Can this baby be mine? Dates dont add up?????

Question

I met a girl on the 23rd of september this year. We went out for a couple of weeks, we had intercourse on the 15th of october and the 19th. She told me she was on the contraceptive pill. (cant be sure and we didnt use a condom) Around the 23rd of october i realised she had not had a period since we met. When i asked her she said she was due on the 18th of oct. Asked her to do a test and she refused , which caused lots of arguements , which in turn caused us to break up. Last week she phoned me to say she was 10 weeks pregnant, i am in turmoil , the dates dont add up . She has told me she had a period from the 13th to the 17th of september and has not had one since?
I am so confused as to wether it is mine? Can it possibly be mine?

Answer 1

Hi

Its not your baby Im afraid (not sure if that is good or bad news)

If you 2 only had sex on the 15th and 19th and she was due her period on the 18th then she either had only 3 days between ovulation and period or none at all!!! A womans's cycle means that she normally gets her period 14 days after ovulation - and she would have had to have been ovulating when you had sex for her to get pregnant.

The dates most definatly do not add up. ALSO if she phones you last week and said she was 10 weeks pregnant, that means she conceived in September before the 2 of you even had sex.

There is no way its your from the information you have given. Sounds more like she slept with someone she wishes she hadn't and she'd rather u stick around in her life to help her, than him.

Get a DNA paternity test or you could end up paying out time and money for a child that isn't yours by a woman who is prepared to lie and deceive you for her own gains (not to mention the child not knowing who their real father is)

Are you positive she is pregnant anyway? have you seen her do a test?

Answer 2

I dont think it is your because if she had her period on the 13th she ovulated on the 27th -30 of September, a women only ovulate 3 days in the entire month, meaning there is only 3 days in the entire month where one can get prego.So you guys had sex on the 15th and 19th, there was no way she was ovulating on the 15 nor the 19th of October.

A person can only get pregnant when they ovulate.Even if she did get her period on the 18th of October she would ovulate on the 1 of November, 14 days after her period and ocording to your story you did not touch her on those dates, so she was pregnant from September 27th-30th one of these days she got prego.

To know how many weeks she is pregnant count from the first day of her period which was september 13, from september 13rd to today she would be 10 weeks and 3 days and according to you she call last week so something is wrond the bottom line is the days she ovulated you did not have sex with her.

So take a DNA test, you can actually find out know while she prego, go to the clinic and take some blood work you don't have to wait until the baby is born and keep stressing yourself, Good luck.

Answer 3

It's possible that it is your baby. They count the weeks from the date of the last period to determine how many weeks pregnant you are. So it may be off by a couple.

Request a DNA test, that is the only way you will know for sure. If it is your child, then be the best dad you can be.

ALWAYS use a condom. It does not matter if the person says they are on birth control. STD's are a huge risk as well as pregnancy.

ALSO.. If you really don't think this is your child, or if you do NOT want to marry this girl. DON'T let yourself get forced into marriage because of this.
It's get a lot more difficult even if the child is not yours, if you are married when the child is born.

Answer 4

Hmm tricky one if she had a period 13th-17th Sept then working out the dates she would have been due a period around the first time you both had sex. She said she was due on the 18th Oct which gives her a 31 day cycle. It is possible that the baby is yours, although I understand why you are so unsure as the dates are so close.
The only thing I can suggest is to ask what her due date is then work it out or post on here again then.
You could always meet her to look at her notes to find out if she is 10wks.
Its worth remembering that doctors work out how many weeks you are by the last day of your period, therefor she will be 10wks 4 days.
More light will be shed after her first scan ask if you can attend as then you can find out how far gone she is if you suspect she could be more than 10wks. Good luck and email me if you need any more dates working out.

Answer 5

yes it can be a woman doesn't always (if ever) ovulate on day 14 of her cycle and 10 weeks pregnant is taken from the first day of her last period, so by that it doesn't matter when she conceived it will still be 10 weeks.

if you had been dating at the time and you don't suspect her of cheating then i'd accept the baby is yours. of course before yo make any payments towards the baby's upkeep you can request a dna test. if she has nothing to hide she has nothing to worry about.

until the baby is born don't mention it again as you don't want to stress her out during her pregnancy....she already has a lot to plan for and worry about without having arguments with her!

congratulations your going to be a daddy!

Answer 6

You need to get a DNA test done. Unfortunatley for you, the safest time to get a baby tested is after it's born (although you can get it done in utero but obviously you have to have the mother's consent).

I wish young men would think before having sex without a condom. You can't always trust a girl you've known for a couple of weeks. There are some real skanks out there (I'm not saying this girl is - I don't know) who want MONEY!! Let's not be coy about this. Once you've impregnated a girl it isn't just about becoming a father and all the responsibility of having a baby in your life. It's about PAYING in COLD, HARD CASH for 18 -19 years through the CSA (all they need is that precious DNA result)and it's 15% of everything you earn (overtime included!)

We talk so much about girls protecting themselves against unwanted pregnancies but I wish some young men would think about how much their lives can be affected too if hey don't use a condom.

Best wishes to you. I hope this turns out how you want it to. If it does pleases take it as a big, fat warning for the future.

Answer 7

It could well be yours. I got pregnant by having sex 5 days before I expected my period to be due. 3 days before a period is due isn't most people's most fertile time, but if her periods were irregular, it could easily be yours. And she would be 10 or 11 weeks pregnant if her last period was mid September because it's counted from then.
You had unprotected sex with her in the month that she conceived, so it's either yours or someone else she slept with during late September or October.

Answer 8

You are right the dates dont add up. Tell her that when the child is born you want a paternity test. Unless she is homeless or starving dont give her money until you are sure its yours. Lets double check the figures: sept 23 to oct 23, 4 weeks,
oct 23 to Nove 23 4 weeks sot thats only 8 weeks as of this date. So if shes sure she is 10 weeks then probably not yours!!!

Answer 9

It really depends on when her last perod in September was and from the dates you have been given then sorry to say this baby could be yours.. You can get pregnant anytime to be honest despite the myths. It is possible to get pregnant on the pill if you have been under the weather used medication. missed a pill ect.
It only takes once at the right time and you can get pregnant I am afraid.
dates do add up going by her last period i am afraid so yes it may well be yours.

Answer 10

yes this baby certainly could be yours. you do not know when she is ovulating.
I am really actually quite disappointed in the number of questions I read relating to this same situation.
Does no one out there where a condom anymore? The pill is not 100% effective at preventing pregnancy and does NOT prevent any type of sexually transmitted infection!
There are quite a few STI's that show no symptoms what-so-ever but can cause infertillity health problems (i.e. kidney and liver failure) and in some cases death. This country is not a clean place and you just remember when you sleep with someone with no glove you are sleeping with everyone else they have slept with and carry the risk of passing on an infection or catching one.
un-protected sex should be reserved for relationships where you know you are secure in each other and have had tests.
I know you will scoff when you read my answer but I know 2 people who have genital warts THIS CAN NOT BE GOTTEN RID OF AND IS VERY PAINFULL!!! and you prolly think it will never happen. but either you are going to end up scattering fatherless children everywhere (that statistics show are more prone to a life of crime, not as good of an education, ASBO's, teen pregnancy, abusers blah blah the list goes on)
If you are happy to jump into bed with someone for a bit of fun you aught ot be man enough to take responsibility for what you have created!!!!