Hi all I have a question becuz I am confused?
I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years & yes we have had our ups & downs. My first problem is her friends, they have been a bad influence on her & she has admitted that that they have in some way. Also durin a stint of us bein mad @ each other she went out w/ nother man which mad me furious, now my trust has fallin with her & i found out some things with her and this guy that i didnt like...ie she send him a sexy e-card. With this bein upset i went off on her and us cryin ensued but I then jus stop speaking 2her altogether(this all happened w/in 3 weeks) she later shows up 2 my house 2 talk because i was ignoring her....i told her i didnt want 2 be back in this relationship becuz it has 2 hange & i dont think shes ready 2 change fully...i know she cares about me but i dont kno if shes ready.... in order 4 it 2 work she has 2 get rid of her bad influential friends and cut communication w/ his guy who she works with
2006-11-30 01:19:08 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
so the things is her job on occasions goes out after work and has fun, now she wants to get back with me but i dont want her goin out and even bein around this guy due to them havin a little thing for each other and in order for us to move to the next level(marriage) this sneakin around isnt acceptable and i also want her to ditch her friends, not that i dont want her 2 have friends i think that they arent good friends for her....she has goals and her friends dont and on top of that her friends have been a pain in regards to our relationship....me not wantin her 2 be out with her work friends because of this guy and her dicthin her friends because they are no good does that seems controllin....i just eventually want the best thing for us and her friends arent helping in any way!!!!
2006-11-30 01:19:18 · update #1
Are you confused?
I say... You are.
2006-11-30 01:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by Rey Arson II 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what your plans are and if she says she can't handle those requests, then let her go and move on with your life. Sounds to me like you know what you want and she doesn't want to grow up yet. She doesn't sound ready for the type of commitment you want. You deserve better than that at this point in your relationship. Just tell her what you expect and if she doesn't like it..move on and find someone out there who wants what you want!! Good Luck.
2006-11-30 09:28:15 · answer #2 · answered by ceecee_41004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She isn't going to change. She isn't going to leave her friends just because you ask her to. So either live with that and deal with it or move on. You can not change other people, so wanting to is just frustration on your part. You can only change yourself. So either change something about yourself to make her decide to spend more time with you and not her friends and other guys, or just move on. Also do not think that marriage is going to make her more faithful. It won't. If you can't live with the thought she might spend time with other men, then she is not right for you.
2006-11-30 09:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by I-voted-for-Kerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a control freak. Let her be. Find a woman who don't mind making you the center of her world and will be under you 24/7. You are with the wrong woman.
2006-11-30 09:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should definitely talk her and tell her how you are feeling. you should talk to her calmly and rationally and make her understand that its either you or them. tell her that you love her and that is why you are doing this. then let her decide what she wants. if she really loves you, she will choose you. however if she doesn't, you will have the chance to move on. you seem like a very nice guy and you shouldn't be treated this way.
Good luck
2006-11-30 09:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it sounds to me that this person still has alot of growing up to do, if she works with this guy theirs now way it can be helped with her being around him and if most likely shes around him shes not gonna just ignore him, you cant tell a person who they can have as friends weither they be good or bad,.......i just dont see this relationship ever working in the long run
2006-11-30 09:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not, I think you need to take some vacations. Say your love you love her and that she needs better friends.
2006-11-30 09:22:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first smack the guy she was with, second make her work for your forgiveness ie massages, gifts etc, and last but most important of all "who wears the trousers!!!!!!!"
2006-11-30 09:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jimmy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her/him to marry you
2006-11-30 09:20:42 · answer #9 · answered by Alexxxxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋