Im a guy iv been freinds with this girl since we wer really small like since she was 5 or 6.And we have 4 yrs age difference shes 14 and im 18.wer really good friends we flirt and stuff a lot and a few yrs back i fell in love with her i still love her and i really want to marry her when shes 18 or older i really care about her a lot im really keeping my distance and i respect her a lot coz of her age and stuff but i cant stop being in love.iv still not told her i love her and i cant get a chance to meet her coz iv moved far away like from india to uk. and i dont know if i can see her yet coz of some other problems work,studdy.i really want to tell her i love her as soon as i can.do u think shel understand if i tell her by phone.i have no other way.its either by phone or dont tell her for a few more yrs and if i do that she might get someone else.but shes a very honnest girl if she knows shel wait for me i trust her coz i know her.i know shes a lil young but im ready to wait.plz help me
2006-11-30 02:46:58 · 16 answers · asked by cool_n_sexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Stay friends til she's legal ,then..........
2006-11-30 02:49:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her a chance to develop ideas on what she wants to do with her life, and get her own ideas of marriage. At her age, almost anything you say will put all kinds of pressure on her that a 14 year old isn't ready to face yet. Let her finish being a kid.
If you just can't stand to wait 4 more years, try writing her a letter. It lets her know how you feel without the emotional impact (to her) of saying something in person or on the phone, since those require an immediate answer.
2006-11-30 10:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you say that you love her then yes I really think that you should tell her but don't be too forward meaning let her know how you feel and let her know you are going to wait for her to turn 18, but, before you do all of that make sure you really mean that because you could seem sure right now but in 4 years you might meet someone else and be more in love with them than you were with her and just think really hard on this before you do anything because anything you do could hurt the both of you and keep that in perspective
2006-11-30 10:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by tomi c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man that is alot to put on a 14 year old.try to stay a part of her life but let her grow up she is still a child and in the next four years she will be a little closer to deciding if shes ready for something like that. just think of yourself when u were 14 and how different u are now. i bet you aren't even the same guy. i would say just wait, if its really meant to be then it will happen. don't do that to her.
2006-11-30 10:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure she will understand when you tell her over the phone, but i am suggesting you wait since at 14 years old she really should be concentrating with school work not looking forward to receiving a love letter from her boyfriend who is just too far. Beside from your description, it would be extremely hard for you to give her the full attention she would be seeking
2006-11-30 10:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by ngina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get your head together and try to forget about her until she is legal. She still has some years to go before she is 18 and right now she is still a kid. If you want to go to jail and become a sex offender go right ahead and do something stupid. You need to find someone that is legal and let this girl grow up without you trying to prey on her innocence. You are a grown man not very smart seeing what you are thinking about.
Leave that girl alone and find you someone else to be obsessed about.
2006-11-30 10:52:47 · answer #6 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh... I might not have a very good answer at all, but I think you should save up some money and go down there and surprise her and tell her that you love her. That is a very good way, but it costs time and money. A phone is not nearly as romantic.
-It is rape right now so wait till it's legal.
2006-11-30 10:50:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three things:
1. Call her and tell her you love her!
2. Marry her when you can(Be sure you can support her)
3. Live the most happiest liffe you can
By all means, feel blessed to have found someone like her.
2006-11-30 10:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Drew S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulation my frnd
u r in love. the most fair and heavenly feeling u have owned. but u afraid of what ? don't bottle up ur emotion. tell her. come on man-this is love itself! u can xpress it not over phone only but over a touchy song. music can whisper her ;bout ur feeling! trust me. and u know what? as per ur trust, her honesty will hug ur feeling like an assest. so don't b late.
oh dear,
" TOMORROW IS TOO LATE"
take a deep breath and tell her what is waiting for her! cuz----- she deserves the most precious thing-LOVE.
hummm, how sweet.
oh, don't forget to share with us 'bout the beginning of the last episod. plz........
2006-11-30 11:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by damini 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is SO SWEET!!!! I think that you should tell her that you love her. I think she'll understand if you tell her by phone since you're so far away from each other. That is SOOO cool that you would wait for her for four or more years. I wish you the best of luck!
2006-11-30 10:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Thing H. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its really nice to hear that u r in a serious relationship with ur childhood friend,but,concentrate on ur career, becoz no parent would think of giving their daughter to a person who is not responsible and one who is not able to take good care of a family(i think u got it), n u say that she is 14, i think she wont be understanding these serious matters seriously, but if u think it better to tell her, n that she can understand it n can give u a good response,then go on tell her, after all u know her nature.
2006-11-30 10:59:36 · answer #11 · answered by whyme.. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋