When life turns upside down?

Question

What do you do when you finally crack? I've given up. I've been put down for how I look for several years now and I just hate it. My mum herself would tell me to get outta the house and go lose some weight. People made fun of me cause of my weight. People say that I'm fugly. Last year, to put a stop to the whole thing, I lost weight. Lost 20 kilos. I'm 64 now. I look a lot better from before. This whole year, practically the whole year, I was complimented. Suddenly, because I didn't maintain, and I started junking again cause of exam stress I've put on about 5 kilos. People still say that Im fugly. There was a sudden change cause I lost weight and again? I've really had it. What do I do? I can't even turn to my friends, cause they say I look fine the way I am. Even my parents say I look good now. But still. I feel like an outcast in society even though I'm not as bad as others. But how come they can still fit in? What do I do? Help...

Answer 1

the best thing you can do is be confident about, well, YOU! everything about yourself, your looks, your weight, your accomplishments in life. you have to learn to ignore the world (sometimes people cna be downright mean, cold, heartless). like yourself, love yourself, don't let what people say get to you or change the way you feel about yourself. do you consider yourself an overall good person? then 'F' what people say! in fact, the next person who calls you fat or ugly or whatever, tell him off right then and there! hold your head up high, stick your nose in the air, scoff at people's own insecurities (b/c that's the only reason they dare hurt your feelings in the first place). don't let people bully you. fight back! stand up for yourself! you'll find that in no time, people will treat you differently. it's like this, people have this radar; they can almost always tell when someone has low self-esteem and feed on that. they take advantage of those who allow it to happen. as long as your (true) friends treat you w/ respect, you know you're ok. and please, if your own mother tells you to get out of the house and lose some weight, she's only trying to help. she sees how you look and how you feel and how people treat you, and quite frankly it scares her, and probably pisses her off. how dare anyone put her sweet boy down! so she may take her aggressions out on you, and yell and scream and carry on, but it's for your own good. you've already lost some weight, good, keep it up. eating junk food makes you feel crappy inside (physically), and that in turn makes you unmotivated. people like go-getters, be a go-getter! eat a healthful balanced diet, that will make you want to live and achieve your goals. to recap, be confident, be fit and love/respect yourself enough not to live your life according to other people's reactions to you. good luck!

Answer 2

They fit in b/c they have a better self image. They have a confidentce that you lack. If you tell yourself that you are worthy then others will follow suit. Find something thatyouare good at and excel to your best ability. I am nowhere near skinny, but I have a hsuband and many friends and am never told that I am ugly or whatever(and I work with teenagers) b/c I beilieve in myself and knwo that I am good at what I do!

Answer 3

Sounds like school banter. Kids can be the harshest people. How do you feel about how you look? If you think that you need to change then change if not don't stress over other peoples opinion after all "Opinions are like a**holes everybody has one and they all stink"

Answer 4

Exercise and watch what you eat. Mostof all stop being so hard on yourself. People that call you names have no self pride or worth in themselves. Ignore the ignorance. Be true to yourself and learn to love yourself. Is the outter shell what makes the person or is it the inner being we fall in love with, have friendships with? Think about it and you will find you are just fine.

Answer 5

welcome to life. it is tough. maybe cracking is a good thing because you can start all over again with a new attitude.

number one rule in life: be nice to others. that is all you need to know.

don't say mean things. compliment people. ask them about their interests and listen to them when they tell you their problems.
eventually, people will be nice to you as well. even if you're fugly.

Answer 6

If all else fails just cut and run. Take off on a journey to learn about yourself and the world. If you've got nothing to lose then you've won.

Answer 7

ignore them and surround yourself with nicer people

Answer 8

try to lose weight, go talk to a shrink or surround urself with positive ppl and dont listen to wat other people say