I just opened up to this guy that I've been seeing, telling him that I once had a minor addiction of my own, but I overcame it. I wanted him to know that since he is dealing with a slight minor addiction, that he's once mentioned to me that he needs help, would telling him that we can talk about it or that I'd be there for him on one or more occasion make him think I'm trying change him or pressure him to get better? How do I handle such a situation? Did I bug him if I keep telling him I'll be there for him, like would he get offended? If I last wrote him an email about it, & he hasn't responded, should I just wait until he comes to me, and wait for him to contact me?
FYI-my addiction was ephedrine/diet pills due to modeling
his is tobacco chew from baseball
2006-11-30 03:50:37 · 3 answers · asked by V i P b A b Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you've already spoken to him about it and emailed him about your feelings, then I'd wait for his response. The good thing is you've told him you will help him through it and that you are there for him. That's all you need to say about it. Taking it any farther may become annoying to him or he could take it the wrong way. You've done your part...now see what happens. Hopefully, he'll open up to you but if not don't get upset. Men just handle things differently than women. Women like to talk about everything and men sometimes like to handle things more internally. He has to make the decision to try & quit....no one can force him into it. I wish you both luck.
2006-11-30 04:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have answered your own question...just let him come to you.
You have let him know you are both there for him and willing and able to help if he desires it..that's all you can do...
you are right, Men often think they are being pushed if you continue bringing this up. He most likely is still trying to come to his own terms with this issue. You have done the right thing, so when and if he comes to you, then be as supportive as you can. Good luck!
2006-11-30 03:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by rachprime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've already put it out there that you're available....let him come to you! Men are funny about stuff like this....good luck with everything!
2006-11-30 04:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋