I have been with my guy for 2 years. He says that he knows that I am the one for him and that he does want to marry me 'someday'. I moved across the country to be with him(his job) and now we are moving to another state because his job is transfering him again. I would never want to marry him if he wasn't ready, but I am confused as to why he says he wants to, but just not 'yet'. If he really wants to marry me, why would he want to put it off?
2006-11-30 04:08:45 · 12 answers · asked by h_nanny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He isn't ready. He knows he wants to and it will happen, be patient, get worried in about 2 more years if no proposal has been made.
2006-11-30 04:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Haven't you heard the expression, "When a guy says he's not ready to get married, it means he doesn't want to marry you". Sorry but it's the truth. My husband dated the same woman for 4 years and he kept making excuses - I need to make more money, I want to buy a house. I came along and we were married 9 months later. His former girlfriend was a wonderful person, he just didn't want to marry her.
2006-11-30 12:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is a huge commitment, and the truth is, people change. What I have wanted out of life has changed a lot in the last 4 years and he probably thinks the same thing. He knows you are the one, but he doesn't want you to be the typical couple that gets divorced. It is one thing to know you are the one, it is another thing to know you will always be the one.
2006-11-30 12:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live with him, he's very comfortable in that situation and he doesn't think anything else should change since he's got everything at home. You need to make him choose. Its either you or nothing. Tell him your fed up with this situation and you want something worth staying for. You've changed your life for him by moving around for him. Now its his turn and he needs to show you some commitment. He'll do it only if he truly loves you.
2006-11-30 12:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by na5nica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old he is, or of he's been married before. There are soooo many reason why a guy hesitates. Since I don't know him, I can't tell you. But when he's ready, he will. Sometimes a little nudge helps. But why buy the cow, when the milk is free.
2006-11-30 12:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he marry you. I'm guessing you are giving up the booty. He has everything he wants with no strings attached. Trust me, your not the first in this situation. However, 2 yrs is still not super long either.
2006-11-30 12:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt push the issue. I waited patiently for my man, and it was worth it. If you push or nag about getting married, he may be thrown on the issue and insist on waiting longer. Its good for people to wait. Marriages FAIL all the time (not saying you two would fail) but its a fact and it shouldnt be taken lightly. Good luck to you!
2006-11-30 12:12:07 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he doesn't really want to marry you. Guys are pretty simple. If they want to do something, they do. Since you're acting like a wife, he doesn't really need to do anything else, does he?
2006-11-30 12:13:07 · answer #8 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him, what it is that's making him hesitant. His job seems to move him around a lot, maybe he just wants to know that you can handle it.
2006-11-30 12:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is scared he will screw up or he hasn't found the right time which is my personal opinion i always say if its god's will nothing can come between it.
2006-11-30 12:12:52 · answer #10 · answered by revelationwannabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋