why do people lie in relationships?

Answer 1

To hide something.

Answer 2

People are likely to lie when romantic partners or spouses...
ask a lot of pointed questions,
have issues with intimacy (need a lot of space),
set unrealistic expectations,
react poorly to the truth,
have too much power,
have been caught lying,
It is important to remember that quite often the laying is a negative reaction to spousal behavior.
Some persons are compulsive liars. They are different from a normal liar in that a pathological liar believes the lie he or she is telling to be true—at least in public—and is "playing" the role. He or she has a serious mental problem that needs to be rectified.

Answer 3

People lie in relationships because they aren't ready to let go. I loved my girlfriend with everything I had ( I think I still do =( ) and all she did was cheat on me no matter how much I asked her not to. She confessed after we found out that she was 4 months pregnant, that she was sleeping with someone 16 years younger than her. I used to work with the guy. I asked her why. After all the times I begged her not to. Know what she said? BECAUSE, I WASN'T DONE HAVING FUN WITH YOU YET. This is why people get killed and end up on the ten o'clock news. Be careful out there.....

Answer 4

It depends on what the lie is about. It is the lies that makes a marriage turn into divorce. I don't know why people bother making promises to each other when they know those promises will not be kept. I guess that is just another lie also.

Answer 5

It depends on their motive~ to cover inadequacies they have about themselves and put a better 'foot forward' to impress or to be accepted. It could be that they want to sneak around on someone else, take advantage of another, or they can actually deceive themselves of the truth. Some people just don't have a value of honesty. Lying in a relationship erodes trust~ which is essential in a solid relationship.

Answer 6

I never lie , unless and until the situation is that much of difficult. Even i dont hate liears. My Lover have lied to me, i know he feeling guilty for that, i can understand why he did so.

My dear in life situations like this happens, God have given me lot of Patience. So dont feel guilty , i know what ever you have done that is for our good. I am yours for ever. I want my husband to be a best friend of Mine. I want to share each and every thing with him without hiding. The relationship always build with trust. I have nature of trusting people rather then suspecting.

Answer 7

A lot of people will tell you what they think you want to hear, even if it's a lie, because they fear rejection. On the other hand, people will lie because they don't want you to know the truth.

Answer 8

Its easy, to be better to the person that ua re with, or just cause human nature, I am not saying is right but sometimes people lie to supposltly make happen the significant other dont u think?

Answer 9

Because of lack of trust and the existence of mutualrespect.Also,unfaithfulness is another strong factor.Mistakes are bound to occour but one must be in the position of being truthful.And you shall say the truth and the truth will set free.Truthfulness strenthens relationship.

Answer 10

Lying is often part of a relationship system, with lying on one of the system and anger or judgment on the other end.

Lying is a technique that is used to influence, control and manipulate other’s thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Lying comes naturally, and most of the time, it happens with little awareness, effort, or thought. In fact, children start lying, quite effectively, early in life. And as adults, people continue to lie.

Lying is typically motivated by one or more.

Punishment

Lying is often used to avoid punishment or possible rejection. If a spouse or romantic partner is going to react poorly to the truth, generally speaking, people try to hide or conceal the truth. By nature, people are designed to avoid harm and punishment, even if individuals have to lie in order to do so. Again, children pick-up this skill early in life and people continue to lie as adults

Approval

Not only are people designed to avoid punishment, but people universally have a need for approval. Lying and deception are often used to create a favorable image or impression. People will go to great lengths, even using deception, if necessary, to create a positive image. Often this involves some self-deception as well – people start to believe their own false image is true.

Privacy

Everyone needs some privacy – a sense of independence, autonomy, and freedom. People like to feel in control, especially when it comes to giving out information about one’s self. Just because you are in a close relationship does not mean that you have completely given up your right to, or need for, privacy. So, lying and deception are very useful when trying to maintain a sense of one’s self that is autonomous, independent, and private.

Conflict

Couples rarely see eye-to-eye on every issue. And if couples were determined to (and some do), they could engage in never ending conflict on a range of issues. But, always engaging in conflict is damaging in any relationship. So, rather than argue about every issue that may come up, sometimes it is easier to avoid conflict by pretending to get along.

Power

Whether people like to acknowledge it or not, power differences are present in every relationship. Power involves having control when it comes to decision making. And power often switches back and forth between partners depending on the issue at hand. For instance, one partner might have financial power, while another partner may have social power (control in social situations). As a general rule, the person who lacks power in any given situation is more likely to lie in order to influence the outcome. For instance, kids are more likely to lie to their parents, employees are more likely to lie to employers, and the same holds true in close relationships. The person, who lacks power, is more likely to lie in order to get what they want. Lying helps individuals even out power differences that may exist.

Answer 11

somtimes people lie about stuff to save them from getting hurt and other people just do it because they know they are in the wrong and dont want to face it