instead of "Why do mothers have trouble accepting the daughternlaws right to rule her own life with her husband etc..." is a perfect indication of how you normally address any situation involving the two.

Answer 3

Because she knows that the mother has always been there and will always be there, whereas the marriage can always end up in divorce. I don't like this question it makes me do more self-reflction than i'd like.Umm. Plus the mother-in-law knows all the things she would like to know about her husband. She knows everything he likes, everything he dislikes, and lots of things that he's done. There are so many memories with her, and (sometimes) she can cook better(especially his FAVORITE thing). It makes you feel insecure. Even if you're not outwardly competitive, you still feel some insecurity, that you can never do things as well as his mother, and therefore, his mother will always be "the best" woman he knows. (The only thing that you really have up on her is the sex, which she obviously can't do for him.)(hopefully!!!???gulp)

Answer 4

A mother in law is the "other women" to some womans husbands. To those of you who constantly come down on your wife for, not cleaning as well as their mother did, not cooking as well, not keeping up an appreance as well, to displine the kids.....etc... then you are creating an atmospher of resnetment, and its a shame because youlll awalys be the one in the middle, making you mom look wonderful, to the wife you degrade, also some men JUMP when momma says so. Its like you live in your own home, but the minute you mom says something, its golden and you stand by it. Other times your mothers try to comete with us wives, telling ther sons how they would have never done it like that(what ever your wife is doing) because watching someone else nuture and take care of you is a bit hard on them too. I believ this is why the Bible says a man is to leave his partents and cleave to his wife, his wife always comes first after that, so please allow her to take her place as your new queen. And yes there are some woman who for no reason chose to compete with their mother in-law, but they are usually the woman who comete with everyone else, probablyt including their husbands.

Answer 5

Lol. I feel competition a little - but no jealousy. My husband was raised by an excellent cook and I really suck. I try but it's not a gift. I wasnt born in America and all the women from my culture cook except me I guess.

Answer 6

I didn't, but I will reverse the question. Why does the man's mom compete with the wife? Why does she have so much trouble accepting the new woman in her son's life? In my case, she didn't even raise her son, but she feels like I took him from her.

Answer 7

Because a woman's little boy is her little boy even if she is 100 and he is 80!!

I left home at 15 for a navy training school and went to sea at 17. I was still getting letters from home 10 and 15 years later with two gold rings on my sleeve telling me to wear my vest and wrap up warm. I mean!! I was in charge of 35,000 tonnes of ship for 8 hours a day and I needed to be told to keep warm!!!???

I swear if I had stayed long enough to make Captain, I would still have got the letters!!

Live with it - there is not a force on earth which will change it - believe me!!

Answer 8

Seems like you pick the wrong women. There shouldn't be any jealousy. Healthy competition can be fun, but your wife should want to learn from your mother. Be as good as her. (Assuming you have a good mother.)

Answer 9

Well, am not a woman but experience had shown me that in most cases, it is the mothers that find it very difficult to let go of their sons. They think that the son is nolonger giving them enough time because of their wife. The son is nolonger a boy and most mothers are afriad that another woman would take their sons away from them.

Answer 10

its not exactly competing they just trying to make a good impression and some might get a little competive because you were your mommaas baby first and your mom feel that since a girl has come into a picture she has to try harder to keep you to make you always be her baby and your girlfriend feels that she has to try harder to compete with your mom so you all love can be strong and she feel that your might be the reason if she knows how to do stuff better than her that you all love will not be the same if she can't do for you that your mom can do

Answer 11

Having 2 ex mothers in law I would have to say, it's not competition as much as trying to be good enough in her eyes. What I mean is...mother's never think the girl is good enough for her son, so sometimes she never accepts the girl completely, thinking that she's not the one for him. So then the girl finds herself trying to prove that she's good enough for her son and so the games begin.