here is the thing,
i sent my friend an email telling her that my boyfriend and i had broken up. i am a complete mess about it. the break up was a surpise. the only reason why i emailed her instead of calling to be honest is because i couldn't stop crying. she didn't return my email at all about my break up news, but she did send me forwards. i emailed her again about a week and a half later and asked if everything was okay, and i asked her why she didn't respond to my email. she responded by saying that she didn't know what to say.
now don't get me wrong, i am thirty years old and i know that whatever she said wouldn't make the pain go away but i just wanted my friend there. when she and her boyfriend broke up, i was there for her. it be honest her failure to respond really hurt my feelings. at this point i am ready to cut her off. she used to complain that alot of her friends aren't her friends anymore, maybe they have a point. what do you guys think?
2006-11-30 04:32:26 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It would have been nice if she had acknowleged your pain, and if she was there for you, but she wasn't, and you can't force someone to be there for you.
theres this thing called reciprocity and in psychology class we talked about how if one person puts more into a relationship than the other, the only way it can work is if both people are happy with it. (giving more than recieving)
I'm having the same trouble with my best friend right now, I send her boxes of goodies, and call her, but she doesn't do the same. I am resigned to the fact that she's just not the type to reciprocate, but there are alot of other qualities I like in her, so I still keep her as my friend.
I say give her another chance, and stay friends with her only if you want to, but give her warning beforehand if you decide to end it..
2006-11-30 04:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by ladyjeansntee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your break up could have resurfaced the pain from her break up. Tell her how she made you feel when she didn't respond, try to do it face to face. If she is a real friend she will try to make it right. Good Luck!
2006-11-30 12:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy when we don't tell each other about those feelings; but my first reaction is same as you; to break the friendship. But I would definitely move her down my list; it shows that she doesn't care about you that much.
2006-11-30 12:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by THX_4_answering 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i consider someone a friend if she or he is sensitive to other people's feelings,including mine. Knowing how heartbroken you were, she could have at least replied. Even saying she didn't know what to say would have been enough.If i were you, i would lower my expectations when it comes to this "friend". Perhaps her idea of friendship isn't like yours.
2006-11-30 12:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by mrs P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was you I would conclude she is NOT your best friend. It's not the end of the world. Find a true friend who will always be with you.
2006-11-30 12:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by Dan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is upsetting, but not as serious as it for you to think about breaking up with your friend
2006-11-30 12:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by winterjane 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋