My best friend has been dating someone for about 2 months, and he bought her a ring and is planning to ask her within the next month. They are right in love, and they live together. Everything seems really perfect. They spend all of their time together. Is it a bad idea? What could happpen? Is there a chance that it will work out?
2006-11-30 00:41:04 · 30 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course there's a chance it will work out. Besides, engagement is not marriage. If they learn things about each other that force them apart, no big deal. I dated my wife for 6 months before we got engaged, but we were engaged for a year before we got married. We have now been married for 20 years.
2006-11-30 00:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that they are rushing into things at all.
Sure, to many people.. an engagement after just 2 months of dating, can seem like they're moving a bit fast. But at the same time, whether it's been 2 months, or 20 years.. if two people love each other, and are compatible, and have common interestes/goals/values then nothing else matters. It is not the amount of time that a couple is together, that determines how they'll make it in the long run.. what really matters is how they feel about each other, and how they treat each other.
If your friend is happy and in love.. I say, "Good for her!" Being in love is a truly wonderful thing. :)
2006-11-30 01:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by lovable_deb_81 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance it might work out. Just as there is a chance that when I roll the die, I might win at craps.
With only 2 months of knowledge, there is no way of ascertaining whether someone is the right life partner. Love (and lust) are not enough to make a marriage work. You must have shared values and interests, good communication, and so on for it to really work. There is no way that 2 months is long enough to know if a couple shares that. It's also not long enough to judge the outside factors in each other's lives and if you can live with that person's work and financial habits, their families and friends, and so on.
If a couple who has known each other for such a short time gets engaged, they should plan on a long engagement and not rush into marriage or they will prove the truth of the old saying: Marry in haste, repent at leisure.
2006-11-30 00:48:08 · answer #3 · answered by Karen L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Until it happened to me, I was a skeptic too about "love at first sight". When I met my husband I knew from the day I met him that I had found "The One". He is everything I ever wanted and more.
We moved in almost immediately and were talking marriage. We got married with 2.5 months of meeting. We have our ups and downs the same as any other cuple but I have never said to him nor has he said to me we should have waited.
When you find the right person you just know and time or man will never change your mind about things.
Things will work out if they work on the relationship just the same as if they had been together several years before they get married. It's about commitment; not time.
2006-11-30 01:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by snippers72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on how long they have known eachother too, if it's been a long time and they just started dating then that's cool, go for it but.....if they only met and have been dating for 2 months then yes it's too soon. There's no way that is a good idea. I have a guy friend whose the same way and they are always the ones who get stepped on in the end. He should wait at least 8 months and that's still jumping the gun. 2 months isn't long enough to really get to know a person, thier past, their goals, etc. All I have to say is good luck to him and you are completly screwed because if you say anything to him about it being a bad idea he's going to get pissed at you. Men, sometimes they are worse than women lol.
2006-11-30 00:45:27 · answer #5 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not necessarily a bad idea
for some people definitely - others no.
1 of my aunts married within 2 months & they were married for 40+ years until her death.
I had only known the man I married about 6 weeks when he asked me to move in with him- we got married 6months from our 1st date - the marriage did break down - but we were together for 24years
it really depends on the individuals concerned - you hear of people who have been living together/going out for a good number of years then once they get married part ways within a short space of time
then you also hear of couples like your friend who marry quickly & go on to have a long & happy relationship . so YES there is a chance the relationship will work out
just advise her to think things through & be absolutely sure ; at the same time wishing her every happiness
2006-11-30 00:59:54 · answer #6 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could work. But, most likely it won't. I don't think it will work because I know someone who dated a man for 1 year and married him. Yes, everything was so wonderful and perfect during that time. Months after they were married, the husband and his family started to change and show their true colors. They have now been married for 3 years and the wife is still finding things out about her spouse. I guess you never really know anyone. Your friend should not marry that man yet. She needs to take some time to get to know him better. I wish her well.
2006-11-30 01:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lengthy engagement isn't uncommon. Just because they get engaged at the 2 month mark doesn't mean they have to rush and get married. They can get married 2 years from now after they have saved a little nest egg. Engagements can be broken. The relationship has progressed quickly and living together often lowers the odds of success but all you can do is be supportive of your friend. It is HER decision and choice.
2006-11-30 00:55:36 · answer #8 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, What i think is that.. You dont know someone enough in 2 months. If they get married in the next month or so i will bet anything that they will get a divorce within 6 months. But if they really LOVE each other then maybe it i will work out. But it will most likely fail.
2006-11-30 00:46:15 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica marie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Studies have shown that the romance in relationships(The weak knees, butterflies in stomach, etc) only lasts for 12 to 18 months in a relationship, afterwards it is up to the couple to keep the spark alive.
Yes, it is too soon to get married. They are inlove now and yes, it seems perfect, but the romance doesn't last, the excitement doesn't last. They are living in a fantasy world and they should wake up!Sorry, dont mean to be a downer, but hey, that's my point of view.
2006-11-30 00:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jade22 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋