I know society has changed a lot and single parenting is a lot more common in fact it is now completely acceptable but do you think that the children have the same type of life or if being from a single family affects you in any way. I know of a lot of people who plan a baby with their boyfriend/girlfriend but don't plan to marry also.
2006-11-30 01:30:30 · 22 answers · asked by nik 28 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hell to the no. Single parenting is for the dogs. I was a single parent for 14 years two boys. It was designed for a man and a woman and that's because children need both perspectives. Nurturing and discipline.
2006-11-30 01:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by kyle g 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is not the same, however if all you do as a couple is argue and there is a hell of an atmosphere in the house, then surely it is better to be on your own, and to raise the children in a relaxed environment. Just because adults dont live together does not mean that they can not have their father in their life. They just get the best of 2 worlds. The parents have more quality time with the children and life is a lot more relaxed. I would hate to bring my children up in a violent and unpredictable relationship. This is not how life should be, and I will not teach them that this is normal.
2006-11-30 01:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having one parent around is completely different than having two and it is a completely different lifestyle. There's a difference between raising a child and not being with the father/mother, but still having them around to help and raising a child completely alone with no help. I've actually lived through all three cycles andhave experienced, as a cild, having both at the same time, than both separately, and then just one. My parents were together until I was 10, so we were all together every day and I was raised by both. Once they split, I lived with my mother but still had my father in my life, although we didn't spend as much time together, his presence was still apparent. When I was 15, my mother passed away and my father came back to finish raising us, and from then until now, I've had life with only one parent. Unfortunately, divorce and single parenting is MUCH more common and people tend not to give it as much thought, but not having one of your parents around as a child makes a huge difference, emotionally, financially, and so on. As is the same with the parenting aspect. Raising children is a hard job and it only gets harder as the world continues to change, so doing it alone could never be an easy thing. Much respect to all of the parents out there who ARE indeed raising their children by themselves... It takes a strong person...
2006-11-30 03:52:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother became a single parent before I started school and worked hard- our grandparents and uncle filled the gap. I have been a single parent twice- neither time out of choice, and at times I struggled. I would never have planned my children with the intention of bringing them up alone. My daughter says that she has never regarded herself as a product of a single parent family though, as her father has always been a big and constant part of her life. Many of her peers have fathers that they rarely see and she believes they have a totally different outlook on the role of a father, and will be more likely to become single parents themselves.
2006-11-30 01:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Single parenting is difficult and brings challenges that couple parenting doesn't. Even if both parents are involved but not living together it makes things more difficult.
Not everyone has a choice about parenting single. but the children can turn out just as well-adjusted and healthy and normal as any others.
2006-11-30 01:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most single parents will tell you its better to have both parents around, but unfortunately it doesn't always work out like that. Being a single parent is hard, very hard, we would not choose this for our children. Can they grow up well adjusted? yes, especially with help from other family members.
2006-11-30 03:35:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my kids are grown now and one has a child of his own, he is in a relationship so my grandson has 2 parents...i got divorced at 26, i am now 43 and have raised my kids alone, since my youngest was 1 yr old, he's almost 18 now all 3 of them turned out good, it was hard at first but we all adapted, i think children should have 2 parents, i became a single parent when i found out my ex was seeing other women, i knew i could make it alone, but i would not advise it to anyone else unless they can cope with it...it is hard
2006-11-30 01:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better for children to be in an environment where they feel safe and loved. Period. I don't think it matters much if the feeling of safety is provided by one or two or twenty people.
They just need to know they are loved.
Single parenting is harder on the parent than the child IMO
2006-11-30 01:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced before I was 2 years old. I had a good life; they both spent a lot of time with me & showed me a great deal of love. I also saw how hard each worked to give me the things I needed & wanted.
2006-11-30 01:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by pr1ncezz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its better to have one parent than two that hate each other im a single parent not by choice and its harder than people realise but my son is fine and very well adjusted unlike a lot of kids in the neighbourhood any decence parent is better than none but its not a thing to be taken lightly
2006-11-30 01:35:23 · answer #10 · answered by julie t 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋