I have three kids and its hard to keep the house spotless at all times. To me this is cruelty. What should I do?
2006-11-30 04:16:09 · 17 answers · asked by jjeano661 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wait, .. a _man_ is with-holding sex?
no no no, it's women that have that power.
when he does want it, don't give it - hell, call it rape if he does so, you might be married, but he can still rape you
2006-11-30 04:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is using that as an excuse! Are u home with the kids all day? If you are I'm sure you keep the house picked up all day. With 3 kids it is hard, The only time you have to really clean is at night when the kids are a sleep! Tell him to start helping if he wants the house cleaner. Either with the cleaning or watching the kids! Do not let him know that not having relations with him worries you, because he will use this method again. It sounds like he needs to help you! Good Luck.
2006-11-30 04:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by beaner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start figuring out who the heck he is sleeping with. He is using that as an excuse. You aren't his maid. Tell him he would get better results if he showed you by example. Let him do all the crap he expects of you for a 6 months. Stop taking care of his crap. Take care of only you and the kids. Don't put this on your self. It's tough be the primary caregiver and taking care of the house. For one thing it isn't any fun. For another thing it is frustrating when you clean an area only to turn around 5 minutes later and find it a mess again. It's like a bottomless pit leaving little time for you and all the while drowning you in the mess. Having an inconsiderate, demanding OAF for a mate just adds insult to injury. Get some back bone and put the burden back in his court. NO MAN GOES W/O SEX for 8 months because HE chooses too. He's either whacking off till he gets carpal tunnel syndrome , sleeping with someone else, gay, or needs medical attention cuz he can't get it up .
2006-11-30 05:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to sit down and talk. Understanding the other person's point of view is a great way to resolve most problems. If you can't do it on your own, go to a counselor. If he won't go with you, go alone. Witholding personal intimacy without just cause is emotional abuse and you are the only one who can decide how long you are willing to put up with this.
I have to wonder where else in your relationship he rules with an iron fist? Does he pout all evening if dinner isn't exactly on time or the kids are a little rowdy? Just something to think about.
2006-11-30 04:26:56 · answer #4 · answered by Harley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didnt stop having sex with you because you dont clean the house to his specifications.Theres gotta be something else going on.He's either cheating or hes lost interest in sex.For a man that unusual.Hes using the house cleaning as an excuse.
2006-11-30 04:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like that is the real reason he stopped having sex with you. Sounds like an excuse not to. How long has it been? He may be getting it somewhere else. I think you guys need to seek counseling.
2006-11-30 04:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by DVine 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is cruelty. You can also bet that if he isn't having sex with you, he's having it elsewhere. Sounds like it's time to kick him out.
2006-11-30 04:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Stop cooking. cleaning, doing laundry and raising his kids until HE straightens up!
2006-11-30 04:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by Bella Donna 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he stopped having sex with you that is up to your standards and THAT'S why you won't clean the house.
2006-11-30 04:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Better get cleaning, and hire some help!
2006-11-30 05:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He isn't a good husband. You need couselling.
2006-11-30 04:19:13 · answer #11 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋