he knows i am dating my husband but he doesnt know we are married and he is still against me being with him.My mother is aware she says i should tell my father. What do u think
2006-11-30 03:01:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you love your husband? Did you say vows? You know the whole: Love, Honor and Cherish, to put your husband above all others, part? Do you think that your living up to that? You are being unfair to you husband and deceitful to your father. It only makes it look like, you did something wrong.
2006-11-30 03:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by AMC615 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fathers rarely approve of their daughter's choice in men no matter what. Don't you want to live an honest life? Are you scared of your dad? Your father will eventually get over whatever issue it is that he doesn't approve of but only as long as your husband treats you well, etc. Face up and get it over with and you will feel as if a heavy burden has been lifted from your life.
2006-11-30 03:23:52 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him.
You're being unfair on your husband, and you're LYING to your father. The longer you wait to tell him, the more hurt he will be. Also, by lying to your father, you make it seem like you know you've "done something wrong" because you're trying to hide it from him. If you're old enough to get married, you're old enough to tell him that you ARE married.
Let him know that you love him, and it hurts you to go against what he believes, but that you love this man, and you believe that he is good for you.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 03:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you hide this problem, as more suffer will you get. It's already done, whatever the risks those you will take you must tell your father as soon as you could. Because you've already married. How could you hide your marriage from him for long time? He will so embarrassed and humiliated if you keep this more.
For better result for both of you, just tell your father. No body will get more hurt if you tell him immediately.
2006-11-30 03:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand mainly because I usually date white men and if my father was still alive most likely he wouldnt approve but at the end of the day you gotta live your own life even if someone dosent approve
2006-11-30 03:06:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
By not telling your father that you are married, you are showing him that you are not mature enough to be married and you are proving him right in his beliefs that you should not be with this guy (inter-racial or not).
Tell your dad asap. Show him that you are mature enough to know the difference between right and wrong. Find out what his hang-ups are about your relationship and show him that he has nothing to worry about.
2006-11-30 03:10:46 · answer #6 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough to get married, you are old enough to tell your father you are married. If you're not willing to do that, then you probably should not have gotten married in the first place. Tell him and be prepared to face the music.
FWIW, I would NEVER marry someone who wanted to keep our marriage a secret.
2006-11-30 03:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Karen L 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-29 17:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him and get it over with. Your marriage is going to strain over this and it will only make matters worse. You have been emancipated already! Your dad needs to respect your decisions even if he does not agree.
2006-11-30 03:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your father, and if he have a problem with it, then dont do anything, he should be happy for you. if you love the person you married, and really care for him, then you shouldnt care, well you should but not really. if hes not happy for you then hes wrong.
2006-11-30 03:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by monkay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋