Me and my boyfriend been together close to a year. Within that year he joined the AirForce and I would write him and he would never write me back. i thought he did not love me because he never wrote or called me, so what I did was start a relationship with someone else(that did not work) than I started another one(that did not work out) when he came back I was shocked to see him so we started to get back together and I told him about the other relationships. I know what I did was wrong and I have to live with that for the rest of my life I love him so much words just cannot describe how I feel so I need help to prove to him that I love him and will never do anything to hurt to him or break his heart.
2006-11-30 01:05:53 · 17 answers · asked by Tara G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
How can you you say you truly love him when as soon as things went bad or didn't go the way you wanted you ran to someone else...not just one person but 2. True love is about working through the hard times, not just giving up. My prediction for you....is a short relationship with him or you will eventually get divorced.
2006-11-30 01:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off he made no effort to return your letters what was he doing? Odds are he was out doing the exact same thing you were doing but wants you to feel guilty for what you did, let the idiot go and find a guy that will give you enough respect to pick up a pencil and spend 2 minutes of his time acknowledging your efforts to keep in contact. As for you saying you need to prove to him you wont do anything to break his heart, how did you feel when he never once wrote you back? It broke your heart, I think he needs to be the one kissing up not you, you did what you were supposed to do as a GF by writing him and when he failed to respond you moved on with your life like a normal person. Do not let him BS you into thinkin that while he was away in the AF that he never once messed with another woman because if he does I've got an beach side property in Arizona I'd like to sell you for a cheap price
2006-11-30 09:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously kidding me? What are you sorry for? He had a huge role in this whole fiasco. If he did not write or call the whole time how were you to know he was still interested? And don't let him give you the "I COULDN'T" excuse because he was certainly able to. I know this from experience. So you did absolutely nothing wrong. If anything he did by not responding to your letters. He could've responded even if it were to break it off but most certainly to keep it going! Don't let him bamboozle you with guilt. If the two of you want to start over, well, that's a decision the both of you have to make but no way are you responsible to "prove" your love for him. Why didn't he PROVE his love for you by keeping in touch? Don't be a doormat..stick up for yourself.
2006-11-30 09:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by N0_white_flag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me this man you are talking about was understanding about the what you have done due to him not responding to your letters that ,was sent to him in the 1st place --So now that he is back and you understand that for what ever reason he stopped responding to your letters ,the both of you are back together .
So it is very understanding why you are still very hurt for what you did --But at the same time you thought in your own heart at the time it was over due to him not responding,right ? So you did what just about anyone else would have done thinking it was over on his part and started dating other people .I would say stop cunsuming your mind with what you did,the importent thing is you are both together ,you love him enough to have told him what happened and he is still there,loving you. So don't waist time troubling your mind with all this other and take all that energy you keep putting into all the things that don't matter and put the energy into some one in your life that dos matter to you,and shower him with all the love that you do have in your heart for him.
Maybe like ,nice walks hand and hand ,nice candle lite dinners at the house ,soft music as you run a bubble bath for 2 in the nice soft candle lit bath following a rub down .
You sound like a very sweet lady that is tuely sorry .,so stop letting this keep you down --When your mind gos back to it stop every thing and put your mind on good things in your life.
I hope this helps you
2006-11-30 09:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by jc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats gonna be hard to do! once you lose someones trust, chances are you dont get it back. what you should've done was write him a letter telling him how you feel and that since you dont hear from him your to assume he doesnt care and that you have no intentions of sitting around. by him not responding to your letters and to think he can just show up on your door step and pick up where he left off, dont you think thats a bit arrogant! dont know what to tell ya!
2006-11-30 09:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by Phaque tu" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud b well comitted n shud trust ur loved one wat u did was certainly wrong wat if d other person wud hav done d same wud u ever look back at him?ne ways good u realised it try n make him understand that he is a true part of ur life n make him remember abt ur experience wen u cud not talk 2 him as one sec. appears 2 b years n dat 2 without ne reply d lonliness dat u felt that pain if felt by him wud really make him understand dat although u did amistake but it was he only who was in d mind all d time n may b it works out neways"best of luck" 4 ur relationship may GOD giv u a lifelong n d one u want but dont repeat ur mistake ne time again ok bye n takecare
2006-11-30 09:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by jaspriya m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't call you at all? I wouldn't call that a relationship. How would you know if he wasn't doing the same thing you were? He could've hooked up with tons of girls. Just tell him you were unclear on his intentions with you. If he wants you, then he needs to be devoted to you. He should've called or wrote.
2006-11-30 09:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you have to prove your love to him if you weren't in contact with him for months and months. I've done alot of things to prove to guys that i've loved them at the time ..... none of them worked out in the end
2006-11-30 09:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure you did anything wrong. He pretty much abandoned you. You are giving him a second chance. I think he needs to prove to you that he won't just abandon you again.
2006-11-30 09:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are sorry, never do it again and time will tell. You can't really prove yourself any other way and if he ask you to then he is taking advantage of the situation.
2006-11-30 09:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by kyle g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋