Recently I have been confronted with a problem my wife had with me talking to another girl. Now where we live we have no friends. I had a friend from high school look me up and start talking to me. Granted we had long conversations but nothing out of the ordinary catching up on friends we had lost and made, what they were doing now and so on so on. My wife works for a big company and goes out with her friends, some guys some girls quite frequently; some time over night. She spends time at lunch. When I met her; guy's were the only people she hung out with and talked to. She even chose them over me a couple of times. I find it difficult to believe that a conversation can be compared to cheating when they are 2500 miles away.
2006-11-30 04:22:29 · 12 answers · asked by LJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just give lots of resurences. It does sound like your wife is insecure. Maybe before she met you she was cheated on horribly.
2006-11-30 04:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's too damn busy to even feel cheated on.
IF it's a problem for her, and your conversations are innocent, keep them saved so she can read them.
The emotional cheating would be to be giving the old friend more time than to the wife.
Flirting can be a cause of cheating. Many things could be put in the catogory of cheating.
Talk with the wife. Point out all the freedom she get's in your marriage. Ask her if your allowed any.
2006-11-30 04:29:38 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional cheating is displaying / providing affection or desire of another while withholding the same from the one you say you love. To be emotionally involved with someone seems the ultimate act of betrayal. You are giving away your love, your, your heart mind and perhaps your soul if you connect with them emotionally. Whereas, the physical is just the body. The body dies but the being that you share emotionally lives on. It seems that you have given so much more than what you ever could physically. You can have sex with someone without being consumed by them.
Intentional or not, the action or thoughts will hurt the other should it become known.
2006-11-30 04:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar situation only last year. My partner was having an emotional affair on the Internet with someone he didn't know. It hurt just as bad as catching someone in the physical act of cheating. An emotional affair is too people that are devoting alto of time to their conversations together, whether it be through the phone or on-line. Developing feelings for one another, feeling the need to have this person talking to them even though it is killing there own physical relationships. My partner and I went to counseling for this. Our counselor blankly looked him in the face and said you are cheating. It may not be physical but there is a part of you that is living in this dream of being with the other person in the affair. If you find yourself feeling strong emotions for the person that you are affairing with..you are in real trouble. As for your wife's actions, let her know that it hurts you. That you feel threatened by the presence of other males around her the majority of the time. Tell her that you would like to be more included in her life, then maybe she will understand your need to reminisce with old friends whether they be male or female.
2006-11-30 04:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by hollytaylor_18 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Emotional cheating is desiring to have a romantic or sexual relationship with someone other than your partner.
It is wrong because it weakens the bond between two partners. You will start comparing this person and your spouse, start wondering what it is like to hold that person in your arms, start imagining that your spouse is the other person when you embrace. You may even start confiding in that other person instead of your spouse.
I am not saying that your wife doesn't have issues or what she is doing is right. But two wrongs don't make a right and this is only making things worse.
2006-11-30 04:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by tbonz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stricly, emotional cheating is you sharing your heart, emotions, feelings with someone other than your spouse, and there for not sharing them with the spouse. This brings the friend in closer to your heart and pushes away the spouse because they don't get that emotional bond.
In your case, you don't have your wife to talk to, so you turned to someone else. If she wants that emontional bond, she has to be avaiable.
2006-11-30 04:33:45 · answer #6 · answered by David G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
emotional cheating is having your mind with some one else thinking of them always and never leaving them a physical affair is a one night stand going home and being able to forget them
2006-11-30 04:32:57 · answer #7 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional cheating is when you begin to turn to someone else with your problems, dilemmas, joys, just to vent, or anything else that you would ordinarily share (vocally) with your spouse; you begin to look forward to sharing these things with this other person IN PLACE of your spouse - the one you should look forward to talking to
2006-11-30 05:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by T S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you give your wife reason to be jealous for her to accuse you of cheating?
Only you can answer that question sincerely.
2006-11-30 04:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by WomanOnTop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Physical cheating is much worst when you get caught.
2006-11-30 04:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋