It seems there is a culture developing where it is acceptable for gay men to harass straight men in the work place. I’m sure that I am not the only one who continually gets disgusting sexual innuendoes from gay men in a primitive attempt to ‘convert’ us even after we have made it abundantly clear that we are straight. Well I for one am sick to death of tip toeing around their delicate sensibilities and any further persistent attempt on me will be met with that most affective of rebuttals; the good old slap across the chops.
“Do what thy wilt but not with me”
2006-11-30
03:13:42
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I suppose being scorching hot has its own unique set of drawbacks. Think about that the next time you berate your ugly face in the mirror.
2006-11-30
03:37:24 ·
update #1
Just a little humour, I could not resist.
2006-11-30
03:45:21 ·
update #2
I work in a hotel. Do I need to say more than that? The place is swarming. There is even commonly place terminology like the ‘pink club’ referring to the older gay men’s predisposition for young boys; something I could do without knowing.
I would not report someone to HR department as I would not like to see anybody loose their job and I also do not subscribe to that kind of pre-school mentality. The situation is most of an irritant than some serious issue.
2006-11-30
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In my opinion your observations are right on target. A good gay friend of minds explianed it to me like this. He said that Sigmund Freud professed that all straight men secretly fantasize about sex with other men and that most gay men are well in tune with Freudian philosophy.
So according to him and from what I have seen as well, it's the same logic used when straight men try to bed a conservative woman or a virgin, we're trying to convert her into wanting and liking to have sex with us. Gay guys are trying or hoping to do the samething except instead of women it's guys they're after.
Sure, they'll deny it publicly because that would do damage to the current homosexual agenda berating our culture today but secretly, they're mostly always on the prowl looking for any indication of that unsuspecting staright guy that they can do him so good, he'll never look at a woman again.
2006-11-30 03:24:41
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answered by huckleberry 3
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If you are being harassed, report it to your supervisor and/or HR. Sexual harassment of any kind is not tolerated in the workplace.
However, it sounds more like your fantasy and an excuse to vent your bigoted opinions about LGBT people. Gay men do not want to "convert" anyone who is not already gay - you'd probably be really bad at it, anyway.
Your so-called "Delicate sensibilities" is called inclusion and recognizing the diversity of all. You better recognize this or prepare to get slapped with a lawsuit of your own.
Striking someone else in the workplace is never justified, and also grounds for battery. So grow up and deal with this supposed "harassment" like an adult through the proper authorities.
2006-11-30 11:24:38
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answered by Anonymous
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Well, interesting problem, and not that uncommon. It would seem that some of my counterparts cannot take no for an answer, doesn't it. You have a taste of what women go through every day of their lives...not so pleasant, eh? Learn from it and never do it yourself...as I am sure you don't.
When this happens to me, (and yes, believe it or not, it happens to gay men all the time..the guy who will not take no is a royal pain in the butt) I have found this line is very effective:
"why would I want to have sex with you when I can have sex with someone really nice and hot?" That one cools their heels dead in the track. Try it and see if it doesn't work. Don't worry about their feelings, they have already proved they are lumoxes anyway. Good luck
2006-11-30 15:03:14
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answered by Curious 3
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ROFLMAO!!
If it is actual harassment, then it can be reported and rightfully so. Physical Violence of any sort will in all likelihood result in your termination. Good luck in the unemployment line.
Having worked for a number of years with many gay and heterosexual men I can honestly say I have NEVER seen or heard any gay man attempting to "convert" so I do question both your honesty as well as your integrity. If the situation is as I imagine it, by all means, take a swing at someone, the place will be a lot more productive and pleasant when you are off in the unemployment line.
Scorching Hot? With an attitude like the one you exhibit it simply isn't possible. (Delusion, party of one, your fantasy is ready.)
2006-11-30 11:28:40
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answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6
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I am unclear as to what you are suggesting happens. When I first started reading your post I presumed you were dealing with sexual harrassment and was going to suggest HR or legal action -- but later you refer to it as an irritant. Yet, the first part of your post isn't about an irritant, it is clearly about a compelling case of sexual harrassment where people are actually attempting (as if it were possible) to turn you gay.
Not being sure which it is:
1. If this is guys thinking you are cute and making simple passes at you similar to what you make a girls -- then for goodness sake grow up. Women still make passes at me sometimes, and when I was 18, 19, 20 -- it was all the time. They knew I was gay, I was out -- that didn't stop them from trying, and I viewed it very much as complimentary, but uninteresting, and told them so, politely. Over time, most of the passes stopped.
2. If this is guys actually laying hands on you, being persistent, or attempting to get in your pants using their positions in the workforce -- then it is sexual harrassment, and the appropriate reaction IS to go to HR -- not because its "pre-school" and regardless of whether someone loses their job over it -- but because sexual harrassment can NEVER be appropriate or tolerated. Not of women by men, not of men by women, not of men by men and not of women by women. BTW -- I had one woman, when I was young, who once blocked me in my office attempting to convince me that if I would only have sex with her one time, I would never want a boy again. It was my first real job. I like you didn't want to get anyone in trouble -- and I did nothing, although I was uncomfortable and it took me 8 months to feel ok about being at work again (more or less 8 months). If I knew then what I know now, I would have gone to HR. If that type of thing is what is happening to you -- go.
Contact me if you need to talk.
Kindest thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2006-11-30 13:34:01
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answered by Anonymous
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Been asked a similar question by my straight friend who visited a gay bar for the first time. "How to deal with a gay guy hitting at me? " I told him: "Exactly the way you would deal with a fat ugly girl hitting at you in a straight bar! There are range of options:
- Sorry you are not my type.
- Sorry I have a girlfriend and love her
- Sorry this guy/girl is my partner
Be polite; after all someone showing interest is another form of complement that you are a handsome person - may that be a from a ugly old man or young fat stupid girl. After all, No one in the world can force you to do something you do not want to do!"
When you have confidence in this then this is what we call my friend a person who is 'comfortable with his sexuality'.
I hear your fustration and have similar fustration but the other way round. I keep having some of my female students at university and female colleages who - because they know I am straight acting gay man - they would keep making blunt moves in hope to convert me. Some went all the way to dress in very revealing cloths or get me drunk in the student bar! But I used the same method to get the message through to them.
2006-12-01 13:35:52
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answered by Fadi S 2
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Humm, interesting, Im sure that if women harrassed you at work it would be perfectly acceptable though huh? And, furthermore, is it ok for men to harrass women at work? Its all the same honey, and its all called sexual harrassment. So how bout this, report him. Or are you afriad to because people might think that you are gay? If a man or a women hit on me at work and made me feel uncomfortable, i would report it. Slapping someone across the chops is only going to get you in trouble. Do it the right way!
2006-11-30 11:24:29
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answered by arielsalom33 4
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So you're saying that ALL gay men hit on straight men?
I would never come on to a straight guy. First of all, it's pointless. There are plenty of hot gay men who will reciprocate, so why go for a straight guy? Second, in the workplace, sexual innuendos are inappropriate PERIOD, not just for the gay guys but for ANYONE. And third, I'm with Tab H....I think you made that story up to make some kind of point, a generalization in attempt to make all gay men look bad.
2006-11-30 11:23:06
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answered by ByTheSea 4
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I have not come across this and I work as an employment law consultant handling lots of issues in a wide range of companies and organisations. However, any form of harassment is unjustified whoever it is from so you should certainly report it to your manager or HR department. I don't believe it is a developing culture so perhaps it is just in your organisation.
2006-11-30 13:49:02
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answered by Adam 2
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I believe you should let this person know that it's getting way out of hand, and if it continues then you will go that step on reporting the individual to your boss or maybe even taking legal action with this person because it is sexual harrassment with the innuendoes and you should be respected regardless of your gender and etc.
2006-11-30 12:09:31
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answered by David 2
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