My Bestfriend and my boyfriend of 5 yrs married a girl of his parents' choice cos he cldn't go against his parents' wishes and marry me. The consequences wd have been outcast from his society and ultimately some yrs of heartache and pain of not being able to look after his parents. Plus his version is that he's saving me from hardship (in the long run) cos his community is 2 conservative.
Now he's married but he still wants to keep in touch with me cos he still loves me n value our friendship (we were best of friends 1st b4 he proposed me). I agreed initially to keep in touch but now tat he's married I don't think it's really possible to keep up tat friendship cos everytime i think of him sharing his life (good n bad) with another person my heart breaks. Is it healthy to keep such contact? Wld like some opinion from ppl who have experienced similar situation. BTW, he wanted to introduce me to his wife but i refused cos i know i won't be able to face such situations.
2006-11-30 01:29:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I've been through this. If you progressed from friendship to being lovers (not necessarily physical), and he got married to someone else for whatever reason that too after five years, you shd not continue the contact. It will pain you everytime and you will never get out of it if you keep meeting him. Besides, it may tempt the two of you into an extramarital affair which is no good for anyone. You could well leave him alone at least for a while
2006-11-30 01:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by archem 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now he is married. After 5 yrs of "affairs" he left you and got married to other woman because of what ever reasons. Still loves you. Is not this very funny ??
More funny is you wanted to be a kept to this guy. Why are you spoiling that poor woman's life. Get out of that man's life and allow him to reconcile. As long as you are around this will never happen. If you really love him, then desert him immediately. He will reconcile automatically.
If still he breaks away from his wife then you go ahead and console him and live in.
At least right at this point of time don't become a curse to them.
2006-12-01 05:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by ga ga 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I HAVE ALL THE RESPECT FOR YOUR LOVE AND SINCE YOU CARED TO ASK A QUESTION LIKE THIS PROVES THAT YOU ARE A GOOD GIRL WITH ETHICS..SO I SUGGESTS LET BYGONE BE BYGONE...AND LOOK AHEAD..COZ IN FUTURE YOU WILL BE MARRIED TOO ..WHAT THEN?...AS IT IS GOOD PEOPLE SHOULD NOT DO ANYTHING THAT IS IMMORAL...NO MATTER HOWMUCH PAINFUL IT IS TO ABSTAIN FROM SUCH A THING...REMAIN STEAD FAST AND REFUSE TO KEEP ANY CONTACT....YOUR GOODNESS WILL PAY IN THE END AND YOU WILL FIND LOVE ONCE AGAIN WHEN YOU ARE MARRIED...ALL THE BEST
2006-12-03 22:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, WOW!! which would be astonishing!!! i does no longer spend 24/7 at here cuz then i'd, for sure, no longer have a lifelike some losers at here. i'd spend a similar quantity of time I commonly do, a million hour an afternoon 6 days a week =D
2016-10-04 13:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break all contact with him. Even if he is from another country or whatever the reason if he is an adult he can choose who he wants to marry. That's the cool thing about America. It will only continue to hurt you and it is a lame excuse to marry someone else.
2006-11-30 02:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not healthy-move on. The situation is unfair to all involved, so you should just bow out. He can't have everything, you deserve better and the girl he married does too.
2006-11-30 02:09:47 · answer #6 · answered by fairygodmother 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Break the bond and move on. There is no use maintaining contact when he is already married. This will only make things complicated for both of you.
2006-11-30 02:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can't have the best of both worlds. My daughter has a friend that she can't marry for the same reasons. They remain friends , but he is not married. If yours is married he needs to be faithful to her.
2006-11-30 01:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best do not keep in touch because it will keep you from progressing to the future and sadly it will also affect his relationship with his new wife.
2006-12-02 02:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by Krishna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is unfair and selfish of him to expect you to meet his wife etc, think you would be better of making a clean break
2006-11-30 01:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by bodecia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋