If they leave their family because they are sick of the responsibilities and going through the same motion everyday, why then do they leave their family and start a new one with new children? Is it because they hope to "upgrade" by getting a better(richer, better career, more pretty) wife in a better neighbourhood so as to "update" themselves? And for those who leave their family, why do they do not want to have any contact with them again, even if they don't feel anyting for their ex-wives, what about their own flesh and blood? Isn't it cruel?
2006-11-30 02:25:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
I mean "upgrade" themselves
2006-11-30 02:26:31 · update #1
It's because they are a not real men at all! A real man takes care of his responsibilities and his family regardless if they live in the same household or not!
2006-11-30 02:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone reaches a point in their lives when they feel like they've made a mess of everything.. relationships, choices, careers, colour of their wardrobe. You wanna run away from everyone and everything to a place far away where noone will question you for your wrong choices and you've to answer to NOONE about why you left all the cheese out of the fridge and it all got spoilt.
The people who reach this point do so because they have defects in them. Infidelity, immorality, unorganised, short-tempered, weak-willed, inferiority complexes, cowardliness etc etc. They may have one or more or a few of these.
When this point (the point in life where you just wanna run away to another planet from everything).. when this point is reached with a man who has a family, maybe he mishandled his relationship with his wife and/or made big mistakes with the neighbourhood and/or started on the wrong foot with his kids (mostly many of the above attack at once). So this man runs away (note: this is exhibition of his trait of cowardliness and irresponsibility and lack of courage to face the consequences of his own actions). He runs away to a place where there won't be any questions asked and he wants to start over again. He wants to forget EVERYTHING about that old place cuz he's guilty cuz he know it was All, HIS mistake (or maybe it wasnt but he feels that way). He blocks it from his mind so he doesnt have to even think about it doesnt want his brain to go through any more discomfort of the guilt.
This can happen also with a woman. Like I said, this point is reached with all of us at some time in our lives, we all just deal with it differently. So when it happens with a woman who has a family, she cant do what the man did. A woman is a mother and God put a tender heart inside a woman, especially for her children. She's forced to not run away because she cannot leave the kids without care. She may have an affair with another man though, change her job, go through depression, feel like relocating etc.
But she will (in MOSTT of the cases) not run away like the men do.
It is rare to find the real men today (I'm not praising the women..), men who know their responsibility, who are not chicken to think that being a man is all about controlling the people around you, or showing muscle, or in being able to fix your own car, its about knowing to fulfill a trust when it is given to you and having enough courage to say, i was wrong.
2006-11-30 03:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by phoneme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men feel that running from one relationship into another is going to solve there problem but they are so wrong, they create more problem for themselves and not to mention the emotional burden they leave with they families. Also they should ask themselves what is it that make them had to leave their first family ?
If they are going to get whatever it is that they are looking for from the next family.
2006-11-30 02:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Annette N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is cruel and immoral. Many factors my be considered, but it rarely justifies walking out. Ultimately the children will try and judge those men who do that, because kids are way smarter then they get credit for. Well mostly in most cases the kids will have their revenge.
2006-11-30 02:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by tim D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have two strategies for reproduction:
1. Sleep with alot of girls but don't take care of any of the children that result. Never stay with the woman. The number of kids that results increases the probability that at least some will survive. Most won't. The type of woman is not appropriate for strategy 2 for various reason.
2. Find one good woman and have kids with her. Take care of the woman and take care of the kids to give them the best possible chance. The family is a vehicle for instilling superior values into the kids that cause them to grow up to be powerful adults.
Inferior men only engage in strategy one. Which is why it is so damn important for most women to avoid them. However, it is equally important to most men to avoid the type of woman who is for strategy one.
If a guy mistakenly gets into a relationship with a woman who is for strategy one, in our current culture, it is tough to leave, making it a disaster for him. Eventually, however, he will extricate himself from the situation and seek out the type of woman he can succeed in with strategy 2.
That is the issue in a nutshell. It is exceedingly dangerous for a wife to shows signs that she is a strategy one woman. Her husband will leave her.
2006-11-30 02:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One theory: Men still operate, at least in major part, on the primative part of their brains. This part of the brain has the same theories on life as the caveman: spread your seed to as many women as possible to have as many children as possible to keep their genes alive and keep the species alive, which is the main goal of most species. I believe humans should be past this though because we have less predators and there are a ton of us.
2006-11-30 02:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows i think one family is difficult enough. even when i divorced my ex i always stayed in touch with the kids still had them who would want more than that . got to be a pretty selfish person it is wrong and cruel soory you have to deal with this
2006-11-30 02:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by robert s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My biological father did this. I still don't understand why. The only thing that I can guess is that he just wasn't happy with us anymore. Different men have different reasons. Each case is unique, but in no case is it right.
2006-11-30 02:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that men do that because they are selfish. honestly, women do it too, just not as often as men do. it is really a psychological thing that changes from person to person, but it boils down to selfishness
2006-11-30 02:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by ekenny513 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahhhh! But the grass may greener!
2006-11-30 02:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋