2006-11-30 01:13:27 · 16 answers · asked by mattsam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
why do you feel you can't trust him? have you tried to talking to him about your feelings or considered some relationship counselling together?
2006-11-30 01:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by serephina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no relationship without love and trust...
love doesn't allow room for distrust... the way a mother loves a child, without boundaries, thats what love is..
i agree with the others, you are mixing up the emotions, maybe u are in love with the idea of love... if he has hurt u or has had an affair then why are u still with him? no one deserves that.. if he hasn't and u just can't trust him the the problem lies within u. u can't distrust him because of maybe bad past experiences or because your self esteem is low... in order to really love someone u need to love urself first... u need to be able to be alone and be happy before u can be with someone and be happy...
talk to your husband and explain ur fears, maybe he can help u build up ur self esteem and take away some of your fears. but u'll need to work hard.
if he's a cheat then he doesn't deserve ur trust leave him and move on, a leopard never changes his spots...
good luck! :)
2006-11-30 07:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love alone can't make a relationship work. trust and mutual respect for each other are equally important. and u r bound to suffer without these two.
try to ask urself why u do not trust him. there might be some communication gap that led u to think like this. can u not trust him because of something he has done or is it all in ur mind?
try to communicate with him. u will get ur answer soon enough.
but be prepared. ur answer could be either way!
2006-11-30 01:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by placebo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to believe that you can love someone that you don't trust.....but you CAN. If your husband has given you a reason to lose trust in him, then you both need to sit down and have a good heart to heart. Councelling can also help if you are both willing to put in the effort. If you love someone then it's worth the hard work. But make sure he's the reason that you don't trust him and not you're insecurity.
Good luck!
2006-11-30 01:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with my ex for 4 years, and we had our ups and downs. my friends always told me "no trust - it wont work". and i never once listened....
and they were right!
you got to have trust for a number of reasons. you cant nag him when hes late home from a night out with the boys or hes spending time on the internet instead of u.
has something hurt you before, something thats stopping you from trusting your husband? u need to some how forgive and forget.
they say you should "love like you have never been hurt"
Your husband married you for a reason, because he loves u. he loves everything about u.... unless you change ur ways, its not looking good for the future.
i suggest you go on a few websites and seek help...
but if you have good enough reason to think hes being unfaithful, shag his best friend! ha! joke!!
hope u have a nice christmas, and all the best to you both
2006-11-30 01:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by geminially 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband - 4 years - no trust? = divorce.
Examine why you can't trust him - is it insecurities on your part? Is it something he has done or something you think he has done?
This needs to be sorted out otherwise you will be 60 years old wondering where your youth went and why you spent it with a lying, cheating freak!.
2006-11-30 01:24:45 · answer #6 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear, married life is based on a mutual trust. Doubts are poisonous in happy life. Donot let these grow in your heart. Keep the things simple and enjoy your life.
2006-11-30 02:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by Haji Sahb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you love someone you can't trust?
You have love confused with some other emotion. That is not love.
2006-11-30 01:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You trust him, it's yourself you don't trust because you know what you are like confess to him and you will be able to sleep again at night.
2006-11-30 01:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your heart is in love...that is true love...if your thinking i am in love...your mind will not trust him. Lack of faith is a lack of trust...if you can't trust him....look for rebuilding your own faith...if he has done something wrong...your heart will let you know...
2006-11-30 01:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by NEIL M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋