why my husband hesitate to divorce me?

Question

we got married four and half years a go in iran . and i had carrer, in a midle of suden he dicided to change his carrer and move to dubai . and he told me lets start our bussiness to gather. ( i mean not financially but phically ). we started two years ago and we had a lots of progress. meanwile he is trying to tell me you useless and not come to work any more. so becuse of his behavoiurs i got sick ( stress out) . while i was sick for one month, he is not taking care of me and always telling me that do not play games. you will be fine soon. so when i relized that he is not care about me . i called my mother to come and look after me . after two weeks , he decided that for me to go back to iran to change my mood and come back. but when i came back i relized he cheated me . i confronted with him and told me wether you accepted or pack your things. and stop coming home from that time till now for 22 nights. within 22 days i tried my best to bring him back but he is refeusing?

Answer 1

This is tragic.

I am very sorry for what has happened.

I feel frankly that you probably should go back with your momma. Your husband is being silly and throwing away a good woman. Moving your life is hard and he didn't seem to realize that not everyone can just pack up and leave. You were sick as well, so how dare he?

Isn't he supposed to respect and love you? You have held your end of the bargan. He has failed with his. I would definatly move back with momma and divorce him. If he isn't willing to work it out and cheats...there really is little hope.

Answer 2

Typical Middle eastern male. Insecure, bullying and downright crude. Come to the United States and become an independent woman. Live the live of decadence, debauchery, screwing married men, doing drugs, getting divorced and complaining about the real important stuff like "My husband plays video games all the time and doesn't pay attention to me". This wife beating and degradation is nothing compaired to the American woman's complaints as I've pointed out.
Besides....wouldn't you rather have your husband at home every night playing viseo games or out in the streets of Baghdad with 10,000 other unemployed, do-nothing Middle eastern males firing guns in the air, burning the occasional flag or two and sipping coffee all day with his equally unemployed pals in some dirty, vermin ridden stand on a back street in Dubai?

Come on! The streets are paved with gold, porn, fattening foods and gas-guzzling SUVs in American honey. Its all yours for the taking too!

Answer 3

The reason does not want to divorce you is because often once a man knows a woman really loves him, he will start to take her for granted. Also, he may be having an affair, but wants to keep you for security. If you can divorce him without his consent do so. It sounds like he does not care about you. The sooner you can legally get away from him, the better. Don't stay in it too many years. Life is too short to be in a bad, unhealthy relationship. Good Luck.

Answer 4

I'm sorry your wording is quite difficult to understand.

Are you saying that you found that your husband started neglecting you and was showing signs that he doesn't care for you anymore?

Then he sent you to Iran to cool off and when you returned you found out he was cheating on you?

And then he told you to accept it or leave, and has not returned home in 21 days?

If this is correct, woman you can either:

1. Pack your stuff, put your head up and walk out that door.

or

2. Pack your stuff, be patient, go to school or continue working and save money and wait for him to divorce you.

Obviously he wants YOU to leave, so he doesn't have to pay back his dowry, whereas if HE were to leave he'd have to pay it back in full. Best of luck.

Answer 5

You might benefit from speaking to a close friend who understands your culture. For the American view of divorce, please see www.FamilyLawCourts.com