What do you women think? Well open to anybody's opinion.?

Question

My friend, well now former friend, and his woman had a dispute that turned ugly. His woman is a very nice lady, who's faithful and loves him. He's not that way toward's her though. They both got into an altercation, in which she was accusing him of never coming around until he wanted some, and that he's cheating on her. Well, what she said really got him fired up because, the next thing i know he hit her right in the face. The next day he called me trying to justify what he did, but i refused to agree with him. I responded, that she didn't deserve that, no matter how mad a woman makes you, you should never hit her. Now he's mad at me. Now he's even madder that his woman soon to be ex woman, doesn't talk to him, but talks to me being that me and her are friends. I had to end my friendship with him. It shocked me seeing him do that, and trying to justify it was just plain dumb. I'm not trying to judge him, but i just can't be down with a guy that would hit a woman.What do you all think?

Answer 1

I think it's comendable that you're not willing to look past his actions as a "one time thing," or that you're not accepting his excuses. You're right, no man should hit a woman in anger (or vice versa), and I only hope this lady does as you suspect she will, and leaves him, or gives him an ultimateum to either get anger management counselling or to get out. She'll need your friendship and support.. she's lucky to have a friend like you around. :)

Answer 2

I agree with you, it was total stupidity on his part. If he didn't expect her to get up set with him for not showing her that his love for her had meant something to him then he should have been a man that would admit to him self and also to her that he was not interested in her any more. But instead she had to confront him with the truth about what he has been doing to her and he went off the handle. This lets everyone know just what a selfish and conniving Coward that he really is because he was not able to keep having his cake & eating it to because she realized the truth about him. That is why he became angry and hit her.This not only lets her see but also everone else that if he was a true and devoted b/f & gentleman he never would have allowed himself to do such a dispicable thing like that to her.
I hope that she is Ok now and that she broke it off completely with him. And by you losing him as a friend. That should not bother you at all. You showed not only your self but also him & everyone else, that you are the better man.
Good work.

Answer 3

if you and this woman are just friends, then you did the right thing to stand up for her even though he was your friend too. he should never and ever hit anyone, much less a defensless woman.

be there for her because she needs your friendship. god knows, this might have happened before without you knowing anything. Since he is your friend too, make it clear to him that if he changes his mind about your friendship, you will be there for him because you are his friend. and do not date this woman if you want to resume your friendship with this guy, he might think that her accusations were coming out of her own guilt and he might accuse you of cheating on him.

Answer 4

She should go to the police and accuse him of domestic abuse, because no matter what, no woman should be hurt by a man's hand. EVER!!! you did good in ending your friendship with him. And try to support her as you can. If he only though of her for sex, and even cheated on her (which I cant prove and don't know its true), and she told him in the face, she did the right thing in letting it out, and like I said, she should go to the police and accuse him of domestic abuse. Good Luck!

Answer 5

I COMPLETELY agree! There should be more friends LIKE YOU! I know I would personally NEVER EVER be friends with a guy who hits a girl. Its ridiculous. I truly think You've done the right thing here and your friend is a moron for trying to justify such a hateful action. Good luck to you.

Answer 6

You did the right thing and you should be proud of yourself for standing up for your beliefs even though it did cost you a friendship! More people should act like you did , I salute you. I agree there is never a reason for hitting somebody you love and especially not your wife

Answer 7

I agree as you said. Men are physically strong than women. They shudn't take advantage
on that.

In the same way, some women have strong mind and adamant. They shudn't try to
enforce things which is illogical and illegitimate to ethics.

Basically you were not in the scene. To my knowledge, you shudn't end up relation with your former
friend as he is still good to you. If you are a real friend, you can try to soothen things and
try to connect them. It requires special skills and patience.

If you are not interested, just have him as a friend. He never harmed you right?
But I hate men hitting women. Thats nonsense.

Everything is in my humble opinion. Rest is your style.

Answer 8

i thinlk you are right bc i am a grl and if any guy ever hit me i would kick the hell out of him in tha nuts. but aneways you did the right thing and if you had to end the friendship over that than he must not be a good firend!!!!!!!

Answer 9

you are totally correct...he is ignorant and needs Help...women are fragile and supposed to be treated that way...he was cheating probably..why else would he make such an A$$ of himself...

Answer 10

fair play to you hun.......you stand your gtround and dont change!!!
violence solve nothing, you know he treats her like crap and have no qualms telling him!
Wish there were more like you