I was very good friends with a girl, and I found out that she had said some really nasty things about me behind my back. I know that it is true because they are things that I only told her in confidence. She made me look like a real idiot, and I am embarassed about the things she said about me.
I want to confront her and tell her that it really hurt my feelings, and find out why she would do that, but I wonder if it is even worth my time. Obviously she doesn't value our friendship like I did. Is this just the type of person she is, and she will never change?
2006-11-30 00:46:09 · 20 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
no i hate that
thats how you know that is not your freind at all
if they ain't helping you and insted hurt you tell them to get the
FU(K out of my face
2006-11-30 00:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was obviously never a true friend. I had the same experience, and although I think I would have felt better by confronting her at the time, I decided that I had more class than her, and didn't. I wish I had though, as it would have got it off my chest. Now it is a year later, and too late.
I think it is a matter of your own personal preference. You can confront her in a calm and direct way and tell her exactly what you think of her. Give her the opportunity of defending herself even. And then, don't remain such close friends with her. You can remain acquaintances if you like, just don't share any more personal secrets with her. It will show her you are a much better person than she is, and may even make her feel like a tit!
2006-11-30 00:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obdviously doesn't valve your friendship. She isn't worth wasting your time on her. Just move on.
Just learn from this lesson becareful what you even tell your friends. Sometimes even the people closet to you will back stab you. People like that aren't wroth your time.
Life is too short.
2006-11-30 00:58:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will really be wasting your time if you confront her.
Just forget her she is an idiot.
You can deal with it in another way as well, you can just air her dirty laundry as well.
Up to you. But do not be friends with her anymore. She is not worth your time and energy.
2006-11-30 00:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like her are not friendship worthy. She WILL do it again if given the chance, unless you see a change and if she shows real sorrow over what she did. Otherwise - it sounds like she doesn't care. I wouldn't waste my time....unless you want her to do this again to you.
2006-11-30 00:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should confront her because she owes u an explanation but I would not b friends with such a person.
2006-11-30 00:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and talk to her and be honest with her asking her why she did that. and tell her that she hurted your feelings. next time you know not to tell her anything that you don't want others to find out. I don't think she did it on purpose, maybe she wasn't thinking and it just blurted out. you won't know until you speak to her about it. no one can tell you to stay friends with her or not. that is truely up to you. follow what your heart is saying. but i wouldn't trust her with anything personal again.
2006-11-30 00:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad but true! I think you said it yourself, she isn't worth it. I have been there myself and I know it really hurts. Please know it is definately her loss, I would say nothing and eventually she will figure it out. If she is any kind of real person she will shut up and leave you alone.
2006-11-30 00:52:15 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to confront her and find out why she spilled everything, then go from their and see if the friendship can be saved or even worth saving
2006-11-30 00:49:14 · answer #9 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they're speaking in the back of your decrease back yet they close up reason you sound like a ticking time bomb, you blew up on one among them, sounds like they may well be a touch scared one on one yet in straight forward words experience solid as a collection as many human beings do.
2016-10-08 00:15:05 · answer #10 · answered by minick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋