how long do you think i should stop speaking to him for?
2006-11-30 01:03:57 · 33 answers · asked by milopoo2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bit childish really, i answered a question on here about premature ejaculation and he was not amused. i don't think i should have to ask his permission.i'm 34 for gods sake!
2006-11-30 01:10:19 · update #1
i don't think it hit a raw nerve,he has no problems in that department. i think that hes a bit old fashioned and thinks i shoulden't be answering such questions.he said you woulden't like it if it had been me,but i don't think i would have cared.we are all adults and we all know about stuff like that.
2006-11-30 01:21:26 · update #2
dont know how much does he really love you?i guess he deserves a break maybe he got the wrong end of the stick and thought it was aimed at him?best not to go to bed on a bad atmosphere better going to bed and let him go down on you to say sorry?
2006-11-30 05:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by DAVID C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I've just read your response to premature ejaculation and i don't see what's the problem....you weren't referring to him! So why has he taken offence?? if it is a problem in your relationship and you know he logs onto yahoo answers, maybe you should have left well alone.
Anyway to answer your question, state your position, listen to what he has to say, if you feel it is appropriate, say "i apologise if i have unknowingly offended you/hurt your feelings", if he is being unreasonable say the above and tell him that the ball is in his court. he can choose to accept your apology and move on or not accept your apology in which case you tell him that he can come to you when he's ready because you are only prepared to apologise once.
If you feel like you've done nothing wrong, tell him so and leave it at that. you may not speak for a few days but make sure you stand your ground. you shouldn't apologise for something you haven't done, if you do you will face a lifetime of apologising.
I had a bust up with my husband and we didn't speak for 1 week because we both felt the other was in the wrong. We spoke nicely to each other about our daughter when she was in the room(we didn't want her to know that mummy and daddy were arguing), other than that, it was complete silence. In the end we agreed to disagreed and "apologised if we had unknowingly hurt each other's feelings" and moved on (we've been married 8 years). Good luck!
2006-11-30 01:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by abi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what he did to anger you. Not speaking to someone after an altercation is not the way to settle anything. You would be better off if you both sat down and spoke about your issues with each other. If you are silent about everything how are you going to repair any flaws in the relationship? I suggest instead of being silent, have a heart to heart with this man.
2006-11-30 01:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you shouldn't have to ask permission and he is being rather childish, but then not talking to him is hardly a great way to deal with the situation.
Perhaps he reacted that way because it hit a nerve and it upset him. I can understand you being a annoyed but try to talk to him about it. Say his reaction upset you and talk about why he reacted like that.
Ignoring a situation (and him) can only make problems worse.
2006-11-30 01:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is probably sensitive about the issue.
Is he a premature ejaculator?
You certainly don't need his permission for anything.
Just have a nice meal and have a good night together... all 1 minute of it!
2006-11-30 01:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore him hun,it will make matters worse for you and him.You both should talk this out and tell him how you feel and why you feel the way you do.A marriage works both ways and if he doesn't know the problem how can you two work it out.Just tell him your situation and why you feel like this.Good luck and sorry to hear about your situation.
2006-11-30 01:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends what he has done wrong? It would be best to sit down and talk about the situation in a civil manner (very hard to do), life is short don't waste it making enemies.
2006-11-30 01:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Claire M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not speaking will only make it worse!! get it out in the open - have a shout and be friends again - life is too short - afterall the argument probably isn't that serious (or you would have left him!!!) tomorrow might never come - you should always make up before bed time
xxx
2006-11-30 01:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by Grace - baby No.2 due in October 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have already stopped speaking to him for too long. Assertively tell him what he did that upset you. Tell him how it made you feel. Finally, tell him what he can do to prevent the same situation from arising in the future.
2006-11-30 01:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the question was not about him then i don't see what the problem is....he has read it and assumed it was about him, tell him that it was not about him, just to clear the air, some men are sensitive to such subjects....let him stew for a day....then he should be OK...
2006-11-30 01:13:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋