Alright. I have had a long distance relationship with this boy for about almost 2 years. He only lives 45 minutes away. Well for a while he has cheated on me alot. He says he apologizes and wont do it again. He says he doesnt think, he just does it. Well knowing me Im weak so I kept taking him back.
If you all know that song by Lyfe Jennings. Thats my situation. We are kinda holding on to nothing. But I dont want him to be alone and hurt himself.
I have met this new guy now. He is really great,still long distance but he has a car and i know i have way more in common with him than any body i know. Its kinda like we were made for each other.
Well he wants to take me on a date. And i decided yeah I mean hey its karma for my boyfriend. For what he has done to me I derserve better.
I just cant let my BF go. I still want to be friends with him becuase to me he is like a brohter . Ive been with him thru thick and thin all his worst times and he has been there for me. What should I do?
2006-11-30 02:29:23 · 9 answers · asked by Ash Bee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You really are "torn apart" and confused. My question to you is, why would you want someone in your life that lies and cheats on you? You deserve better than that. Somewhere along the way, you lost sight of that. You sound as though you are young. Therefore may be a little naive (I mean this is a kind way).
He is playing you, plain and simple. He is manipulating you in order to keep you around while he is going around, doing whatever he wants to. At some point you stop being the victim here and instead, become the enabler.
You need to drop him, plain and simple. He is not worthy. You should go an a date with this other guy. Maybe he will be a good guy for you and you will finally find out your true worth.
If your boyfriend really cares for you as you say he does, he will stick by you as your friend. However, if he really cared for you in the first place, he wouldn't have done those things to you in the first place.
You need to take a step back and reflect on the facts. You will see my point. Good luck with your decision!
2006-11-30 02:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just be a friend to him. If you wish to stay friends with him and I think you do then when he gets in touch with you just be there for him. Tell him you care about him and what happens to him as a friend. Tell him also that you have a new boyfriend who you like a lot. Always be honest and open with your friend and he will do the same. Communicate with him and with your boyfriend and also let your boyfriend know the other guy is just a friend you have known a long time. Don't break the ties with your friend just because you have a new boyfriend. That would be like burning your bridges behind you and you would never have any real friends.
2006-11-30 10:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that when someone in a relationship is with someone with flaws, the one person feels that there is this need to help and "SAVE" this person. Let me ask you.... if you went to wal-mart and bought a lawnmower, and it was broken, would you not replace it? People can be broken too. Sounds like this guy is poison to your soul.
It's really touching that you care so much about him. But he could care less about you. Does he need to get another girl pregnate or give you some sort of STD so you can see the light? Don't be a fool. I can promise you that if he is hooking up with other chicks, he is not going to kill himself. He is too busy getting his carrot wet to do that.
I think you already knew the answer before you wrote it. You just needed to be sure and get that support. Everyone that wrote got your back girl ;o)
2006-11-30 11:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kenneth C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you not only sound like he is your first love but you also give the impression that you enjoy his not having respect for you. Imagine cheating on you, apologising next and thereafter going on to do it again. If he does not think, then that is the reason you should forget him. Why not try pulling his leg by telling him you've met this other wonderful guy and then watch if he would forgive you like you have always forgiven him. You deserve someone who thinks of you before acting. Not just one who is a flirt and is only out to please himself.That is not what love should be. Try the new guy PLEASE and forget about your bf. Cheers.
2006-11-30 10:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by aspen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow a backbone and get some self respect. You are letting someone treat you like dirt because you are needy and afraid to be without a so-called BF. Cut all ties to this loser and find someone better.
2006-11-30 10:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Answer to your BF:
Dump him, but be his friend and one of two things will happen:
He'll avoid you(A risk you must take)
or
He'll still be your friend
This New Guy:
Be a friend and go out with him after you make sure he is the real deal ;)
2006-11-30 10:36:06 · answer #6 · answered by Drew S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. It will never lead you wrong. In my opinion, it's worse to string this guy along, than to tell him you think of him as a brother, and want to remain friends.
2006-11-30 11:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them both a shoebox greeting card! :)
2006-11-30 10:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by lil redneck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him that's the best option
2006-11-30 10:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by want2know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋