Lately i find that my love life, of 4 yrs, has become boring.
He makes an appointment for sex. Talking to him is not working, anyway, we haaardly ever talk to each other. He is always busy.
2006-11-30 04:26:16 · 18 answers · asked by Officelady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe the relationship is over. If he's always "busy" perhaps he's seeing someone else already. Perhaps you should just let it die.
2006-11-30 04:29:17 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure you even want to rekindle? I've been married for 25 years and we still talk all the time and there are still sparks flying if I had to have sex by appointment I might make that appointment with someone else ! Sounds like you have a pretty boring life, good luck!
2006-11-30 04:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by rockinshewolf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHY is he busy girl --- men as well as women demand attention - men like to experiment -- so they ask --- and usually are refused --why --- because what they ask is either ( in a womans eyes) bizarre -- kinky or crude -- and the women -- because she is driven by emotion -- and NOT sex --declines -- the fella will accept the first few refusals but then he thinks -- awwwwwwww hell I just cant be arsed anymore --- he is still fond of you and enjoys your company --but youve killed his drive so he "switches off" -- once that happens --- to try and rekindle what you had when first you met is virtually impossible ---- Of course on the other hand ---you could have been too demanding -- and he is worried he can't live up to your expectations --- thats a totally different ballgame ????
2006-11-30 05:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by harryinfrance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too busy to talk anything other than sex. It sounds like either he is avoiding the issue or he is genuinely too busy to even fart!!
I would pick a day, cook a nice meal and talk about how you feel. The rest will utimately be up to you but the starting point is to talk. If failing all else, consult the doctor about some counselling or browse the web for help and advice.
good luck
2006-11-30 04:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by Scatty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely sit him down and tell him how I am feeling. Guys are just not good at guessing how we feel. Sometime they get so wrapped up with their job or projects they forget about our needs. Just be clam, open and honest. Sometimes what I do is schedule a date with my husband and I find a restaurant that we can talk and be relaxed and I can open up to him on how I feel. If the atmosphere is right and it is within the scheduled time then he might be more open to hear your heart.
2006-11-30 04:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by Terry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE makes an appointment for sex, now why does he feel he has to do that I wonder? Men who do that, rightly or wrongly, feel rejected.
You find your love life boring, well YOU try spicing it up then. I have the impression everything is down to him
2006-11-30 07:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy to me. Is that a circulate between a sequin and penguin in wonderful condition? Sounds downright acceptable to me. i admire glitter and no be counted if that's a sprint revealing plenty the extra effective. be certain you do this 'satisfied ft' dance previously you climb into mattress. evaluate it foreplay.
2016-10-13 10:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by fugere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try to spice things up yourself. Wake him up with your head under the duvet if you get what i mean or meet him for lunch With just a coat and your underwear on.... it's either that or see relate counsellors. You could try talking to him but men don't like to talk unless they think they're going to lose you.
2006-12-02 07:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need some together time ... take a break somewhere...you don't have to go abroad or anything just go for a spa break together....it takes two to make a relationship work and it sounds like although you're bored you're willing to make a stab and making it work...now you gotta find out if he is willing to try aswell....otherwise it just ain't gonna happen.
if you're finding it boring you have to think what it is that is missing and what you would like to happen...then tell him what it is you want or make it into a surprise for him..maybe he will enjoy it and love it too
2006-11-30 04:33:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was hoping someone would have answered because I am going through the same thing
2006-11-30 04:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋