are you divorced now or living in a terrible relatonship, or were any of you able to work it out
2006-11-30 01:46:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did but after a few months we got to know how to work it out perfect ... I am in the 7th yr of marriage
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Sameer
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2006-11-30 01:49:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sameer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married two times and each time I thought it would be for life. I don't take marriage lightly. I am in a relationship at this point. I am happy. Nothing is perfect. I would love to be married and know that it is forever. I figure if I was a few more years, I will be near death and then it will be a lifetime!!! Just kidding about the last part.
However, it is true that I take marriage very seriously. I want someone that is just for me.....not to be "on call" for every friend (girl). I will not ever marry under those conditions. At the same time, I will not tell him to give up his g-friends. That will have to be his choice. But marriage will be on hold til.......... I am in no hurry to be married. But the thought of having someone to be with me, love only me is such a pleasant thought. Guess the Cinderella Complex!!!
But time is ticking away. I am not getting any younger. I keep hearing others tell me there are other fish in the sea. What am I waiting for? I should already know his decision.
2006-11-30 10:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married while in college working towards my Masters degree in Psychology. At the time I thought it was what I wanted I was young and figured if I got married I'd have it all. A great education, a husband and soon a baby {which I had wanted}. While engaged I thought long and hard knowing in the back of my mind it would not work out. Then it came to the point I knew I had to call it off, but found out I was pregnant and felt that I had to give it a chance. 18 months later we were divorced and it was the best thing to ever happen to me. I married 12 years later and can not imagine my life without my husband in it he is my heart and soul {next to my daughter from my first marriage and our son that is now 6 months old}
2006-11-30 10:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...I was 17 and pregnant (a little delusional too, I think!) : ) and even though all of my family and friends told me it was a mistake, we went ahead with it anyways....we were separated 6 months later, about a year after that I got pregnant with our 2nd child, and 2 years later we were divorced.......I think I knew we were doomed from the beginning, but I wanted to prove to everyone that I was an adult; mature enough to make my own life decisions. Looking back on it now, it was SO ridiculous, but after all the smoke settled, I came out of it not unscathed, a little bruised up though, and I was a stronger, better person for all the heartache.....I am now remarried, raising my children, and my ex and I actually get along better now than we ever did when we were together. It's funny how life turns out, and if I could go back and change it, I don't think I would.
2006-11-30 09:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes we went ahead and went through it. We've been together for 11 years. We've been married 6 of those years. We fought horrible fights and just in the last year learned that it was actually other people who stemmed all the borderline divorces prior. We actually had to move away to learn this. And yet again we are fighting over someone else causing us problems. Eventually we'll move away from everyone just to keep together. So I guess we worked it out quite well. We were in a terrible relationship for about 3 years and stayed together for our kids. He cheated on me and stayed away from home as he didn't want to be around me. No he won't admit he did cheat but I know that he did. I seen them together... But in the end shockingly we haven't divorced yet and it is working out right now for about a year so far. We just have to stay away from all family.
2006-11-30 09:54:56 · answer #5 · answered by Franchesca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. I married the father of my daughter when I was 18 (our daughter was 18 months old at the time). I knew it wouldn't last but I felt like I had to try since we had a baby together. It was a terrible, abusive relationship and I finally divorced him when I was 23. You should always go with your instinct and if you don't believe it is forever, don't get married.
12 years later I'm getting ready to marry the man I will spend the rest of my life with. Everything feels right and of course I'm older and understand that love requires WORK and COMPROMISE!!!
2006-11-30 09:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Nunya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't even know why we got married. It just seemed to progress on to the point, that it was expected of us. A funny thing happened along the way, we've learned to love each other.We've been married almost 43 years, with 2 grown children. We're growing old together, and glad we are.
2006-11-30 09:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by Pat C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not me - but that is why the divorce rate is so high - going through with a marriage that should not have happened in the first place!!
2006-11-30 09:48:16 · answer #8 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question should be why marry someone if you know it's not gonna last. What a sad state of morales people today have. People who marry knowing it will not last are not mature enough to marry or reproduce.
2006-11-30 09:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i was 19, and waiting to get a job so we can file for divorce after 7.5 years...we pretty much can't stand each other.
2006-11-30 09:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by texascomet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋