well...im in 8th grade and 13 and my best friend is also 13 and 8th grade...im smart enough not to but she isnt...she had u know what with a 15 year old and shes no sure if he used a condom and if shes pregnant or not ive already told her how stupid she was to do it and how its her fault she didnt walk away (no it wasnt a rape) so she feels stupid right now but shes still thinking she couldnt do anything about it...what can i do to make her understand?? i know i should stay out of it but shes my best friend and..u know...shes 13
2006-11-30 03:52:07 · 17 answers · asked by amandacupcake 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Okay you've told her how stupid she is now try to be supportive to her. She's going through a rough stage right now and she need her friend. She realizes that shes made a mistake. Tell her to buy a home pregnancy test. Whether it's positive or negative she needs to see a doctor. So go with her to your local Planned Parenthood and hold her hand. That's what I would do for my friend.
2006-11-30 03:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well first does your Friend get her period? If not, I doubt that she's prego. It's possible though! Next talk to your friend and let her tell you about it! Ask her why she did it! Did it make her feel better? Did she do it with the right guy? But never say anything towards her that may make her feel mad and upset at you. When your talking to her asking her these questions, in her mind she'll realize that I might not have been the right time for her! And make sure that if she does have sex, that she makes her where a condom! Very important! Not just because she can get pregnant, but she can also contract sexually transmitted diseases! I hope this helps you!
2006-11-30 04:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
at least she has a smart friend like you to make her aware of everything. First of all tell that brat how it's possible for her to not know if he used a condom or not. If he out a rubber on his penis he did otherwise he didn't. Second, tell her that the only thing you need to get pregnant is having sex, doesn't matter if he pulls out before coming, doesn't matter if it was her 1st time...all you need is sperm in there. Same for aids and hiv...you can get them ANY time you don't use a condom. Third, she's way too young to be having sex...she's gonna get a slut reputation. Fourth, a woman CAN always say NO if she doesn't want to...what is this thing about her not being able to get out of it...she's very young and manipulable right now. Be there for her and give her all thses advice.
2006-11-30 03:58:37 · answer #3 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of, good for you for knowing to stay abstinent at your age! Depending on how long ago this happened, if she has missed a period or anything, she may want to take a pregnancy test. Talk to Planned Parenthood for birth control options. Most of the time it is free for young students.
As far as it being consensual, depending on the state you live in, it may be considered statutory rape because she is only 13. Legal age of consent in many states is 15.
Good luck to you both.
2006-11-30 04:05:22 · answer #4 · answered by Dawn Brook - Hamilton NJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, was she drunk or under the influence of some other drug? this could explain her not knowing if he wore a condom. also, if she was under the influence, legally it can be considred rape. (not because of his age...bot h are too young for consent by law) she needs to calm down because stressing out about something can make her peiod late, which could make her think she is pregnant. and she ought to visit Planned Parenthood right away to get tested for STD's. she can also go on birth control and recieve a pregnancy test from them as well. just assure your freind that you're there for her no matter what, and listen to her when she talks about it...it just may have been rape after all and she is too embarassed or scared to admit it.
2006-11-30 04:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Duelen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweetie....you can't make someone understand something that you believe is right/wrong. That's just the way it is...
my suggestion is, if she does feel stupid about it, just be there to support her. if she is your friend than that's all you can do. you could try to get her to do a pregnancy test (if she's worried about parents....etc... try a family planning centre. i believe it is confidential....check on that).
in the end, if she is pregnant she's going to have to tell someone.
the other thing to worry about is an STD...she needs to get tested for HIV. as well as HPV (as this can cause cervical cancer later on)
main thing??? her physical & emotional health.. support her decisions.
cuz when it comes down to it, it's done, in the past....cant change the past...only create the future.
M t C
2006-11-30 04:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by MerlinTheCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. Tell her that it is sooo disrespectful to herself to do that. She is still a baby herself! Guys wont like you more or have any respect for her at all, behind her back they will say she is easy, a slut, whore, all those nasty things and will just use her. Maybe explaining that will help....does she believe in God?? How about premarital sex?
Tell her the risk of getting an STD even with a condom....
Some places offer classes to show kids what its like to be a parent...a baby depending on them 24/7 screaming and crying,,,the dirty nasty diapers.
Good for you for having some self respect!!! Stay strong dont give in just cuz your friends are doing it....wait until you are ready (and even then wait a little longer to be sure!)
2006-11-30 03:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wouldnt it be nice if all 13 year old girls had friends like you.Dont tell your friend that she messed up (bad) she has to know that already.wait and find out if shes pregnant then talk to her.And yes theres alot she could have done about this.Hopefully shell learn from this mistake.
2006-11-30 04:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by betsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is already willing to do things like that with boys then she may not be the best choice of friends.
If you tell, you risk the backlash at school. (I remember how it was)
If you stay friends with her, she'll end up pulling you into her drama.
Wash your hands of it hon. You're not her mom, and not her guardian. Her mom should be a better mother to keep tabs on her daughter but its not your responsibility to tell or get involved.
Tell her you don't think you can be friends with her right now and if you want to talk to anyone about it yourself, talk to your own mom. Tell your mom you don't want involved but just wanted her to know why you can't be friends with that girl anymore. Your mom will be very proud of you.
2006-11-30 04:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Youre her good friend and you shouldnt stay out of it or keep telling her what stupid slit she is. Tell her parents immediately so they can put a proper handle on it. They need to know as soon as you finish reading this. Youre parents may be a great guide in helping you with this. And dont be friends with whores! I hope you and your friends have learned a serious lesson from such irresponsibility displayed by blunt stupidity.
2006-11-30 04:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by element_op 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋