you are increasing your chances of cheating on your spouse or having a spouse cheat on you after you get married? How's that? You ask. Well, because the issue is not the "sex" part. It's all about self control. If you are intent on fulfilling your sexual desires before you are married, most likely you will engage a sexual partner. Relationship after relationship after relationship. The more people having sex outside of marriage indicate more people lacking self control. The greater your chances of marrying someone without self control. When you are finally married, sex becomes the most important part of the relationship because you have never exercised self control in this area. Either, or, both, the husband and wife's expectations of sex in the marriage are never met, thus infidelity happens......ponder that for a while...
2006-11-30 02:10:54 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That does not make any sense to me. When you speak of self-control, you are assuming that sex before marriage is wrong. Most people do not feel guilty about having sex before marriage, hence self-control is not an issue.
It is my belief that the opposite is true. Those who abstain before marriage, will become curious about sex once they are married. They will become curious about what sex would be like with other partners.
2006-11-30 02:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Bill 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is not just sex, but can also include emotional affairs.
While I agree with the stance that pre-marital sex is not best, I can say that neither my now ex-wife, nor I has sex with each other before marriage because we wanted to do it God's way.
Yet she still had an affair, even though I was willing 24/7, not morbidly obese, no personal grooming issues.
I really feel this is a meaningless stat, and doesn't look at the equally large issue of emotional affairs.
2006-11-30 03:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's not necessarily true at all. I had pre-marital sex with my first husband and we were married for almost 18 years. I never ever had the urge to cheat. I took my vows very seriously. I feel that way about my current partner as well. I thought long and hard about my reasons for engaging in pre-marital sex with him (we plan to be married in 2007). I feel married to him already and I am committed to our union. We both have had children and are in no real hurry to get married immediately. We are adults (56 and 41) and know our own hearts and minds. I feel strongly that he would never cheat on me. He has too much integrity. I would never cheat on him because I believe in the bonds of marriage.
2006-11-30 02:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some how I don't agree with your thinking. The truth is if a couple never practice before they get married (all are still virgin). It's better. They will control their sex desires together since the first time. They will have their experiences together within safety sex (married life) and because they learn together, they will enjoy it as a team and make their love becomes stronger as well as their sex improvement. They will not try to cheat on each other, they will remember how pleasure and enjoyable doing sex together, like in the first time.
First time always make the best sense.
But whatever...................................
2006-11-30 02:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, when I want your opinion about my sex life, I'll ask for it. Until then, keep your conservative views to yourself.
Also, this "view" of yours is exactly that. It's an opinion. It's not a fact. I'd like to see the study where you came up with this. Please, post again, put the information where you got this. No, I don't want some religious website. I'd like the site where a professional study was done proving this theory.
Lastly, why are you taking your religious viewpoint and masking it as something psychological? There is not a bit of psychological truth to what you said in your "statement".
Ponder this. People who see things so completely one sided like yourself, are complete hypocrites to the religion they try to push on other people. People who have these extreme religious views, also tend to be the people who spark riots, and wars... all in the name of God. All because, you can't accept people for who they are, and for their decisions.
If I had to guess, you're probably a Christian... which means...
YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO JUDGE OTHERS. The only person that can judge, is God. (read the bible, it's in there!) By judging me, you are in fact sinning. You'd better go pray now.
2006-11-30 02:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree. If you are only with one person for your entire life, you will start to think what else is out there. People are attracted to a lot of different things. You marry the person you love and believe you can spend the rest of your life with, but it doesn't mean that you won't be attracted to someone else and some other personality somewhere down the road.
When you meet this other personality that you are attracted to, you begin to wonder what else you may be missing since you've only been with that one person your entire life. If you get curious enough, or are having problems with your spouse, you may end up having an affair to see if you missed out on anything by waiting to be with your one and only.
While self-control is essential in not having an affair, having pre-marital sex is not.
2006-11-30 02:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by tipper 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do not be an idiot. Just because you have premarital sex does not mean that you will cheat or your spouse will cheat on you. Let me ask you this would you buy a milk cow without knowing it could produce? NO YOU WOULD NOT, so why marry someone you don't know if your sexually compatible with. You should really educate yourself before you open your mouth you look like a fool.
2006-11-30 02:13:55 · answer #7 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Did you know that you don't know? Been married 12 years, my wife and I did the nasty way before marriage, not to mention all the other people we tangoed with before we met, never looked back after that wedding day . Love baby. Ponder that Dr Ruth.
2006-11-30 02:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say that everyone who has pre-marital sex has "never" exercised control in this area. Having random sex with anyone you meet is lacking control but that hardly describes most people. It is possible what you say has happened but I doubt it is true for most people. The majority of people I know have had pre-marital sex and none of them so far have committed adultery. (some of these marriages are 35+ years) I know of two people who have strayed from marriage--one was caught and one was not. (one had pre-marital sex with her fiance, on had never had pre-marital sex)
2006-11-30 02:18:27 · answer #9 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, are you really asking a question or just stepping up on your soap box to say "shame on you" to all the people who are having premarital sex?
To answer your "question," if this is really a question instead of just a sermon, no I did not know that but would like to know where you obtained your data that allows you to make such a claim because this seems more like your own person opinion than a FACT.
2006-11-30 02:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by Roger S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋